Do children have to learn pinyin before going to school? How many words do you need to know? To what extent should English be learned? What stage do you want to learn math? How to adapt to the first grade? How is the third grade too much? How to sprint in fourth grade? How to prepare for grade five? How to break through the sixth grade? It seems that both children and us have to face a series of challenges and competitions. There is always an illusion that children can't learn everything, and that there are so many Niu Wa in the world. If their Puwa stands with these Niu Wa, will they really be unable to find the east, west, north and south? In this era of accelerated publicity in advance, it seems easy to get yourself involved in this audio or silent educational arms race. You, me and him are all part of this, and you can't escape.
Teacher Mei's book is a classic of her parenting, and the children at home are really "other people's children" and Niuwa. But Miss Mei didn't have so much anxiety in the process of educating them. She just keeps learning and correcting. The eldest daughter is a gifted child, and her studies are going well, while the younger son has given her more educational opportunities. I don't have much complaints about my youngest son's penultimate Chinese achievement. I study with my children, spend more than 0/000 days and nights with them, and read all kinds of books. The children began to behave well in the fourth grade of primary school. In the face of her youngest son's decline in grade one and his addiction to games, she also had impatience, but after studying video games seriously, she learned to let go and let her youngest son operate independently, which influenced and changed her youngest son subtly. After reading the whole book, I have an intuition that there should be no children in the world who don't like such mothers. So, since there is such an excellent mother to set an example for us, let's learn more from Miss Mei. Maybe we can't train excellent students in Peking University like Miss Mei, nor can we educate "three good" students in Beijing like her, but I believe we can learn from her what an excellent mother looks like, at least let the children like themselves from the heart.
Teacher Mei believes that nature, reading and sports have a profound influence on children. Nature can cultivate children's aesthetic ability, reading can enhance children's spiritual strength, and exercise can make children self-disciplined and free. Take children to nature to feel the magic and beauty of nature. Spend more time with children and dabble in humanities, geography, history, science and philosophy. Open the door to children's reading as soon as possible. Let children exercise more, let them run, let them work and let them enjoy the vitality of life.
I have a deep understanding of taking children to nature. One year in the early spring, I took my daughter in her early 4th year to play in the park. It was sunny and breezy that day. When the wind blew over my face, I could still feel a little coolness. I said to the child, "honey, close your eyes and feel it." The child closed his eyes and told me, "Mom, I feel the wind. The wind is blowing from my face." I told her it was really the wind, but you could feel it without seeing it. Then the child opened his eyes and looked at the leaves floating in the wind on the tall tree. She said, "Mom, I can see the wind. Look, those leaves are moving, and the wind makes them move. " Nature is magical, and so is the world of children. She can really feel it. She sat on the lawn and stared blankly at the big tree. After a few minutes, she said to me, "Mom, the leaves are dancing happily in the wind, but the trunk is motionless in the wind." Almost two years have passed now, and I still remember what she said. At that time, I thought it was incredible that the child could say parallelism. After reading this book, I am even more convinced that I should take my children to nature, take her to climb mountains, take her to see river valleys, and take her to enjoy the different scenery at home in four seasons. Nature is really a good book to educate children.
About reading, I want to say that we all know that reading is very important. When my eldest daughter was 5 years old, I also started reading. I took her to see the picture book. Every night, she spends the fastest time reading picture books with me. Later, she began to read short children's miniature fairy tales. Up to now, she prefers the long books of Journey to the West. Reading seems to be the easiest thing to do, but it is the most difficult thing to do well, because it needs to be done day after day and year after year, and it needs to become a routine. I take my eldest daughter to study, ask each other questions, and then discuss the contents of the book. My youngest daughter may be influenced by the atmosphere at home. Now 2 years old, she will choose her favorite books from the picture book shelf and wait behind her sister for me to read them to her. ?
On the way to study, I also made several mistakes. When children can read by themselves, I think about being lazy, but the result is that the parent-child relationship is alienated. Later, I learned that the child asked me to read, so she accompanied me. In a few years, I want to study with her, and she may not even want to listen. Another mistake is to distribute books to children. Children like to listen to story books, but they are not very interested in the magic school bus, a book with some popular science properties. I looked through it and never picked it up. For a while, I would read her a magic school bus first, and then read other books. Now I think it may ruin her wonderful experience of books. In this process, she should be more interested in reading and have more patience, respect and other guidance.
There is another serious mistake. I actually took up her reading time for the sake of mathematics enlightenment. For a while, I gave her a math exercise book, which made it more difficult. At first, she didn't get used to it, especially the Sudoku puzzle can take her nearly an hour, so when she finishes math, it will be close to 9 o'clock, and she will be ready for bed without reading. Later, I seriously thought that this arrangement was unreasonable. Although the child did not explicitly refuse, I could feel that she was unhappy. She used to do some math thinking questions and had a lot of time to study with me. When I came home from work to study with her, she enjoyed this life. But during that time, she spent too much time on math and less time on reading. After reflection, I decisively reduced the amount of math, and arranged other things after ensuring reading time for more than one hour, which made her happy again. ?
About sports, what I want to say is to go out and exercise more for the sake of good health. When I was a child, I never stopped, either helping my parents with housework or running around the yard with my friends. I'm glad that the health I raised in my hometown in the countryside rarely caught a cold, and I really got a little worse when I survived dystocia. Nowadays, children don't have much room for activities, but I still like to take them out for a walk and jump. Although my daughters are not extroverted and introverted, they really like to run around downstairs from the heart. Compared with the amount of exercise I did when I was a child, their amount of exercise was too small. It was really a problem that they were tired after walking for half an hour.
Miss Mei doesn't talk about any educational skills in the whole book, but she always asks her parents. Ask parents to grow up and reflect. What parents need to do is to provide a piece of soil for the growth of children's internal drive, provide a piece of pure land, and not interfere with children's interest, even if children are in a daze, even if children are daydreaming. Teacher Mei advocates that parents should do everything possible to protect the flame of children's interest, and teach children to study deeply, overcome difficulties and experience the fun of learning from interest.
Regarding the study of educational thoughts, Miss Mei advocates learning more and discovering more things that others can learn from. When learning parenting methods, we don't need to delve into a dead end, as long as we see the meaningful and helpful side of that discussion, as long as that method can bring us inspiration and progress. Because education is individual, no matter which educational idea or method has its limitations. This is actually a misunderstanding I entered before. Now there are many educational ideas, such as emotional education, general education, natural education and so on. After learning, I feel very reasonable, but I feel that these methods and ideas will be contradictory and conflicting. Teacher Mei's point of view is very pertinent, yes, why bother to use what kind of ideas and methods? We have learned some enlightening ideas, which is good.
Wake up the child's inner drive and make him believe that he has the power to change for the better. Explore more and summarize more, and you will find a way that suits you and your children. No longer obsessed with literacy, grades, interest classes, and various competitions, but give children a space to grow up, wait hard, provide sunshine and rain, and wait for this flower to bloom from the inside out. How beautiful!