(A) cultivate a sense of responsibility from an early age
1920, an American boy aged1/kloc-0 accidentally kicked his neighbor's window while playing football, and people claimed $65,438+$02.50. After the boy who made a big mistake confessed to his father, his father made him responsible for his mistake. He said awkwardly, "I have no money to compensate others." Father said, "I'll lend it to you first and pay it back to me after one year." Since then, the boy has gone out to work hard every weekend and holiday. After half a year's hard work, he finally earned enough 12.50 dollars and returned it to his father. This boy is the later American President Ronald Reagan. When he recalled this incident, he said, "Taking responsibility through my own labor made me understand what responsibility is."
Comments: Parents should educate their children to be responsible for their own actions from an early age, and don't bear everything for their children, otherwise it will dilute their sense of responsibility and is not conducive to their growth.
(B) the correct use of the expected effect
Edison was considered the most "stupid" student by the class teacher when he was young. But his mother thought that the teacher called the students "stupid" in person, which just showed the teacher's own incompetence. She took Edison home, educated him according to the child's psychological characteristics and tried every means to encourage him to do more experiments. Edison later became a world-famous great inventor, which was inseparable from his mother's education and the proper use of expectation effect.
Comments: Parents' expectations should be adapted to children's actual situation, and education should be combined with children's psychological characteristics. Parents' expectation is an important factor that cannot be ignored in family education.
Grasp the sensitive areas of success
/kloc-When Maxwell, a famous mathematician and physicist in the 0/9th century, was a child, his father once asked him to draw a still life painting with a vase full of autumn roses as the object. In Maxwell's works, vases are trapezoidal, chrysanthemums are round, and leaves are represented by some strange triangles. Careful father immediately found that little Maxwell was particularly sensitive to mathematics and began to teach him geometry and algebra to cultivate his mathematical talent.
Comments: Children with normal development will show extremely special sensitivity and strong curiosity about a certain aspect when they are five or six years old. Parents should seize the children's "sensitive areas" in time and "take advantage of the trend to open the way for their children's success.
(D) Cultivate children's ability to live independently
In Germany, children aged 6- 10 help their parents wash dishes, sweep the floor and buy things; 10- 14-year-old children should take part in grass cutting and other labor. In the United States, more than 1 children basically eat by themselves, and it is almost impossible to see parents chasing their children with rice bowls to feed them.
Comments: Over-protection of children has become an educational disadvantage that is not easy to see in China. Facts have proved that the psychological quality of non-intellectual factors and the lack of sound personality have become a major problem that can no longer be ignored in our current education.
Educate children in practice
In Sweden, the first words learned by small class students over 2 years old, besides "Hello, thank you", are the names of plants and wild fruits in the forest. In summer, the teacher needs to take the baby to the forest to play or do small experiments two days a week. For example, dig a few holes in the ground and bury them with plastic bags, paper, glass and banana peels. Dig them out after a few weeks to see what changes have taken place in order to explain to the children what rubbish the land can or cannot absorb. For example, the land will not absorb glass, which will hurt people's and animals' feet, and sunlight will also cause fires, so don't litter. Sweden's environmental construction is so good that it is inseparable from their own education since childhood.
Comments: Compared with theoretical education, practical education is more intuitive and easier for children to accept. Sweden's educational methods to cultivate children's acceptance of nature and love for life and human beings through practical activities are worth learning.
Successful cases of early childhood education abroad 1 Family is the cradle of children's growth. The ideas and behaviors of parents and other family members play a decisive role in the cultivation of children's moral consciousness. Family education in Britain is more distinctive in western countries. Let's take a look at some of their practices.
In British families, there is absolutely no unreasonable doting on children, and children who make mistakes will be corrected or even punished. Parents often strictly control their children on the premise of respecting their independent personality, so that children can understand that their behavior is not endless and they can't do whatever they want. British law clearly stipulates that parents are allowed to corporal punishment of children, and many schools still retain the rules of corporal punishment of students.
In general families, children under 5 years old are not allowed to eat at the same table as adults, and they are not allowed to be picky about what they eat and wear. When it comes to what to do, they will follow the rules, and they will be severely punished for deliberately making mistakes and bullying the young. No matter who you are to, children should be polite and speak politely, and parents, brothers and sisters are no exception. On the contrary, children will be reprimanded by their parents, including corporal punishment. Only sensible and polite children will be praised by their parents. This is only one aspect of British family gentleman education. Manners and manners are up to standard, and being polite to others is the basic requirement for every child.
The British generally believe that doting and pampering children is the biggest obstacle to the formation of their independent personality. In order for children to adapt to the needs of society and live and work independently in the future, it is necessary to cultivate their ability to live independently from an early age, so that they can learn to respect others, exercise self-restraint and be responsible for their actions. With regard to the education of children, the British believe that children should be responsible for their future independent life. The principle of reality is the first, and affection is the second. As the saying goes, "If the son doesn't teach, the father makes a mistake", which is also the British view. Parents should be responsible for their children's behavior when they grow up. If children can't adapt to society and make contributions to society like others in the future, they can't fulfill their educational responsibilities as parents. Such parents are incompetent, they should feel guilty and review to the society.
Parents will take good care of their children when they are young, but don't spoil them. Therefore, young parents in Britain rarely always hold their children in their arms, but let them crawl and play casually. In a word, parents should be moral teachers of children, not protectors of children. Therefore, when a child accidentally falls to the ground, British parents will never help him up. Instead, they will let him stand up and train the child's independent ability from trivial matters, so that they can understand that each of them can't live by their parents, but depends entirely on themselves. Therefore, in British families, children are never the center. Most western countries have the same idea.
In Britain, no matter what the conditions are, rich families or ordinary families will not spoil their children. People will consciously "create" some hard environments in which children will suffer some artificial difficulties, so as to hone their will, develop a strong will in their later lives and adapt to all kinds of unexpected difficulties. Public schools are British aristocratic schools, and some of them are world-famous. The students attending these famous public schools are all rich children. Public schools are expensive and emphasize excellent academic performance. However, the rich children who attend public schools live in extremely difficult circumstances. The school deliberately cooked the food badly and lacked heating equipment. The school requires every public school student to wear shorts in the playground and class in bad weather, insist on taking a bath in cold water, do not cover with a warm quilt, and sleep with the window open in winter. This is to get rid of children's femininity, cultivate strong will and improve children's physical and mental quality. In public schools, people are proud of suffering, value their determination and establish a natural value. In the eyes of the British, this is a simulated living environment. The purpose is to enable students to prepare many practical life skills through tempering in this environment, so as to enhance their ability to live in a difficult environment. This is another kind of love for children, which is stronger than caring too much about children. This is a kind of true love that parents must make.
Tradition is everywhere. Once a habit is formed, it will exist in people's behaviors and thoughts without asking why, and it has irresistible power and becomes a consciousness without asking why. As a tradition, the traditional humanistic thought is deeply rooted in the minds of British people, which has become the standard and value of their understanding of things and the leading role of their behavior. On the issue of treating children's education, people's understanding is so unified that they are consciously or unconsciously doing things according to tradition and evaluating children's behavior according to traditional standards. Almost all British people think that children should know how to be patient, because there are too many things to be patient in a real adult society. They think that as a gentleman, impatient self-discipline is the most contemptible and uneducated. Even children will not achieve much in the future if they can't learn to be patient. Therefore, if a child is hurt in the family, even if he cries, he will never get comfort and sympathy from his parents. On the contrary, parents will severely reprimand those children who can't stand the pain and cry at will. In this way, after a long time, children will gradually understand that they live in an environment that can only rely on themselves. No matter what kind of pain, he doesn't have to ask for help, but has to endure it himself. Over time, the child's perseverance will naturally develop. Perseverance helps to achieve great things, which is the unanimous view of the British.
A series of parents' practices will benefit children when they grow up, and some people will deeply understand their parents' good intentions in their later lives. Therefore, children who have had such experiences will ask their children in this way when they are adults, thus forming a tradition and becoming a fixed model of children's education.