Some of them are caused by children's own personality characteristics and influenced by family environment. If the family is also slow-tempered, sloppy and procrastinating, it will also affect the child's dullness in all aspects. Some children are slow-thinking, doing things half a beat slower than others, and can't get up quickly. When you meet this kind of child, you should first face up to it and don't abuse the child with words like "stupid". First, family members should set an example, change the habit of doing things slowly in the past, develop the habit of doing things resolutely and cleanly, and let "fast" be used in daily life. For example, doing housework with children, the competition is to see who finishes first or within the specified time, such as washing clothes, dressing and folding quilts. Over time, the child's chronic temper will change. If you drag it to study, you can get up quickly. Second, through game activities, we can make a training plan to promote children's reaction speed and quick thinking. For example, write 30 simple addition and subtraction questions on paper every day, and calculate the time with a stopwatch to see who can accurately complete the calculation in the shortest time. This is a calculation; Copying a long list of numbers in the competition to see who can finish it fastest is writing; Parents write down several groups of numbers or letters at will and ask them to use the same numbers or letters quickly and continuously. For example: 256552889556877595922, write "55" with strokes, or find a book, and compete to see who finds a word with high frequency in an article, that is, looking for it; Playing solitaire, the sooner the better, means. This kind of calculation, writing, finding and speaking training can be designed by parents and practiced for half an hour every day. Seek speed on the basis of quality, the sooner the better. Be sure to stick to it for a month or two, and never give up halfway.
It is an important problem to cultivate good study habits of primary school students, and the key period to solve this problem is in the first and second grades of primary school. You can use the "behavior contract method":
First, list the work habits that both sides think are important. For example: 1, concentrate on doing nothing else; 2. Don't leave your desk to do other things; 3. Complete the homework within the specified time; 4. The handwriting is neat and beautiful.
Second, list the behaviors that both sides think are well done. For example, parents think that children's "homework completion behavior" is: 1, and homework is more serious; 2. The handwriting is neat. Children think that parents support their children to finish their homework well: 1, and they will praise me if they do well; 2. Finish your homework on time and play with me for a while; 3. Give me a red five-star.
Three. List the business behavior problems that both parties think can be improved. For example, parents think that the behavior that children can improve is "1, and concentrate on doing nothing else; 2. Complete the homework within the specified time; 3. The handwriting is neat and beautiful; 4. Speed up your writing. The behaviors that children think parents can improve are: 1, don't nag when I do my homework; 2. Don't just barge into my room; Don't scold me if my writing is not good or fast.
Four, the two sides agreed to find out the most need to improve the behavior habits as "target behavior" (also known as "target behavior"), including the target behavior that parents should improve and the target behavior that children should improve. Note: The description of the target behavior must be specific and quantitative. For example, after coming home from school, open your schoolbag within 10 minutes, and then prepare your study tools, books and exercise books in 5 minutes and start writing your homework; 2. Mom and Dad should not nag 1 time when their children are doing their homework.
Fifth, make a meaningful and fair reinforcement list, and let the children choose to strengthen themselves. For example: 1, you can watch cartoons on the same day; 2. Mom can read you a story at night; 3. You can get some pocket money; 4. Mom replaces nagging and criticism with praise; 5. Go for a walk outside at night.
Six, write a clear "behavior contract", all with positive terms, parents and children signed together. The execution time of the contract should have a clear stage, such as one week or two weeks, and the starting and ending time should be clearly written.
Parents pay attention and praise to children when they realize contractual behavior, but be careful not to go too far. At the same time, use forms to record children's daily behaviors, summarize them every three days and make a general comment once a week.
Eight, when the child completes a good behavior, immediately cash in reinforcement. Parents should also ask their children to evaluate and praise when they complete the improved behavior.
After nine or two weeks, if the first target behavior has been consolidated, a new behavior contract can be formulated and a new target behavior can be determined. For example, the time to finish homework has been shortened from 2 hours to 1.5 hours. Note: Step by step, gradually improve the behavior requirements.