Of course, many parents want their children to be gifted children, but there are few real geniuses in this world, and people who become geniuses often make great efforts and hardships.
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When it comes to Liu Zhiyu, people may be unfamiliar with him, but when he was a child, he also caused a sensation throughout the country and was called a "mathematical genius".
When Liu Zhiyu was in high school, he showed an unusual side. He not only published a paper that impressed professionals in Grade One, but also participated in the Olympic competition and won the gold medal on behalf of the national team in Grade Two.
After that, Liu Zhiyu was sent to the Department of Mathematics in Peking University. After graduating from university, he was admitted to MIT and got a full scholarship.
Just when Liu Zhiyu's family thought his children's glorious moment was coming, he gave up everything and chose to become a monk. Then why?
When Liu Zhiyu became a monk, he didn't give too many reasons, but simply left a letter to his parents. The content of the letter was basically to express his loneliness and dissatisfaction.
It was not until nine years after Liu Zhiyu became a monk that he revealed the real reason. He said: he doesn't particularly love mathematics, but he has a talent for mathematics since he was a child, and he works hard in the process of learning, so his math scores are so excellent.
Of course, when Liu Zhiyu's parents found their son's amazing talent in mathematics, they gave him strict discipline. They took Liu Zhiyu to participate in math competitions again and again.
Even if the child is at home, his parents don't allow Liu Zhiyu to go out to play, and he has prepared many math exercises to keep him exercising. Finally, due to the boring and stressful study day after day, Liu Zhiyu felt bored and lonely.
He also told his parents that he actually liked philosophy and read philosophy books, but his parents strongly opposed it, so he let Liu Zhiyu continue to study mathematics.
Finally, Liu Zhenyu was completely desperate. Even though he won the title of "Mathematical Genius" from Peking University and a full scholarship from MIT, he didn't want to continue to be brilliant.
Because the high-pressure life is unbearable for him, only with the ancient Buddha with blue light can he get a moment of peace and continue to like his philosophy. When Liu Zhiyu told the reason why he became a monk, his parents regretted it.
It is not difficult to see from Liu Zhiyu's life that he chose to become a monk because his parents didn't listen to his ideas, let alone respect his wishes, and just let him study mathematics blindly.
Therefore, urging children to learn is the correct educational method, but forcing children to learn or even use extreme methods will ruin their lives.
So what should parents do about their children's learning in life?
1,? Treat democratically
Many parents will be like Liu Zhiyu's parents. They always educate their children in a high-profile way, thinking that children must listen to their parents, and sometimes even erase their thoughts and practices.
This will only make children more and more rebellious and eventually go astray, so the correct way is to treat them democratically. Always listen to your child's voice and discuss the right path with your child in a consultative tone.
Let children feel that they are not alone, let children feel that their parents are life's mentor, strong backing and best friend, and let children give full play to their talents.
2,? Think from the child's standpoint.
We often say that empathy is a word that parents should also use when educating their children.
We must think from the child's standpoint and look at the problem from the child's perspective, because children's ideas are often different from those of their parents.
Parents should never deny that children should give encouragement and support, especially after they make the right choice, so that children can succeed step by step.
So, what do you think after reading the case of Liu Zhiyu? What do you think are the correct ways for parents to learn from their children? Welcome to share your views and let's discuss them together.