Have parents seen their children's report cards?
What's your first reaction after reading it? It is to give the child a thumbs-up and praise "you are great"; Or tell your child to work hard in the future?
A mother shared a report card, and her first reaction was: I have no strength as a mother!
Mom said:
My son is in the second grade this year, and he did well in the first grade, and he can get 30 to 40 points. After the epidemic, he let his guard down.
I also attach great importance to children's study at ordinary times. I will teach him to read and write, but once he takes the exam, he really can't.
Read his report card this time, 32 points? ! I fell to the bottom in an instant, and I really didn't have any strength.
The comments of netizens are even more jokes of contracting for one day!
"Children still have a lot of room for improvement, and there is not much room for decline, which has bottomed out."
"I often hear that three points are doomed, seven points depend on hard work, and children's scores are doomed."
"I feel much more comfortable when I see this."
"Children have too many partiality, partiality, ha ..."
In addition to the well-meaning ridicule of netizens, some parents also discussed: Is it important for children's grades or happiness?
But then again, if the child's grades are not bad, this view is also easy to accept.
However, if the child really got the last place in the exam, what is his attitude?
Let's ask two mothers to give their "award-winning" speeches.
A mother said:
My child is in the third grade this year, and his grade is the whole grade, right, not the whole class, but the last one in the whole grade.
The last few courses add up to less than 60 points. Yes, I haven't passed yet! ! !
To tell you the truth, I am quite disappointed with my child's grades.
I don't expect much from him either. I don't ask him how good his grades are. I can get an average exam. The problem is that children can't do it with such low requirements.
I believe this mother's words speak for many parents.
Another mother said:
My attitude towards the child who came last in the exam is that he is ashamed and angry.
"Shame" is because my father and I both graduated from key universities. In the school where the children are located, we are regarded as Kochi.
As a result, children always come last in exams. Isn't this a slap in the face?
"Angry" is because I have always attached importance to children's education. There are more books in our house than wall tiles. Since the child was 2 years old, he has been taking his children to study, doing interesting experiments, visiting art galleries, attending concerts ... and even quarreling with his father in English.
When a child comes last in the exam, it feels like betting all his savings on a new stock. I expected it to rise steadily, but it fell on you. You doubt life!
The two mothers truly spoke out the helplessness of many parents.
1. First of all, don't worry.
Lin Qingxuan told an interesting story in At the Beginning of the Valley.
Said a mother found him and complained that she was worried about her children's grades.
Lin Qingxuan said: Children should worry about their lessons.
Mom said: My child got the 40th place in the class, and there are 40 students in the class.
Lin Qingxuan joked that if I were you, I would be happy. Because from today on, your child will not regress. Just like climbing a mountain. His only way is to go up. As long as you stay with him, he will definitely come out.
Therefore, when children take the "countdown" exam in class, parents should first deal with their emotions, so as to have enough motivation to support their children.
2, the enlightenment stage is not enlightened?
After dealing with emotions, summarize and analyze whether there is no enlightenment in the "enlightenment stage" of children. For example, a very simple question can't be worked out because he can't understand it.
I remember when I was in the first grade, I didn't understand simple math problems.
There is a math fill-in-the-blank problem: 1 sickle +2 sickle = () sickle.
The sickle in the textbook was replaced by a stick figure. I was confused when I read the topic, and I couldn't understand it.
However, after this enlightenment stage, my mind seems to be enlightened and my grades are getting better and better.
3. Don't hurt your child's self-esteem and interest in learning.
This is very important.
When some parents see their children's achievements, the first sentence is: "How did you take the exam? How did you get it? "
Some compare children with other children: "You see who is who, and people are better than you when they test with their toes."
That's what some people do ...
These practices will not only hurt children's self-esteem, but also help to cultivate their interest in learning.
Imagine: a child has no self-esteem and is not interested in learning. Even if he gets good grades, is it hard for him to be happy?