So I wrote this article, which is not only a summary of my own experience on this topic, but also a topic for discussion and sharing.
First, parent-child reading habits parent-child reading, the content of reading is very important. However, if you can develop good reading habits from the beginning and become a common but never-ending part of daily life, you can not only stick to it comfortably with your children, but also the pleasure of reading and spiritual nutrition will be accumulated and cultivated in the flowing good habits, and you can nourish your children's psychology, emotion, thinking and understanding silently.
Conventional parent-child reading habits refer to the habits applicable to children of any age. I summarized the following steps:
1. Keep reading every day and read at a fixed time.
Human behavior is the result of habit shaping. We all know that children have a sensitive period of order, but "order" includes a sense of order in space and a sense of order in time. When we guide children to "put what they have taken back from their original places", it is to cultivate a sense of order in space; When we guide our children to do something at a fixed time, we are cultivating their sense of time sequence.
At present, a key topic of family education is "time management". Most children have poor time management skills, which also gives parents a headache. Especially in junior high school, the academic burden becomes heavier, and many students and I complain that "life is too messy" This "chaos" actually stems from the chaos of time management, which makes the behavior passive, thus making the heart turbulent and impetuous.
The seed of time management is that parents should shape the sense of order of time for their children from an early age.
Then, we can start by insisting on reading at a fixed time every day. The life of every family is a whole. When we put a little thing in a fixed place in life, other things in life will gradually return to their positions. This is the "magnetization effect". For example, if you buy a bunch of flowers today, you will prepare a beautiful vase for the flowers, then you will want to buy a better tablecloth to match it, and then you will want to change a carpet, so every detail of your home is the breath of your love for life.
Therefore, insisting on reading every day and reading with parents at a fixed time will help children shape a sense of order in time from an early age, which is more conducive to our good habit of fixed reading, and can also make children's life rhythm more regular and pave the way for time management awareness.
2. Create a quiet and comfortable reading environment.
Needless to say, I believe that parents with parent-child reading awareness can think of it. A quiet and comfortable reading environment is more conducive to children to calm down and really devote themselves to reading. It is better to have a fixed place, which is more conducive to our study.
3. Maintain the enthusiasm for reading, but face the process of parent-child reading with a normal heart.
Parents should be enthusiastic about parent-child reading, so as to arouse their children's enthusiasm.
First of all, parents should like parent-child reading in attitude and have full appeal;
Secondly, in the process of reading, we can constantly change ways to stimulate children's curiosity and maintain reading concentration.
However, you can keep a normal mind about reading, don't be full of educational utility, don't rush to instill anything in your children, and don't force your children to finish what they have to read, or they must finish it in a fixed time.
Second, the main points of parent-child reading at different ages: 1.0- 1 year.
At this time, children's hearing and vision are constantly developing, and it is also the stage of voice and vocabulary input.
Parents can start with black and white cards and color cards, identify the things in the pictures and tell their children what they are in one word.
I think the most important thing in parent-child reading at this stage is emotional link. You can hold the child in your arms, read aloud and touch the child, so that the child can feel the love and warmth of his parents.
At the same time, the input of word pronunciation also stimulates the development of children's vision and hearing.
2. 1-2 years old
At this stage, children can know the object of "book" and feel the action and habit of "reading".
Start with cloth books and touch books with bright colors and strong contrast, and slowly add interesting and interactive hole books, lesbian books and pop-up books.
Pay attention to the sleek design of the corners, so as not to hurt the child's tender little hands.
A little bigger, all kinds of picture books can debut.
3.3-4 years old
At this stage, with the early preparation, children have accepted or become accustomed to "reading", so we should teach them some good reading habits.
Children should be guided to take good care of books, not to tear or scribble. In fact, this behavior is a way for children to explore books. Children can be allowed to do this at first, so they should use cloth books or bite-proof books to make the transition.
However, when you are old, you still have to instill in your children the awareness of "caring for books". Of course, it is not enough to say it once. Every time a child breaks the rules, he should stop and tell him to take good care of books. After a long time, children will understand and remember.
Teach children to turn pages by themselves. At first, children don't know how to turn many pages at once, or where to turn them. These all need the correct guidance of parents-turn one page at a time, and start turning pages from the lower right corner of the book with your thumb and forefinger.
Mom and dad should recognize the pictures and words in the book. Let children understand the correspondence between parents' language and pictures and texts.
Keep reading for a while. Children can't leave just looking at it. It is necessary to guide children to start from a few pages and slowly read a picture book story.
Keep your child's concentration.
Children in small classes spend about 10- 15 minutes, which is enough for parents to finish reading a picture book.
However, in order to let children continue to concentrate on parent-child reading, parents need to cultivate a little "martial arts":
Like telling stories with emotion,
Change the voice intonation according to the role,
Give the character a lively and agile character in an exaggerated and fun state.
Say something cohesive that connects the preceding with the following, adding fuel to the fire,
Ask some enlightening questions to stimulate curiosity,
Role reading or role playing with children. ...
Turn parent-child reading time into a fantasy journey for you and your child, as if you and your child had entered the world in a picture book story; Parents must first put themselves into the story, feel fun, interesting, even a little naive and crazy, in order to attract children to read picture books.
Add questions in the reading process from the beginning of children's understanding.
The questions at this stage can be closed questions, such as: "What color are the rabbit's shoes?" "What shape are gorilla biscuits?"
These questions can consolidate children's cognition of basic common sense, strengthen schema input and exercise observation. On the one hand, it can stimulate children's curiosity and interest in reading. On the other hand, if they do it right, children will be proud and more willing to continue reading.
After 4.5 years old
If the previous stage is done well, children should have liked reading by this time.
We can buy books according to children's reading interests. For example, some children like dinosaurs, some children like natural science, and some children prefer fairy tales ... We can all respect and support them.
You can also buy books according to educational needs, such as emotional intelligence training, sex education, death education, thinking development, art enlightenment, Chinese culture enlightenment and so on.
Of course, picture books can also continue.
At this stage, parents can still add questions to reading, but they should ask open questions: for example, what would Ah Qiu think at this time? How will she feel in her heart? Would you do the same if it were you? What would you think?
These questions can make children feel * * * with the characters in the story, let children learn to understand themselves and establish emotional ties with others and the world, which will continuously improve their understanding and comprehension ability.
In the process of parent-child reading, parents should never be too smart, but should show their children their opportunities and encourage them to express more. Parents should listen to their children's opinions instead of preconceived opinions, which is also a good opportunity to communicate with their children's inner world and understand their psychological development.
If parents can guide questions, the topic of reading and writing after children enter primary school is not a problem at all. Children's observation, understanding and logic have been well exercised in these parent-child reading processes, and there is no need to worry about their future reading ability and composition ability.
At this stage, in reading, in addition to looking at pictures and perceiving stories as a whole, parents can also point words to let their children establish a glyph connection and know the pronunciation and semantics of words. Because this stage is sensitive to literacy, children are very enthusiastic about recognizing symbols. Parents can carry out literacy enlightenment and slowly introduce children to read independently.
5. After reading independently, you can also read with your parents.
After children can read independently, in order to maintain their good reading habits, we can still maintain the feeling of parent-child reading:
Mom, dad and children still read books at a fixed time every day, each looking at what they like.
In the last 5 minutes of reading time every day, you can exchange your reading experience today.
Everyone just needs to say one point that touches them most.
If it is a family with two children or many children, you can also let your brothers and sisters join in and devote themselves to the atmosphere of family reading.
If we can persist, we can not only form a warm and upward family atmosphere, but also improve everyone's thinking and expression skills, and the good habit of reading will be maintained happily and for a long time in parent-child interaction.
I hope we can all have this warm, happy and high-quality parent-child reading time!
Mothers occupy an extremely important position in the baby's reading history, but it is necessary to clarify a boundary: it is not our responsibility to teach the baby how to read. Leave this arduous task to the school. Our task is to firmly root the love of books in the baby's heart. With this love, learning to read is a piece of cake for the baby. We can try the following methods:
First, make reading a habit. Maybe you will arrange time to study according to your schedule, so why not turn reading into a leisure activity, just like eating and sleeping, and become a part of life. Store names and product brochures in supermarkets that can be seen everywhere on the road are casually read to the baby; Recite a children's song casually when doing housework and walking. Integrating reading into life is inextricably linked with life, which is the best way to make the baby accept and love reading, because he will have reading needs.
Second, find a place where you both feel comfortable and undisturbed, and study with your baby. For example, in our family, there will be a special reading corner in the living room. In a semi-closed state, we can take out our favorite books from the bookshelf at any time, sit comfortably on the mat and read together.
3. Hold the baby tightly and read with him. Even if you don't understand, your baby loves to hear your voice and familiar rhythmic words. Babies will closely associate books with happiness, happiness and security. Our Bao Xiao especially likes me sitting cross-legged on the mat. He sat on my lap, and I put my hands around her, holding a book, and we read together, whether it was children's songs, poems or stories.
Fourth, play while reading, strengthen the rendering of tone and action, and make reading more interesting. In the process of reading, don't read official documents as we usually do. Gentle tone, weak sense of rhythm. For babies aged 0 to 4, the most suitable reading for parents and children is that our expressions and actions are exaggerated. We use this exaggerated expression to attract the baby's attention and let him understand the connotation of the story more deeply. The state of performance is very helpful for reading, and it is very effective for attracting the baby's attention and enhancing the baby's understanding of the story.
Fifth, actively encourage your baby to start reading at any early signs. When the baby picks up a book and babbles for you in a language he can understand, don't care about whether the story he made up is complete, whether the language is fluent, and whether the logical thinking is correct ... don't care about these details. What mom needs to do is encourage him to say, thank you for reading to me. Mom loves it. Will you read to me often in the future?
1. Choose books that both parents and children are interested in. Delicious, is the premise of delicious.
2. Create a good reading atmosphere while turning on the TV or playing games. It is difficult for children to concentrate on reading in this atmosphere. In a quiet environment, children will prefer reading.
3. Parents' attitude towards reading. Whether children like this book or not has a lot to do with parents' attitude towards this book. Parents think this is a boring book and often talk impatiently with their children. On the contrary, if parents show special interest in reading or a book, they will often attract children to look for answers in the book.
Parents should not ask too many questions, lest reading become an exam. No one likes exams, but prefers sharing, right? Don't try to educate your children as soon as you open the book. Think of yourself as a child's friend, explore books with children, enjoy and experience together. Children will prefer this reading attitude.
5. You don't have to be loyal to reading the original. Parent-child reading is more about talking and reading, linking stories with their own lives, or more about divergent interpretation of stories. Parent-child reading is more interesting, and fun is the first priority to attract children.
Parent-child reading with children, starting from the age of two. Maybe a few months later, I started reading with many parents, but I kept reading.
Regarding the effectiveness of parent-child reading, I have the following views:
Children can only be with their parents for more than ten years. Excluding the time for children to go to school and sleep, it is even shorter. Please spend more time with your children when they are young! Reading is a good way. As long as you are with your heart, the children will surprise you and wait for the flowers to bloom together.
My baby has been doing parent-child reading for over two years. From the initial contact with parent-child reading information to continuous learning. Of course, we gain more. I realized the magic that reading brings to children. Usually children will say, like XX, they like to eat vegetables, brush their teeth, know how to share, and so on. With the participation of the characters in the book, the children's world is more colorful.
First of all, space
When I first came into contact with parent-child reading, I heard a lot about reading space. Some parents even open a corner at home, put some articles that make children feel comfortable, and put them on a small bookshelf to make a reading corner. A good reading environment can make children like reading more, as long as they are comfortable, have enough light and have no sense of bondage.
Second, time.
Parent-child reading focuses on persistence, and reading should become a habit. Insist on reading books every day, and read some books to your children between play and sleep. Slowly, the children will take the initiative to ask for books, and hear the children say happily, "Mom, mom, it's time to read." I was deeply moved. By persisting in reading, children can gain a lot of knowledge and enjoy reading.
Third, the way
Parent-child reading is not simply finished. Parents should also get involved and know what you have read, who are in the book and what stories you have told, so as to guide their children. Sometimes children remember even better than you do. Often when eating, the baby will say, "I like to eat green vegetables." Like Xiao Qi (a character in a picture book), we all like to eat green vegetables. "I want to eat well, so that the strength in my body will be stronger and I won't get sick" and so on. Prove that the child really remembers the contents of the book, and then we will guide him. How did Superman get stronger? Children will say "eat well, sleep well, exercise more and drink more water". Children's memory is really not to be underestimated.
Fourth, the method
A picture book not only tells a story, but also looks for knowledge points from its background, including animals, cars and people in the background, to see what they are doing and how to do it. Older babies can teach him to read. Tell a story and bring in relevant knowledge. For example, shopping on the street can be interspersed with models, what to pay attention to when crossing the road, what to pay attention to when taking the bus, and queue up one by one by car. The dialogues between different characters in the book should be read in different intonations, which can be exaggerated appropriately to attract the baby's attention and leave a deep impression on the baby.
Fifth, interest
Every child has different interest orientations, and what books to read depends on the child's interest. Maybe a book is nothing to his parents, and the picture doesn't even like it, but after reading it, he finds that the child is particularly interested and will let you read it to him again and again. Don't be bored at this time, meet the requirements of children, make targeted choices when buying books in the future, and cultivate children's interest in reading.
Parent-child reading can greatly avoid the influence of electronic products on children, and it is beneficial for children to try different angles to observe society. On the road of parent-child reading, we still have a lot to learn. Welcome to discuss with each other and make progress together.
First of all, we should pay attention to persistence and make this thing a habit. Children, if they are used to listening to stories and reading books every day, will feel that this is normal and a part of life.
In fact, parents should also be cautious in the choice of reading materials. Children of different ages choose picture books at different stages. Parents often say why my children don't like to hear it and run away after hearing it. Maybe it's because the picture book you chose for your child is not suitable for her age. If you have a baby, you should read some very simple and interactive books and so on.
Effective parent-child reading, I think the following points are worth noting.
First, what to read. The content of the picture book should be in line with the age of the child and the child can accept it. Picture books suitable for different ages are different. Don't just pick up a picture book and start reading it.
Second, how to read. I once met a parent whose children were jumping around impatiently, and the parents were still reading the contents of the picture book word by word. This is simply an invalid interpretation.
Third, children should participate in reading picture books. For example, you can read a paragraph, I can read a paragraph, or make a dialogue in different roles, so that children can think about what happened later and so on.
Finally, when to stop. Reading is good, but the child is tired. I suggest stopping in time and changing to other activities instead of forcing the child to continue reading.
The core of parent-child reading is "parent-child", that is, parents and children read together. Effective parent-child reading is to let children feel the happiness of their parents' company.
The biggest misunderstanding of parents is what they want their children to learn. In fact, it is far more important for parents to give their children happiness in the process of reading than for their children to learn knowledge.
First of all, the longer parents and children read, the more secure and happy children feel, and the more sunny, optimistic and confident children are psychologically.
Secondly, children feel happy in the process of parent-child reading, and are more willing to look forward to reading time every day, thus forming reading habits invisibly. This is the most effective parent-child reading.
Thirdly, reading is not reading, but another kind of game. Children learn while playing. When parents don't take learning knowledge as the purpose of parent-child reading, on the contrary, children will learn a lot invisibly, which books can't.
Parent-child reading, I can't remember exactly where it started, about 3 months! But we are very proud. This is a good habit that we have been adhering to today. I have always believed: read aloud for love and wait for flowers to bloom. Regarding parent-child reading, I would like to share the following points:
First, choose books suitable for children.
Books suitable for children of different ages are naturally different, which requires parents to make a good choice. When bubbles are small, I choose books with large patterns such as black and white cards and color cards, which helps to stimulate children's vision. The book "Visual Stimulation" impressed me the most, which was written in my diary before: "In addition to doing passive exercise or parent-child yoga every morning, we also watch" Visual Stimulation ". I told her every picture, although she doesn't understand it yet. (More than 3 months) But she likes the pictures above very much. I divide these books into five parts. I read two books a week, black and white pictures for color pictures, and pictures for pictures. Up to now, 10 has all been read. She likes reading every time. Before, in order to train her eyes to follow the object, I kept changing the position of the book, which really worked! "
Later, with the growth of age, picture books entered our lives, and all kinds of picture books entered our reading life. First, there are more kinds of paintings and fewer characters. Later, I slowly moved towards simple story-based picture books with pictures and texts, and then moved towards picture books with slightly more complicated stories, or picture books of science and popular science. In the choice of picture books, I sometimes refer to some picture books on the internet, sometimes I choose them myself, and sometimes I choose them according to my children's interests. For example, Paopao is interested in popular science recently, so she chooses popular science suitable for her age, such as what's new in Tooth Street, a railway station in her stomach, the universe, the weather and the ocean. The first two books are German classic popular science picture books. After watching What's New in Tooth Street, she took the initiative to brush her teeth every night, claiming that she would use the "Tooth Police" (toothpaste) to drive away the two little things (the little heroes in the article). This is ten thousand times better than simply preaching! The last three books, such as Universe, are picture books presented by KFC children's package, not advertisements. There are six books in this series. Because of her interest, we bought half of them. This set of books is pop-up book, which can be opened for exploration. To tell the truth, I don't know much about some knowledge, but when I told her, she was in high spirits and remembered a lot of content, so she could describe it herself. The nine planets in the solar system can sit in the right position by looking at the pictures. Interest is the best teacher. Take her to explore if you like. This is my principle.
Second, persistence is the best companion.
It's easier said than done. Think about it. What can I do in a month? A year? How many years? Very few, so it is most important to insist on parent-child reading. No matter what happens, the link that can't be shaken before going to bed every day-parent-child reading. Because my father often travels, my parents read a lot, and my mother accompanies me. Starting at 9 o'clock every night, it is our parent-child reading time. Time is not necessarily, sometimes longer, sometimes shorter, but at least I will read 1 book. When dad is at home, it is family mobilization, and this is the favorite form of bubbles. She will be the host. First please mom, then please dad, and finally she said it herself. The family is comfortable and relaxed in bed, or sitting around, or snuggling in the arms of mom and dad. Put down your mobile phone and enjoy reading with your children. This feeling is also excellent when you are old!
Third, constantly change the way parents and children read.
I bought her a reading book recently, which was inspired by the reading book borrowed by the picture book library. I read to her every day, and every story she tells adds two stars, and every story my father and I tell adds one star. Children of this age especially like this kind of encouragement. Since the establishment of the reading passbook, she has read more books than before. She took the initiative to speak first, starting with one and then two, both in quantity and quality.
As the mother of two male treasures, I cultivate their reading habits in the hope that they can not only "move like rabbits" but also "be as quiet as virgins" at critical moments.
Effective parent-child reading, especially for babies under 3 years old, must first let the baby accept picture books. Picture books on the market, such as Xiaoyue cloth books, cave books, flip books, special-shaped books, pop-up books, audio books, etc., have different shapes and bright colors, just like toys. Therefore, Dabao has always regarded the picture book as a toy since he contacted it for four or five months, and he can't put it down. During the period, the key point is to play, and occasionally poke and flip together. Bite the picture book in the longing period. At this time, the picture book can be replaced by a cardboard book that can't be torn or bitten. Don't interrupt your baby's desire to explore the world.
The second is to create a good parent-child reading atmosphere. At home, try to tell your baby a picture book in a quiet environment. Turn on the TV as little as possible before the baby is two years old, and don't use the TV as the background sound. The other is to go to a professional picture library with a strong reading atmosphere. The little guy touched the classic picture book carefully selected by the teacher of the picture book library. As a "bookworm", my brothers and sisters are all sitting next to each other, so it's hard to fall in love with reading.
Third, the key to parent-child reading lies in parent-child and high-quality companionship. Parenting reading is undoubtedly the best way to accompany busy parents. If you can only spare half an hour to accompany your child every day, please choose to read picture books and tell stories to your baby.
Finally, everything is important, so is parent-child reading. In the process of reading day after day, the baby gains not only all kinds of knowledge, but also the most precious gift of parents-silent persistence! As a parent, I imagine you in five years, 10 years, and you in 20 years. You have unlimited possibilities because you insist on reading, and you can't help being moved by yourself!
The most romantic thing I can think of is that we study together!