In the play, Wang's mother wakes up, is an elite in the workplace, and her husband is gentle and considerate with high emotional intelligence. They are model couples in the play, but they still face all kinds of confusion and confusion in their children's education.
He Jinghua played by Hook is a family with two marriages. The couple are faced with various difficulties such as different parenting concepts, too much interference from the previous generation, and difficult education for the second child.
Shen Xiaoyan, a bottom-level migrant worker played by Tao Xinran, divorced her husband. In order to take care of her son and the school district, she tried to continue living under the same roof as her ex-husband. Her ex-husband is unreliable, and Shen Xiaoyan is bent on giving her son better conditions.
And the popularity has soared, which seems to be the driving force of the play. Yi Ru plays Gu Jiawei and plays the Lin couple. The couple were nicknamed "perfect match" by netizens.
The couple actually exist as "typical examples of negative teaching materials". I don't know whether it is to please the audience or the actors are too lovable, but the daily life and quotations of this vain couple can always make people laugh and even feel a little "silly and cute".
Let's take a brief look at Gu Jiawei's Wei Weiyan Yu:
"You should learn more from me, you can't let go of a flaw, and the learning requirements for Yueyue are the same."
"Are you questioning my judgment? Are you questioning your husband's ability? "
"With my social connections, she will definitely go to a good school."
"In our dictionary, there is no second place, only first place."
"Next time there is such a thing, don't blame me for lowering your quota. Down to a thousand dollars, no, a hundred. "
"Every penny I earn is to be spent on the cutting edge, to be seen by others and to create greater value, but I can't spend it behind closed doors."
"You just think that the new moon will not infect other children. Why don't you think that delaying the course will affect our first place in the new month exam? Survival of the fittest is a natural law. "
On the surface, it is a social elite with a successful career, a proper male host and a beautiful female host, but in fact this family is the most tired and problematic one in the whole play.
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Gu Jiawei declared that "I am responsible for making money to support my family and my wife is responsible for being beautiful". At home, she is like an emperor, to the letter. There is always an unquestionable tone of "must" and "only allowed" for children and wives. While enjoying the five-star service brought by his wife's housework, belittling his wife will not make money.
I bought all kinds of famous brands for my wife, but only according to my own wishes, and never asked my wife's preferences and opinions.
Only allow your children to take the first test, and never allow them to take the second test. You can learn English when you are 2 years old, and you can develop all-round in piano, dance, French, logical thinking, mathematics, comprehensive test and so on. You can't make any mistakes.
Of the four families in the play, Gu Jiawei is the most nagging father: nagging his wife that she can't do anything, nagging her about spending money indiscriminately, nagging her that she has enough social status and connections, but as he himself said, he is also very tired.
Living in a luxury villa, you have to wipe the bird droppings on the car yourself; Nuoda's house does not need a nanny, and it can only be cleaned by his wife at home every day; Office decoration is the most luxurious specification, but I hide in it to eat instant noodles. Gu Jiawei tried his best to maintain his "successful" image in the eyes of outsiders.
But his vanity seems to be "reasonable" again. He opposed his wife throwing overnight dishes, bluntly saying that the prosperity of a family depends on diligence, but children can eat overnight dishes but not.
In order to buy a designer bag for my wife, I stood in line for two hours and almost missed my plane for two hours.
The couple are in conflict. The wife ran away from home, complaining that she had no quality, but "tactfully" turned on the positioning function of the mobile phone to find her position, and prepared a self-help pot for her then. ...
It is these seemingly contradictory details that make this little guy who is bent on pretending to be a successful person in the upper class and extremely male chauvinistic seem less annoying.
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As Gu's wife, Lin is an enviable full-time wife in the eyes of outsiders. But as soon as she appeared, she knelt on the ground and scrubbed the floor hard. Everything her husband says is sacred, and it is her only goal to cultivate her daughter into an elite.
Interestingly, the couple in the play share a common enemy's faint hostility to the awakening of working mothers.
The first time we met, I woke up. I didn't like Gu Jiawei's prejudice and self-righteousness towards working mothers. I retorted, "So your success is at the expense of your wife's career". On the one hand, Gu Jiawei has to admit the talent of awakening, on the other hand, he can't hide the pride and self-confidence of awakening from his bones. Because he is used to women's humility and softness in front of men.
But Lin is also hostile to awakening. I mocked the working mother's irresponsibility to her children face to face, and dug up the high-quality nanny Aunt Yang who woke up wholeheartedly. Because an unintentional "squatting at home" woke me up.
I think it stems from her inner self-confidence in the self-worth of stay-at-home mothers. She is particularly afraid that her husband will admit his waking work and earning ability. Stay-at-home mothers are more afraid that the value of taking care of their families and children will not be recognized, and they want to see jokes about parenting accidents of working mothers, constantly emphasizing that working mothers are "irresponsible and unworthy to be mothers".
However, with the escalation of Li Jiawei's pressure on the mother and daughter, Lin finally broke out, expressed his long-standing dissatisfaction and ran away from home.
However, her first run away from home was more like a farce. Because she has nowhere to go and no home. Looking through the address book, there are very few contacts. I called my mother, and she only advised her not to quarrel with her husband and let him coax everything. After all, he is a man who makes money at home. Don't you have everything if you make him happy?
Lin wants to cry: What do you have? Walking out of the house is nothing.
Lin's tragedy will break out sooner or later, and according to the plot design, he will surely wake up and confront Gu Jiawei. We will wait and see.
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In fact, the division and confrontation between Lin and Gu Jiawei has become a foregone conclusion, otherwise the drama Growing Up with You will lose the significance of parenting. Because of these four families, the hardest hit child is their daughter Gu Lin Xinyue.
A child who lives in a high-pressure environment since childhood and is told by his parents that he can only succeed but not fail may surpass other children in skills through temporary intensive training, but crazy brushing and cramming education also make this child lose his self and spirituality.
Although Gu Jiawei spent a lot of money to find a relationship and reported to the best children's institution, Xinyue always had its own shortcomings.
On the other hand, under the happy education of his father, Wang is willing to innovate and full of vitality; Jiang Siyuan, who gave He Jinghua a headache, unexpectedly discovered his talent for playing drums because of his sister's love. Seeing his mother's hard work to make money, Li is an exemplary schoolmaster and an understanding little warm man who doesn't need adults to worry about.
Xinyue has always been afraid of her father's denial of herself and her mother, and lives in fear of her father's unhappiness. Be cautious about your father, constantly please adults, show off to your classmates in Versailles, and even lie to your classmates. ...
Couples must solve their own problems first if they want to solve their children's education problems. Lin, in particular, even if she wants to set an example for her daughter, she will definitely break through her husband's high-pressure imprisonment and find a way to realize her self-worth.
Written at the end: all parents actually don't know how to educate their children, because many parents haven't even figured out their own lives. What is right? What is the best?
Adults may have to start with self-reflection and be themselves before teaching their children.
Words and deeds, what children see from what adults say and do, is the biggest influence on him.