The communication between mother and child should be divided into age groups. I have two children, the oldest is thirteen and the youngest is only six. Let's not talk about the small ones, but the big ones. The boss is a boy. He was born in the "only child" family planning era. It makes sense to say that we should spoil him, but we don't. We have always set an example and stayed with him. But it is this strict and continuous companionship that makes it more and more difficult for me to communicate with my children.

Some people say: "Long-term companionship is long-term!" Actually, it is not like this! As parents, we should start from the needs of children, give them some freedom and space, let them release themselves properly and shape their personality. Your parents are too strict and tight, which not only controls the healthy development of children's body and mind, but also binds us adults. Over time, children get tired of their parents, then reject them and run away. Adults think it is right, but it is not necessarily right in children's cognition. The child is still young and has no sense of autonomy. Parents can do whatever they want, and communication is naturally barrier-free (in fact, this time it is not communication). But when the child reaches a certain age, the child's sense of autonomy has been generated and developed enough to resist adults, and parents will communicate with their children as they did when they were young, which is a challenge.

We should try our best to find out, understand and master the psychology of children of every age, keep pace with the times, and Zhang Chi has a certain degree of interaction with children. We followed up, and it was naturally barrier-free to communicate with children.

How parents communicate with their children: don't compare with relatives and friends. "You see, the little pottery next door can do addition and subtraction within 100. You still can't do anything. How can you catch up with others? " "Nini downstairs is really unreasonable. I haven't passed the math exam since I was a freshman last year. Don't do this in the future. " Phillips, who is studying in a big class, is most afraid of hearing her mother mention Xiao Tao and Nini. It turns out that everyone often plays together, but after listening to my mother's nagging, I don't know if I want to play with them.

Children's abstract thinking is still in the development stage, so when telling children what to do and what not to do, they should not be given a general concept of "good boy" and "bad boy", but should be specific and clear, and more often they need a sample. However, it is better to find this sample from storybooks, comics and literary masterpieces, which will be safer. If parents follow the example of relatives and friends, I am afraid it will be difficult for children to establish interpersonal relationships in the future; On the other hand, parents' one-sided evaluation will hurt others invisibly.