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Life +08 1 in the story? Fan Sui and JOE (G incarnation)

This is a true historical story. According to legend, during the Warring States Period, there was a man named Fan Sui in Wei State. His early family was poor. Although he has the ambition to make contributions to Wei and the ability to govern the country, he can't meet Wang Wei because of his humble background, so he has to visit JOE, a doctor in China. On one occasion, he accompanied his master JOE to Qi. In the imperial court, King Qi Xiang was arrogant and contemptuous, condemning Wei's capriciousness, and said that the death of the former king was related to Wei, which was very passive and speechless. Fan Sui saw this situation and stood up. He answered blows with blows. He justly refuted King Xiang's condemnation of Wei, which not only safeguarded the dignity of Wei, but also saved face for the host. King Qixiang was not only angry, but also admired Fan Sui's eloquence. He immediately stayed as a VIP and sent someone to persuade him to stay in Qi, but Fan Sui refused. On the occasion of parting, the King of Qi gave ten Jin of gold, cattle, wine and other things privately, which was also declined.

Fan Sui righteously stood above the imperial court and was honored as a guest of honor by Qi, which made JOE, the envoy, very jealous and resentful. After returning home, JOE not only failed to show respect and praise to Fan Sui, because he refused to accept gifts, but falsely accused Prime Minister Wei Qi of taking bribes and selling information privately. Qi Wei was furious and ordered Fan Sui to be arrested and tortured until Fan Sui's ribs were broken and his face was covered with blood. Afraid of losing his life, Fan Sui held his breath and pretended to be dead, so Wei Qi ordered someone to wrap him in a reed mat, throw him in the toilet and send an official to guard him. That evening, Fan Sui said to the official, "Just say I'm dead and let Wei Qi throw me away. If I am not dead, I will be grateful in the future. " At that time, Wei Qi was giving a big banquet to entertain guests. When he got the news, he ordered Fan Sui to be thrown into the wilderness outside the city, so Fan Sui escaped. Later, with the help of his good friend Zheng Anping, he hid people under the pseudonym Zhang Lu.

In 27 1 year BC, Zhao Haoqi of Qin sent an envoy Wang Ji to visit Wei. At that time, the state of Qin had become very powerful through the unremitting efforts of several generations of monarchs, such as filial piety, fear of kings and military kings. In order to recruit talents from all over the world, the State of Qin has a policy of "recommending sages to enjoy the same reward". Therefore, when Wang Ji learned from Zheng Anping that he was still alive, he decided to take him to the State of Qin. One night before he left, Fan Sui visited Wang Ji. Wang Ji secretly took him back to Qin, and recommended him to Zhao Haoqi of Qin, who worshipped him as a guest. Later, by attacking Wei Shou and North Korea far away, he persuaded Qin, and in 266 BC, he helped abolish the powerful Xuan Empress, expelled the younger brother Ran of Empress Dowager Tai, and strengthened centralization, so he was appointed Prime Minister.

In the second year after he was appointed Prime Minister of Qin, Wang Wei learned that Qin was going to attack Wei, so he sent a doctor from China to Qin to negotiate peace. JOE got on the horse in a hurry, went to Xianyang and stayed at the inn.

Fan Sui learned that Su Jia had come to make peace, so he took off his clothes, put on rags, sneaked out of the mansion, came to the inn, and slowly walked in to see Su Jia. Su Jia was surprised to see the visitor and said, "Mr. Fan, you are still alive. I thought you had been killed by Wei Xiang. Why did you come to Qin? " Fan Sui replied, "I was abandoned in an unknown place, but fortunately I woke up. I was saved by passers-by, and I died in Qin. I work for a big family and talk about my life. Today's days are hungry and cold. " It was the middle of winter, and Jia Jianfan was thin and ragged, shivering with cold and feeling pity. He sat Fan Sui down to eat and drink, and gave him a silk robe to wear. During the conversation, Su Jia sighed, "Zhang Lu is the prime minister of Qin, and the ruling and opposition parties share the power. I wanted to know him, but no one introduced him. I am worried about this. " Fan Sui said that his master had a good relationship with Zhang Lucheng, and he often went in and out of the Prime Minister's Office, so he could introduce him and promised to lead the way for JOE, who was very happy.

When he came to Xiangfu, Fan Sui said to JOE, "Doctor, wait here for a while. I will inform you first. "

Su Jia got off and stood outside the door. After waiting for a long time, Fan Sui didn't come out, so he asked the guard at the door. The guard said, "What Fan Sui? I don't know him. It was our prime minister who just came in, wearing a cloth and silk robe. His name is Zhang Lu.

When he learned that it was Zhang Lu, he was terrified out of his wits and quickly called the guard to report: "The sinner of Wei State must be put to death by Jia!"

When JOE walked into the Prime Minister's office, he saw Fan Sui sitting in the classroom, too busy to kneel, and even called him guilty. After telling the story that Jia She was jealous of the sage and mistakenly hurt the sage, Fan Sui pointedly said: "At this point, you should behead to repay your previous hatred, but considering that you still miss the old feelings, you are still sympathetic. When you see me down and out, you will get a silk robe as food and you will live. " JOE kowtowed and thanked him, and climbed out.

When he came to see him, he told the whole story and said that Wei was afraid of Qin and sent an envoy to make peace. The king of Qin was overjoyed, so he allowed Wei to make peace and let Jia handle the matter.

A few days later, Fan Sui hosted a banquet in the Prime Minister's Mansion to entertain the envoys of various governors, and guests gathered. It was very lively, but JOE was arranged under the steps and two servants were sent to sit on them. Only some fried beans were prepared on the table, and they were fed with their bare hands, just like horses. The guests were surprised, so Fan Sui told the old story again, and then said sharply to JOE, "Although the king of Qin promised to make peace, Wei Qi must be avenged. I will give you an ant's life and send Wei Qi's head as soon as possible. Otherwise, I will lead the troops to kill the girders, and it will be too late to regret. " Su Jia was terrified out of her wits, walked out silently and reported to me when she returned to China.

This feud between Fan Sui and JOE was later compiled into Peking Opera Paoze and Sichuan Puppet Show Kneeling at the Door to Eat Grass.

Lu Cansheng's testimony: It is not difficult to see that he is a villain who is jealous of talents.

We dug up this history from that pile of old paper just to talk about the topic of "jealousy".

In human history, there are many things that persecute virtuous people because of jealousy. According to the Bible, Cain and Abel were both sons of Adam and Eve. Cain was his brother, Abel was his younger brother. Cain farmed and Abel herded sheep. They all gave their products to God and the Lord. God was very grateful for Abel's tribute, which made Cain very jealous and hateful, so Cain killed his younger brother Abel in the field. Although this is a myth, it originates from the real life of human beings and is a typical summary of the envy of the world.

In the history of China, the most famous example is the story of Pang Juan persecuting Sun Bin and abusing Mrs Qi. The story of Pang Juan persecuting Sun Bin took place in Wei Huiwang during the Warring States Period, 70 or 80 years before JOE persecuted Fan Sui. Pang Juan and Sun Bin, the generals of Wei State, were classmates and learned the art of war from Guiguzi. Pang Juan was jealous that Sun Bin's talent was higher than his own, so he designed to cheat him from Qi to Wei, and also designed to frame Sun Bin, and sentenced him to flogging by law (taking out the punishment of kneecap paralysis), hence the name Sun Bin. Pang Juan's jealousy and persecution of Sun Bin is aimed at burying Sun Bin and leaving the world invincible. The story of Lv Zhi's abuse of Mrs Qi happened in the early years of the Western Han Dynasty. Mrs. Qi was the favorite concubine of Liu Bang, the Emperor Gaozu, and a famous singer who could sing and dance in the early years of the Western Han Dynasty. She is versatile. She can play the piano, sing and dance. When Liu Bang was alive, she was very popular and loved by Emperor Gaozu, so Liu Bang snubbed his wife Lv Zhi, which made Lv Zhi very jealous, thus laying a curse. After Liu Bang's death, Lv Zhi's son Liu Ying acceded to the throne, namely Emperor Hui of Han Dynasty, and Lv Zhi became the Empress Dowager. The first thing Lv Hou did after he took office was to crack down on Mrs Qi's weak mother and son. She poisoned Mrs. Qi's son, Wang Zhao Liu Ruyi, then cut off Mrs. Qi's limbs, gouged out her eyes, smoked out her ears, and forced Mrs. Qi to drink dumb medicine and throw it into the toilet. It is called a human pig, which is very cruel. Of course, there was a power struggle in Lv Hou's persecution of Lady Qi, but jealousy was the main reason, because after Liu Bang's death, Lady Qi, Liu Ruyi and Prince Zhao no longer posed a threat to Emperor Hui of Han Dynasty.

With the development of society, it is not uncommon for people to be hurt and killed because of jealousy. Let's talk about a murder case of Lu Gang that shocked the whole world:19911at 3 pm, Lu Gang, a 28-year-old young doctor and an international student studying in China in the United States, shot and killed him in the physics department building of Van Allen, University of Iowa. Lu Gang shot and killed because of jealousy. Lu Gang, the only son of high flyers, Department of Physics, Peking University, had a smooth sailing. 1985 After graduating from Peking University, he passed the examination hosted by Chinese-American physicist Li Zhengdao in Chinese mainland, and entered the University of Iowa to study for a doctorate in physics. Received his doctorate in May of 19 1. After graduation, he didn't want to go back to work, but he couldn't find a job for months. China, a student photographed by Shan and Lu Gang, graduated from China University of Science and Technology, passed the examination presided by Li Zhengdao in Chinese mainland in 1987, entered the University of Iowa to study for a doctorate in physics, and received his doctorate in February 190. After graduation, the fruitful Shanlinhua was left by the department to continue postdoctoral research and was paid according to the post of researcher. Shan is one year older than Lu Xiao. He came to the University of Iowa two years later than Lu, but got his degree six months earlier than Lu. During his Ph.D., Dan Jixiang had a good interpersonal relationship at the University of Iowa, which was well known. He is the former president of China Student Union, while Lu is withdrawn and selfish, and few people associate with him, even the China Student Union does not join. Before graduation, Lu's research work was not very smooth, and he failed the oral examination of his doctoral thesis on the spot. On the contrary, Shan not only graduated early and got a doctorate, but also won a prize for his doctoral thesis. After graduation, Shan got a promising and stable job, while Lu Lian didn't find a job. Comparatively speaking, Lu's mentality is seriously unbalanced. He can't stand that Shanshan is better than him. He hates the superiority of the mountain and takes it out on several tutors and schools. Since he can't get it, no one can get it, so he carefully planned the murder case and successfully achieved his goal.

How can jealousy make people so crazy? It seems that we can't underestimate the ugly social phenomenon of jealousy. We need to study it, understand it, avoid it and try to eliminate it.

So, what is jealousy? The author is not a psychologist, so it is difficult to give a scientific and clear definition. Generally speaking, the so-called jealousy is to find that others are superior to themselves in talent, status, reputation and situation in the process of comparing with others. And I am not reconciled to this sense of superiority of others, resulting in a complex emotional state composed of shame, anger and resentment. It is a very common social psychological phenomenon, which mostly occurs among people who have almost the same status, know each other, work in the same department, live in the same environment and have some connection in interests, especially between direct competitors. As for an athlete who is far away from his living environment, an Olympic champion who has nothing to do with himself, and a scientist who won the Nobel Prize, people can only envy, but not envy at all. Marshal Montgomery is jealous of General Barton's meritorious military service, but he will never be jealous of Napoleon's military genius. India may be jealous of the developing country close to it, but it will not be jealous of the distant number one power, the United States.

There are different levels of jealousy. We can divide jealousy into three levels: jealousy, jealousy and jealousy according to the intensity of jealousy and the way of venting.

Jealousy level: Jealousy is the most common and slight jealousy phenomenon, and everyone in the world has this kind of psychology to varying degrees. Envy is usually buried deep in people's subconscious, which is a mixed state of jealousy and envy. When colleagues, classmates, friends or people with similar conditions are superior to themselves in some aspects, they will have a sour experience of "having a different taste in their hearts", making them feel uncomfortable and unconvinced. Sometimes when they find some unfavorable phenomena in the envied object, they will show slight dissatisfaction and schadenfreude. A newspaper reported that a top math student didn't come to class in a third grade class of a key primary school in the south. The students are very surprised because she has never missed a class. The teacher explained, "Her grandfather died and she is giving him a funeral." Unexpectedly, the teacher's voice did not fall, and the whole class cheered: "Oh, her grandfather died, and we can surpass her this time!" " "Her grandfather is a professor of mathematics, so she is the oldest, and she has no backing this time!" Looking at the excited faces, the teacher was too surprised to speak. This is a group of innocent children who express their inner jealousy without scruple. If they were adults, they would never do this. They will bury this idea deeply in their hearts, show great pain on the surface, and are likely to say something comforting to their families, such as "I'm sorry for your loss." Are adults hypocritical? I can't understand it this way. Hiding this bad psychological state is helpful to interpersonal harmony, which is exactly the performance of a person's maturity. Generally speaking, the activation of jealousy is very weak, and generally there will be no serious consequences. However, because it exists in everyone's mind, we should also pay attention to it. We should try our best to overcome the breeding and spread of this unhealthy psychology in the subconscious and prevent it from popping up from the subconscious.

Jealousy level: Jealousy is a jealous phenomenon with mild resentment and aggression, which is developed on the basis of jealousy. It is usually manifested in criticizing, accusing, criticizing the envied and spreading some unfavorable remarks. We often see such a phenomenon: once a person becomes famous or has made some achievements, various criticisms and even slanders follow, his shortcomings are magnified or even completely out of shape, and he is ridiculed or even alienated from time to time. Aren't you a "pear blossom on a spring rain"? Then we will say that you are "promiscuous" and very slutty; Aren't you smart and talented? Then I will try my best to find out what you did wrong to prove your stupidity; Aren't you outstanding in some ways? Then I will focus on your shortcomings. "Many women are jealous of their eyebrows and are rumored to be good at prostitution." This is Qu Yuan's personal feeling. The purpose of the jealous person is to damage the reputation of the envied person and create troubles and obstacles for the life, work and interpersonal communication of the envied person. So that they can't develop smoothly and feel pressure and pain, and it is in the pressure and pain of the envied that the jealous find their own psychological balance.

Jealousy level: jealousy is the highest level of jealousy, which develops from jealousy, turns jealousy into hatred, and persecutes the envied by all means. Jealousy often occurs between competitors. The above jealousy was framed. Cain killed Abel, Pang Juan's grandson, Mrs. Qi, and Lv Gang shot Shan Linhua. In real life, jealousy is particularly prominent in power struggle and love contest. 1997 April 16, yangjin, deputy director of Fujian Environmental Protection Bureau, spent 30,000 yuan to hire underworld forces to severely burn Yang Mingyi, director of the Environmental Protection Bureau, with concentrated sulfuric acid. In 2007, a middle-level cadre surnamed Sun in Shangcai County Land Administration Bureau of Henan Province, in order to prevent others from competing with him for the post of deputy director of the county land administration bureau, instigated his friend Li to fabricate the news of a competitor's bribery, and published it online with the help of another criminal suspect Jia. As for the process of love, it is not uncommon in life to spread rumors, frame "rival in love" or fight with "rival in love" for a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Why do people get jealous? Where is the root cause? There are many factors that lead to jealousy, which vary from person to person, but in short, there are three main sources:

Root one: the root of thought comes from human selfishness. Selfishness is the root of all evil. Without selfishness, people will not be jealous. As far as most people are concerned, in general, selfishness can only be effectively controlled and cannot be completely eliminated. Therefore, as long as selfish thoughts exist for one day, this ugly jealousy will follow.

Root 2: Social root, which comes from absolute egalitarianism of society. Absolute equalitarianism is a negative theory of social balance, which requires every member of society to enjoy equal social wealth, status and reputation. Regardless of this member's character, ability, diligence and contribution. Its purpose is to eliminate all differences. Originally, differences exist objectively, and "things are not uniform, and things also have love", which is the driving force for the development and change of all things in the world and the inevitable result. If all the differences in society are eliminated, society will lose its development momentum and will go backwards. I think, who wants to do more, do less, do good and do bad, and do nothing? ! But absolute egalitarianism has a long history and far-reaching influence at all times and at home and abroad. Once absolute equalitarianism prevails in one's mind, he will not tolerate others taking the lead and being above himself. "You don't want to have what I don't have; I'm not superior, and you can't be superior. " Then, jealousy came into being.

Root three: the root of human nature comes from human nature. Man is the existence of natural animality and humanistic sociality. The philosopher said, "Man is half a devil and half an angel." Many "evil" things of human animal nature are deeply hidden in people's subconscious and are people's dark psychology. "the Monkey King psychology", "Xiang Wang psychology" and "Jade Emperor psychology" are all factors of people's dark psychology. Once these psychological factors become conscious and manifest, there is no room for people who are superior to themselves, and jealousy arises.

Jealousy is the cancer of life, harming others and yourself.

Jealousy is harmful to oneself first. Jealousy is a state of psychological imbalance. Modern medical research has proved that when people have jealousy, they will stimulate the "pain" center on the edge of hypothalamus, leading to negative experiences such as anxiety, depression, irritability, resentment and anger, and then induce physical symptoms such as headache, insomnia, elevated blood pressure, palpitation and depression, nausea and vomiting, and loss of appetite. It can be seen that jealousy will damage people's own mental health and physical health. More importantly, once people have a strong jealousy, they will have prejudice and can't see the light and beauty; Will distort personality, become obscene, narrow-minded and gloomy; It will poison language, and open rumors and lies will never blush; They will run amok, be keen on intrigue, slander others, and even be bold and desperate to persecute people who are superior to themselves, thus breaking the law and ruining their lives. This is another story about gambling with one's life because of jealousy.

The story of Jealous Pot: On a river in Linqing City, Shandong Province, there is a ferry named Jealous Pot. The name of this ferry is related to a woman who risked her life because of jealousy. According to the records of Duan in Youyang Miscellanies in the late Tang Dynasty, it is said that there was a scholar named Liu in the Jin Dynasty, and his wife Duan was very jealous. Liu Xiucai especially liked Cao Zhi's Ode to Luoshen, and according to the description in the Ode, he drew a picture of Luoshen's Ode and hung it on the wall. One day, the scholar faced the map of Luo Shenfu and shook his head while reading Luo Shenfu. After reading it, I said to myself with great emotion: "If I can marry such a beautiful woman as my wife, I will have no regrets in my life!" Unfortunately, this activity happened to be heard by his wife Duan. He was furious and said, "Why are you so involved in Luoshen?" Am I not as beautiful as her? If I jump into the river and drown, I can also become a water god, which is definitely better than Luo Shen! "That night she kept her promise and jumped into the river at the ferry. When people learned the reason why she jumped into the river, they renamed the ferry "Jealous Woman Gold". It is said that women in Tianjin dare not dress up when they come here to cross the river, or there will be a storm. Duan's jealousy is really strong. In order to become a water god, he longed to be more beautiful than Luo God and threw himself into the river.

The short story is a folk legend, not a historical truth, but it vividly reminds the world that jealousy is very harmful to the jealous people themselves.

? Jealousy is the second biggest factor that harms people. The prominent problem of jealousy is to suppress or even persecute talents. I have said a lot about this, so I won't go into details here.

So, how to avoid and eliminate jealousy? For jealous people, there are three ways:

Practice 1: overcome selfishness, be less greedy, and constantly strengthen the life concept of being kind to others and benefiting others.

? Practice 2: Keep the sunshine mentality, strive to overcome the "Monkey King Psychology", "Chu King Psychology" and "Jade Emperor Psychology", tolerate those who are better than themselves, and learn to cheer for those who are better than themselves.

? Practice 3: Take an active part in the competition in a correct and proper way, shorten the gap with competitors by studying and striving to improve themselves, and strive to "see Si Qi" and never do anything that "sees Si Qi at the expense of others".

? Practice 4: Dilute the utilitarian consciousness and strive to pursue the life realm of inferiority, carelessness, indifference, tranquility and far-reaching.

? For jealous people, the most important thing is that "everyone will be jealous if they have no intention of fighting for spring." Don't spend time competing with flowers, and don't be disturbed by other people's jealous words and deeds. Let people go ahead and go their own way. Of course, it is absolutely necessary to work hard to eliminate contradictions with a positive attitude, maintain rationality, take correct and proper measures to safeguard their legitimate rights and interests, get rid of all lies, and effectively avoid the risk of persecution. We can treat all those who want to hurt us with kindness and broad mind, but we will never accommodate them, let alone indulge them. Everyone must be responsible for the consequences of his actions. We must not be soft on the devil who hates the bumper harvest of mankind and plans to plant barnyard grass in the wheat field in the dark.

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