-Many parents may encounter the problem that their children are too slow to finish their homework on time. Very headache, procrastination, endless.
Even if you sit next to him, stare at the child and guide him to write stroke by stroke, the child may not be able to change the problem of procrastination in homework. What's going on here? This is because many parents have not found the real reason for their children's slow homework. It may be because their children are poorly organized-unable to learn, or have a poor learning foundation-have no interest in learning, have difficulties in learning, or have a poor sense of time-and can't manage time. Parents must find the reason, prescribe the right medicine and change their children's procrastination in homework.
First, poor organizational skills-there is no order in doing problems, always looking for things, looking for an eraser for a while, looking for a pencil for a while, what should have been completed in an hour, it will take him two hours or even longer. There are still a few Chinese problems to write for a while, and then math problems to do for a while, in the wrong order.
When the teacher corrects the homework, he also finds that these students often do their homework at sixes and sevens, and they don't write the questions, so they often make mistakes or miss some questions. Solution: First of all, parents should tell their children to be prepared before doing homework. The order of stationery and homework needs to be arranged by children themselves.
Without organization, there is no problem of making plans. Parents should educate their children from an early age to develop a good habit of preparing in advance to prevent their children from being flustered.
If you really want to cure the problem, you should ask your children in all aspects of life and study, let them walk slowly in all aspects, let them learn to take care of themselves and arrange their lives and studies, parents should not be too diligent to stop helping their children, learn to be a lazy mother, and even let their children help their parents do some housework properly, so that their children will become more and more organized. Second, excessive pursuit of perfection-rubber syndrome is the same as children, everything is good, homework is written neatly, and the results are excellent.
There is a problem. I am slow in doing my homework. If my handwriting is a little irregular or unclean, I will immediately erase it and rewrite it, and sometimes even scratch my notebook, just like obsessive-compulsive disorder. Solution: The phenomenon of using rubber all the time and constantly erasing it is called "rubber syndrome" in psychology.
The reason is that children are under great learning pressure, anxious, afraid of making mistakes, demanding themselves or parents demanding their children. For children with rubber syndrome, parents should not blame them too much, but should use incentives to carry out intensive training to achieve their goals.
When children do their homework at home, try to use rubber as little as possible. If their exercise books are kept clean and they write words quickly and accurately within a certain period of time, they will be rewarded. If children can't live without erasers, parents had better confiscate them. After a period of intensive training, children's bad habit of attaching to rubber will be gradually corrected.
Third, poor learning foundation-not interested in learning, poor homework foundation. Many of the knowledge points the teacher talked about in class have not been digested and absorbed, so it is naturally difficult to do homework at home. A person is doing his own headache, of course, he can't take the initiative, of course, he can delay! Solution: To know what the child has not mastered well, parents can tutor their children themselves, or tell the teacher to let the children digest new knowledge points in time.
The foundation must be laid from an early age, so parents must keep an eye on their children's homework and study during primary school. When children develop good study habits, parents don't have to worry about natural study. Do everything possible to make learning interesting. Everyone is like this, and they are willing to do what they like and are interested in quickly. For boring things, things that are not so interesting can be postponed.
Therefore, parents should try their best to arouse their children's interest in homework. Fourth, inattention-irrelevant actions are mostly due to always looking around when doing homework, muddling along, playing with erasers for a while, eating pencils for a while, or biting your fingers, getting up and walking after writing for a while, and feeling outside.
Does your child have this problem? Solution: Parents can ask such children to do their homework in sections. After school, ask children how much homework they always have. Take 20 minutes as a section. Have a rest after finishing your homework for 20 minutes.
This makes it easier for children to concentrate on finishing their homework. Provide a quiet learning environment for children.
Children's learning places should be simple and tidy, especially desks. Don't pile up toys and other things that will distract children. Let the children prepare all the stationery they need before studying, and avoid looking for things in the process of doing homework.
Fifth, poor coordination-sensory imbalance Some children can answer questions correctly if they have enough patience, but they can't be too anxious, can't force him, and can only wait patiently. Every time I finish my homework, because I think faster but express and write slowly, I often make mistakes, omissions, jumps and even strings, so I have to erase it again, sometimes I erase it, erase it and write again, and I often scratch my notebook.
The child himself is very anxious and angry. Another reason that affects children's muddling along is their physiology.
Children who don't climb when they should climb may have poor coordination and balance in the future, don't cry when they should cry, have insufficient oral muscle exercise, weak cardiopulmonary function and even poor language expression ability. Solution: Such children need to do some special sensory training! No matter whether the child has sensory impairment or not, careful parents can find the child as long as they have the heart.
If you find that your child is really not due to attitude problems or insufficient subjective efforts, you can take your child for an examination to see if you feel that your system is out of order! If there is, as long as you insist on doing sensory training for a period of time, your child will get better! -Content reprinted from Growth Research.
The children are doing their homework. What should I do? When this problem occurs, most parents are a little impatient and even a little angry, so:
The first thing parents should do is to calm their children's anger and let them communicate normally without emotion;
Analyze whether doing homework is slow because you can't do it or not, or because of external environmental problems. Understand clearly and then prescribe the right medicine;
(3) Reach a * * understanding with the child about doing homework, and allow him to go out for a holiday if he finishes his homework within the specified time.
Before you know your family, analyze another situation:
Even if the homework assigned by the school teacher is finished, will you still have homework? Still doing homework? Or attend any training classes. Interest classes, etc. This will also slow down the child's homework because he knows that even if he finishes what he is doing, there are still many things waiting for him to do.
3. What should I do if my child's homework drags on? Why is it in the "I will comment" column? Then answer it again in the "Let me answer" section: reposting a post by Teacher Deng Xia may be useful to you! Teacher Deng Xia gives you advice: solve the problem of children's homework. Children have no sovereignty, no space and no conscious behavior.
Parents must not engage in the policy of marking people and pressing the whole court when playing basketball. Children are either groggy and lazy, or find a set of "idle" countermeasures.
Case: One child's name is Song Song, and the other child's name is A Zhi. She is in Grade One this year. The parents of the two children came to me almost at the same time and asked the same question: "The children are particularly procrastinating in their homework. There is not much homework at all, and it is very simple. They have to write until eight or nine o'clock, write for a while, and then drink water, otherwise the pen will be broken and the eraser will be gone. "
Ask me to help them. Let me ask them a question first: 1. Does the child write slowly? Answer: No.
2. Have you finished your homework? Are there any other extracurricular exercises that you can supplement? Answer: Yes. Do you think it's too early to go to bed, so you waste your time without doing some homework? Answer: Yes.
So I told the same story to Songsong's mother and A Zhi's mother. It was eight years ago that I entered a new class in Grade Five. Soon after school started, Sui Zhengyang's mother came to me for advice, and the problem was exactly the same as that of Songsong's mother.
Sui Zhengyang's homework is written until nine o'clock every day. You can't add anything you want. Homework is always dawdling, and it is not as fast as before.
I asked her, besides letting the children finish their homework, what else do you want to add to the children? She said that she bought many exercises, such as "one exercise per class" and "unit test" in math, Chinese and English. After listening to Sui Zhengyang's mother, I understood the cause of the problem.
I asked her again, what does Sui Zhengyang like best? She said that she especially likes keeping bugs and animals. This family is completely out of order.
I tried to throw those bottles out, but he refused. Once the silkworm chrysalis turned into a moth, which scared me to death. So, I gave Sui Zhengyang's mother an idea: before the child does his homework, tell him to finish it within the specified time, and then do 20 minutes of extracurricular exercises, so that he can do whatever he wants.
Later, I found Sui Zhengyang and asked him why he was writing so late. Sui Zhengyang plausibly said: "There is not much homework at all, and my mother is pushing her luck." "What do you mean, push your luck?" "I finished my homework ahead of time. As soon as she saw that it was only a little after 7 o'clock, she arranged 20 formula questions. I thought I could play after I finished 20 questions. As soon as she saw that it was not 8 o'clock, she asked me to dictate it again. Anyway, before 9 o'clock, she will write this and that for a while. Later, I found that if she couldn't finish the homework assigned by the teacher, she was very anxious and waited until 9 o'clock.
Later, Sui Zhengyang's mother did an experiment as I said. The children are happy and the adults are relaxed. Sui Zhengyang also participated in the school's science and technology group, and the investigation report on insects was also published in Red Bud magazine.
Some parents often say, "Teacher, this child is unconscious. It's better if you handle it. If you don't care, don't learn. " Every child is ambitious and lazy. The contradiction between ambition and laziness is the song of children's growth.
Parents should not be too enthusiastic. They should learn to sit tight. 1. Let the children choose the time to do their homework.
For example, parents are very happy when their children come home from school to do their homework. If children eat and drink as soon as they get home, parents will be furious when they turn on the TV or go out to play for a while. In fact, these are not issues of principle. Some children are not practical until they finish their homework. Some children are willing to relax for a while first, so that the tired brain can relax because of fatigue.
Here, parents should remind their children, "If you compare carefully, how to arrange it is more suitable for you. The premise is to complete the homework with quality and quantity. "
The goal of learning is determined through consultation with children. Parents should not set learning goals for their children: you must take a double hundred exams, or you must get more than 95 points.
According to the actual situation of the child, we should work with the child to formulate learning goals that are in line with the actual situation of the child. In this way, he will gradually develop consciousness instead of thinking that he is studying for his parents and "working" for them.
Once you set a goal, don't be dissatisfied. 3. Give children real free time.
Find a way to give your child some time completely at his own disposal every day. Some parents give their children free time, but seeing that what their children do is not pleasing to the eye and not allowed is actually equivalent to taking back their free time.
For example, parents are anxious when their children watch cartoons, do manual labor or play with toys in their own time. They are so old and naive that they might as well read some books. The cultivation of self-awareness does not happen overnight. Giving children sovereignty and space does not mean giving up. If parents want to master this situation, they must keep learning and reflecting.
Deng Xia from Jiayuguan School in Qingdao.
4. What should I do if my child's homework dawdles? 1. Parents should change their parenting style.
Parents should insist on starting from "me", change their parenting style and gradually withdraw from the role of "arranging instead". Let children know what they want to do, learn to do their own things and be their own masters, so as to constantly cultivate their sense of responsibility and enthusiasm for doing things and encourage them to be their own masters.
Patiently teach children the skills of doing things and give them the opportunity to exercise. Children are also eager to grow up and look forward to growing up, so please give them time to grow up! Both learning skills and doing skills are gradually learned and mastered in life. In the process of children's "growth", please ask parents to be more understanding and tolerant, and don't give children too many tasks or pressures; Give more guidance and guidance to children, and don't give them too much blame and complaints; Give children more opportunities and encouragement to exercise, so that children can learn skills in practice and improve efficiency.
I hope parents will not give their children "homework". Children's homework is completed on time and with good quality, and the rest of the time is arranged by children themselves.
Otherwise, the child will start to be slow consciously, and gradually form a habit over time, which will really become a bad habit of muddling along. Of course, if parents can reach an understanding with their children, in addition to school work, children can also actively increase knowledge learning, so that children will not have such procrastination! 2. Learn to master the correct and effective learning methods. Children can't fully master the knowledge in the classroom. One of the main reasons is that they don't have the correct learning methods and don't know the skills of attending classes.
If children have the right learning methods and know how to actively listen in class, then they should first prepare before class and interact with teachers if they don't understand. There is eye contact between teachers and students, which can not only hear the key contents of the teacher's class, but also record the key points. Therefore, listening attentively can basically absorb 80% of the content of the teacher's class. Go home after class and review the textbooks a little, and you can achieve 100% learning effect.
Knowledge is completely absorbed and digested, and everyone understands and understands when doing homework. The operation speed is fast and the accuracy is greatly improved. Success again and again makes children full of sense of accomplishment and confidence in learning, thus breaking the conditioned reflex of "homework-painful experience", and homework will not linger. 3. Stimulate children's interest. We often encounter such a situation. If you punish a child who doesn't finish his homework, you might as well reward him when he finishes his homework.
When an assignment seems too much, divide it into several parts and give rewards according to each part. Whenever a child successfully completes a part, you give him a reward.
For example, make an agreement with your child that if he finishes one-third of his homework, he can have a little thing he likes or a free time. If he finishes half his homework, he can be allowed to watch TV for half an hour or eat an ice cream, which will motivate him to study hard.
If he can finish all his homework on time and hand it over to the teacher, he can get more rewards, such as some things, small toys or playing chess with his parents. In this way, you can make sure that you always offer rewards.
Encourage your child if he can finish his homework and tell him clearly what you want him to do. However, if the child makes small progress, parents should give him a reward, and when he can't, a small punishment is also necessary.
Parents should constantly praise their children's achievements and criticize them less. When children can finish difficult homework on time, praise: "Today is really serious!" " "With such praise, children will go back to do their homework more actively the next day.
4. Cultivate children's concept of time and make a timetable. According to the daily schedule and emergency rescue, make a practical schedule with your child.
In this way, children are familiar with their day's study and life in the process of making a timetable, the relationship between them is more standardized, and the concept of time is further enhanced. Formulation is only the first step of the "25,000-mile long March", and more importantly, "strict implementation" and perseverance.
Some children put off their homework until ten o'clock in the evening, which reduced their sleep time, resulting in no spirit in class the next day and reduced their learning efficiency. Repeatedly, causing a vicious circle.
At this time, I think we can set a final time for children to finish an assignment. In order to ensure children's ten-hour sleep time, many parents stipulate that their children go to bed at nine o'clock.
So at nine o'clock in the evening, before the child's homework is finished, he will stop and let the child sleep. If the homework is not finished, it will be criticized by the teacher.
Children will finish it quickly in the future. This is a cruel trick. Parents should analyze their children's homework in detail. Sometimes the homework assigned by the teacher exceeds the standard, so this method can't be used.
Don't use this trick unless you have to. 5. Encourage children and cultivate self-confidence. Parents should pay attention to language when evaluating their children, and talk less about "slowness" to avoid children's "broken pots and broken falls" and think that they are slow, so they are not so confident in doing things.
Parents should face up to their children's abilities and gradually ask for learning. Don't punish children blindly when their grades drop. It is necessary to strengthen counseling appropriately, cultivate their interest in learning, encourage them to overcome their learning difficulties and gradually improve their academic performance. Seeing the children's little progress every day, parents should seize the opportunity to praise and encourage their children to think that "fast" is happy and can be praised; At the same time, I also know that I can get up quickly and give my child a positive psychological hint.
Children's procrastination in homework is mainly due to the lack of correct learning methods and the inability to fully digest and absorb the knowledge imparted by teachers in class. In the face of children's procrastination, parents should also ask their children not to directly blame them, give them a chance, trust them, help them find the real reason for their procrastination in their homework, work hard with them, find the right learning method, review their homework with textbooks every day after returning home, and do their homework after 65,438+000% master the knowledge in class.