Teachers and parents educate their children in the same way.
First, know how to respect and understand
Respect and understanding must be the premise of doing a good job in parents' work, so as to maximize the joint efforts of families. Family cooperation should start with teachers' respect and understanding of parents. Sometimes, we will complain that "so-and-so" parents don't come to kindergarten activities, don't help us collect information, and rarely meet and communicate with teachers. And classify these parents as "uncooperative and unsupported" and gradually ignore and stay away from them. In fact, our teachers can put themselves in others' shoes. Both parents have their own jobs and are under great pressure. After work, they are busy with tedious housework and have little free time. Therefore, parents' "no cooperation and no support" is also understandable. As teachers, we should respect our parents and give them understanding instead of complaining. In view of this situation, our teacher can take targeted activities. For example, the parents of Yi Hao, Papa, Zhiying and Lin Rong, children in my class, are busy with their work and are often picked up by nannies, so the notices in the class often fail to get through. To this end, we specially prepared some notes, wrote down every notice to parents, or sent text messages to parents. This can not only let parents know the activities and arrangements in class in time, but also reflect the teacher's concern for children and understanding of parents. For another example, when our class held a parent-teacher conference on understanding, sharing and reading, we found that many parents didn't attend, most of them were grandparents or nannies. In view of this situation, we use the form of "questionnaire" to find out when it is convenient for each parent to participate in parent-child activities. We will arrange the time of parent-child activities according to the specific situation of parents. After doing this, parents have the right to spend their time relatively independently. The attitude of participating in activities is also positive. Through a small questionnaire, parents also felt the respect and understanding of teachers.
Second, establish equal status.
In preschool education activities, teachers and parents should be equal as educators. Only when the two sides respect each other equally can they establish a positive and healthy cooperative relationship. If teachers pretend to be experts too much and can't understand the concept of respecting parents' educational methods, they will begin to disagree with parents on the most basic issues of educational methods.
Although the teacher has received special education, he has certain knowledge and experience in parenting. However, we can't think that we are experts in education, and we always feel that our parents are incompetent and spoil their children, but blindly command their parents. This may arouse the resentment of parents, and it is difficult to form a two-way interaction in educating children, and it is impossible for family education to achieve good results. In fact, kindergarten teachers have received professional training and have certain advantages in professional knowledge and educational skills. But parents watch their children grow up, have a much deeper understanding of children than our teachers, and have accumulated a lot of experience in family education practice. If teachers can talk to parents in an equal manner and fully understand their needs and wishes, parents will cooperate with teachers sincerely and truly cooperate with family and education. For example, there is a girl in my class, Diandian. She has a glib tongue and likes acting very much. She often shows her artistic talent in class talent shows. However, parents usually pay attention to the cultivation of children's language and art, while ignoring the cultivation of children's good living habits. Therefore, children eat slowly and have poor self-care ability. So, I took the initiative to get in touch with their parents, fully affirmed their practices in cultivating their children's language ability and artistic talent, and worked out methods and measures to cultivate their living habits with their parents. Teachers and parents have established equal status and formed a cooperative relationship. Only by educating children well can our children develop in an all-round and healthy way.
Third, pay attention to the diversity of communication
In order to realize synchronous family education, both families should always contact and communicate around children's development, so that parents can understand the specific educational goals and children's development in all aspects, and acquire knowledge together with kindergartens, so that synchronous family education can promote children's development more effectively. Therefore, how teachers communicate with parents has become an important part of our work. Communication with parents should not be limited to a single conversation or telephone interview, and it is difficult to achieve good results. It is necessary to adopt multi-channel and diversified communication methods so that parents can better understand their children's situation in the park.
Teachers and parents have the same advice on educating children.
First, appreciate children.
Tell a short story. A child is particularly naughty and has poor grades. Every time there is a parent-teacher meeting, the teacher will complain to his mother. Of course, the mother is also very unhappy, but she thinks that if she doesn't trust the child and encourage him, the child's life will be over. When she got home, she said to the child, "The teacher praised you today. It would be better if you were more serious. " Children feel that both teachers and mothers recognize them, so they study hard and make continuous progress.
I hope I am not such a teacher, but I hope you can be such parents. Children need praise and praise. Praise again and again will consolidate children's advantages and stimulate their self-confidence. For example, if a child is timid, you can give him more opportunities to get in touch with others. If he can say hello to others, then you can say, "Our xx family is the most polite." Don't tell others that our xx is timid, and he will agree with his parents that I am timid. Take our class as an example. When pasting petals, some parents said, "You are very capable with so many petals. Try again! " Some parents said, "That's it, the last one." Once I saw a child excitedly asking his father to put up petals. His petals are already quite high. His father said, "Look, no one is tall yet!" " "The child's enthusiasm was suddenly hit. There are many examples that can be generalized.
Second, love children.
Needless to say, no parent regards their children as the apple of their eye, but because of this, love becomes doting. Give children what they want, reach for clothes, eat with their mouths open, and even lose their temper with adults. Simply accommodating children will only encourage their bad habits. Some parents may have the idea that it is very hard for their children to stay in school for a week. After all, they are so young that they will meet whatever they ask when they visit home on Wednesday. In fact, we cultivate students' ability to adapt to the collective and society. Small groups can reflect large groups, but even small groups can't adapt, and their adaptability in society will definitely be weaker than others in the future. Let the children grow up by themselves. They used to need help to walk, but now they should walk by themselves. You will find that your child is very capable.
Third, understand children.
Every child is a unique individual. For example, some students have good music, some students draw well, some children like sports, some children like reading, some children have good academic performance, some children have good ideas, Chinese mathematics is very important, and people will use it all their lives, but we can't say that Chinese mathematics is not good, even if it is stupid, and we can't blame it too much. Our children are only in the first grade. Can you say that he is not smart now because he didn't do well in Chinese and math exams? Just deny him? That's cruel to him. A child made a mistake in dictation and asked him to rewrite a hundred words. He must have remembered that word, but he probably lost interest in learning Chinese. It's not that children don't want to be the first in the exam, nor that they don't want to do well in the exam, but that their development is different because of the influence of family, school and society. Children have just begun, and there is still a long way to go. The most important thing for us is to make them love life and study!
Fourth, help children.
A good atmosphere can make a good child. Imagine a mom and dad playing mahjong all day and ignoring their children's study. It is impossible to make their children as good as you want. Parents are their children's first teachers and their best role models. Children have no ability of self-discipline and need parental control. Huang Zhongwei is in our class, and his family attaches great importance to his training. This kind of training does not mean to impose some knowledge on him, but to create such an atmosphere for him and cultivate his interest in learning. He will read this book as soon as he is free. He will recite the book as soon as he finishes the new lesson. His views in class are different from others. He can recite many ancient poems and know more than 1000 Chinese characters. Maybe more now. He is not born to love learning, but is guided by his parents. Forming such a good habit of loving learning will benefit him for life.
For another example, a family has prepared a small single room for children to study and play in, but parents find that children still like to play in the living room. Parents think that children may need appreciation from others, so they set up a place in the living room to show their children's works, such as a painting, a word, a handicraft, etc. Only when children are satisfied with themselves can they show it. In this way, if children are appreciated, they will have an interest in learning.
As a teacher, I have an obligation to teach my students, 38 students, that is, my 38 children. I will try my best to teach it enthusiastically and cultivate it with love. Please rest assured. But after all, there are so many children, something must be missing. Please forgive your parents. If you have any comments, please point them out to my face. I appreciate it.
As a parent, you have an obligation to teach your children well. Children are your hope. We now cultivate children's innovation, require teachers to innovate, and hope that parents can have innovative spirit to cultivate your children.
Skills of Teachers and Parents in Educating Children
1, concentration is wisdom.
A truly wise person can look at the whole world, consider major issues from a macro perspective, be familiar with the key points of interests, and be broad-minded and not limited to trivial matters. It is a kind of wisdom and an open mind to let children focus on what they are doing instead of being disturbed and interrupted by unimportant things.
2. Teach children to speak with facts.
Prejudice is the enemy that prevents people from forming a correct understanding. Accurate judgment comes from the investigation of objective facts, not subjective speculation. As parents, we should guide our children to learn to speak with evidence and facts, treat people and things around us objectively and to the point, and never be biased.
3. Understand children's needs, and don't blindly pursue false reputation.
Only what suits you is the best. When educating their children, parents should really understand their psychological needs and know what they really need before giving them. Don't blindly pursue false reputation. Give him whatever you see others give him. This may not be what he needs.
4, tap the child's talent
When children feel inferior, let them believe that they can be excellent in a certain aspect. In fact, everyone has at least seven basic intellectual skills, such as mathematical logic, language, music, space, body movements and two types of personal understanding.
That is, our ability to understand others and deal with our dreams, fears and troubles. Maybe children don't like writing, but they may be talented in design or have a good eloquence.
5. Be kind to your child's self-esteem.
Parents should not regard their children as too weak, because no child wants to admit that he is weak. In the eyes of adults, they may be just children, and their strength is insignificant, but in their own eyes, they are no different from adults. This is the child's self-esteem and self-improvement.
1. How should parents educate their children correctly?
2. Communication skills between teachers and children
3. Parents share how to educate their children.
4. How do parents educate their children to interact with others?
5. Parents' experience in educating their children.