How important is contentment in life? The core logic is:? I can. I just don't want it. . The following is a psychological test I carefully arranged for you: Are you a contented person?

Test questions:

1. Do you like your job?

Most of the time.

B yes.

C often doesn't like it

2. Will you take it out on others because of your failure and let your emotions affect others?

Once in a while

B seldom or never.

C often

3. Do you have an inferiority complex?

Sometimes.

B no.

C often has

4. Do you have a relaxed attitude towards life?

This is true for most things.

B Generally speaking, I really treat life with a relaxed attitude.

I don't think I am a very relaxed and happy person.

5. If you want to evaluate your life, which of the following statements best fits your situation?

Basically satisfied, but there is still room for improvement.

B My life is more successful than adversity, and I live well.

C I am discouraged because I haven't realized my life value yet.

6. Do you think you must obey the rules?

Answer yes.

B seldom or never.

C is not

7. Which of the following sentences do you think is the best evaluation for you?

There was peace.

B very satisfied.

C restless

8. Would you like to live in a different way for two years?

It's possible.

Don't want to go.

C willing

9. Do you feel that your birthday is in a lucky constellation?

A Maybe it's lucky.

Of course.

C no

10. Are you jealous of the wealth owned by others?

A occasionally.

B seldom or never.

C often

1 1. Do you often wish you were someone else?

A Not often, but occasionally I feel that some people are luckier than me.

B I have never seriously considered this problem.

I often wish I were someone else.

12. Did you sleep well?

I try to have a good sleep, but I don't always succeed.

B yes.

C is usually not very good

13. Do you long for an unusual holiday, so that you can completely escape from reality?

A Yes, sometimes.

B Holidays are good, but they are essential for me.

Yes, I often think so.

14. Do you think you have a loyal and stable family life?

On the whole, yes.

There is no doubt about it.

C is not

15. Are you frustrated by doing too little?

Sometimes.

B seldom or never.

C is almost always like this.

16. Have you ever considered plastic surgery to make yourself beautiful?

A maybe.

B no.

Yes

Are you satisfied with yourself?

A occasionally satisfied.

B very satisfied.

Little or never satisfied.

18. Did you get most of what you deserve in life?

Basically.

B yes.

C no.

19. Do you feel that opportunities always slip away from you?

Sometimes.

B seldom or never.

C often

20. Do you think you have fully enjoyed your spare time?

A Maybe I don't have as many spare-time activities as I hoped.

B yes.

No, because I have no time to participate in extracurricular activities.

Scoring criteria: 1 is a, 2 is b, 0 is c, and the total score is finally calculated.

Test answer:

0- 19: You are dissatisfied with your life.

Maybe you feel very helpless and painful about not realizing your life dream or being exhausted. Maybe you think life is too short to have enough time to do what you want. Maybe you are really dissatisfied with what you are doing now, and often think of many things you want to do at work. Maybe you are going through a difficult or tense period in your life. If so, now is a good time to examine and evaluate your life, but you must pay more attention to the positive aspects and ask yourself what you have gained. Perhaps having a stable and happy job and a harmonious family in 2006 is an achievement in itself. Maybe you have a favorite activity or hobby and you can spend more time enjoying it. These are all reasons to be grateful, not disappointed.

20-35 points: You are basically satisfied with your life, although you may not realize it yet.

Although you don't lack ambition, you won't take risks to pursue a single goal, endangering your happiness and existing lifestyle, and those closest to you often have a sense of dissatisfaction, because you feel that you can get more, and you feel a little sorry for it, but on the whole, you still think that most of your goals have been achieved, so there is no reason to make any changes, even for others. For example, parents, teachers, friends and colleagues are eager to tell you how to treat life, because they are only important when writing goals is important to you. After all, you are your own chief expert, and you have the right to decide how to take your own life path.

36-40: Your score shows that you are satisfied with your life, and you have happiness and inner peace. It is this happiness that infects and affects people around you, especially your immediate family members.

You are a very lucky person, you can find your own little world, and you know how to be content, which is what many people envy you.

Extended reading:

? Happiness lies in contentment? It's all bullshit Self-knowledge? It's true.

An official of the second generation, whose father is an official of a national ministry. I started my own business. Despite the help of family resources, through the efforts of myself and the team, I finally got a round of venture capital of $ A10 million. But he is always depressed, and the point of depression is a commonplace topic.

From junior high school, he found that everything he got seemed to be related to his father, and he always needed his father's help to succeed within his power. Even with today's achievements, he still can't accept relying on friends at home to spend the most difficult time at the beginning of his business. He said himself:? Why bother? Why are you so fascinated?

A senior of Xiamen University came to Tsinghua with excellent results. She has been applying for foreign investment banks since her junior year, but she has never been successful. In her second year as a graduate student, she made up all kinds of internship experiences and thought she could give it a try. Finally, she got an interview in the Hong Kong office of Barclays Ibd, which was tragic.

She said:? She thinks she should get a job as an investment bank. She always felt that she didn't work hard enough and didn't have enough experience. She felt that she had made up for it. Who thought it would be a tragedy in the end? ? Finally, with regret and helplessness, she chose CICC, a company that many people are looking forward to.

A classmate in high school was admitted to Peking University after five years of repetition. In the fourth year, I was admitted to the Finance Department of the National People's Congress, but I finally chose to give up. He continued to repeat his studies, and finally admitted to Peking University in the last year, realizing his dream of Peking University. Many of us don't understand, after all, youth is precious and we can do anything in five years.

People's Congress and Peking University are both top universities. Why does it take five years to repeat their studies? But he proved his persistence in personal ideals with practical actions. Only when he can go to Peking University will he be satisfied, otherwise he will endure more pressure and pain and continue to struggle.

The above three people will be very happy if they take a step back from the following example when they are most lonely. Everyone will accept the reality, embrace the achievements with a more calm attitude, and will be very calm: the second generation of entrepreneurs will accept the reality of parents' participation and support, and accept the achievements of their careers; Graduates from prestigious schools accept a job with a relatively low salary but still bright, while students with poor academic qualifications accept the established results and seize the opportunity to keep making progress.

I am blind in philosophy and don't understand the abstract and complicated philosophical implications of life and pain, but I can also intuitively feel from them that pain does not come from my own level, but from the difference between ideal and reality.

Even if the absolute value of welfare in their situation is different, their pain is the same. No matter how good it is, there are differences and pains. As the old saying goes:? There is a skeleton in the cupboard. ?

Facing this problem, chicken soup for the soul has given us a solution since ancient times. Happiness lies in contentment? Satisfy the status quo, don't fight too hard, and enjoy the happiness you have. But this kind of placebo-like advice has great potential risks: what if one day our self-esteem or competitiveness bursts again?

When we are not satisfied with the status quo, don't we just return to helplessness and pain? Moreover, in today's high-pressure and desire-seeking social situation, happiness lies in contentment? For many young people, especially those with strong self-esteem and ambition, it has no operational value at all.

What are the prescriptions for the above three people and similar situations? Happiness lies in contentment? , not as good as? Self-knowledge? . ? Happiness lies in contentment? The core logic is:? I can. I just don't want it. Self-knowledge? The core logic of is:? I can't. I don't want it at all. ?

Although they are all? No? , but? No? The mentality at that time was completely different from the subsequent actions. ? Happiness lies in contentment? Under the mentality, there will be an unfounded sense of superiority and conceit, that is:? I just don't argue. In fact, I already have the ability to harvest. I can get what I want at any time. ?

Personally, this sense of superiority and conceit has two potential risks:

First, due to the improper overestimation of their own strength, they gave up the efforts that should have been made on the established route, so that one day they were exposed and ended in tragedy. For example, I think I have the IQ of Princeton physics department, but I just don't study it. I'm in physics at Peking University.

In fact, I only have a high school physics level, and I don't know how to learn electromagnetic induction or the law of conservation of energy well. Suddenly one day I need to answer what Hooke's law is. I can't make it up, so I can only smile and be generous.

Second, due to the inaccurate self-positioning, they will deviate from the established track at the key nodes of career development and blindly pursue unreasonable goals, and eventually lose the game. For example, I think I can do scientific research at any time, but I just want to work to make money.

When KPMG's audit was unsatisfactory step by step, he suddenly wanted to do scientific research institutional economics and later resigned. As a result, my scientific research level is so poor that I can't even understand Lang Xianping's program. In the end, it was a tragedy to draw water with a sieve.

Compared to? I don't want it, so I don't want it? For the kernel? Happiness lies in contentment? ,? Self-knowledge? The core logic of is:? I can't. Why don't I accept it? I don't want it. Not that I don't want to. I just can't do it. Since I can't, I won't argue.

I want to fight for what I can do. Compared with happiness based on mental anesthesia and false prosperity? Happiness lies in contentment? ,? Self-knowledge? Our happiness is based on clear self-orientation and self-cognition, and the firm path choice and reasonable life planning brought about by it.

Specifically, there are two:

First, because I have an accurate understanding and precise positioning of my own endowment, I won't have any nostalgia and unwillingness for things beyond my ability. On the contrary, we will accept the established facts and live a long, steady, calm and calm life.

For example, when my bones are softened by mathematical analysis, I will not be unwilling to face the great god who can read discrete mathematics at a glance; For another example, when I was received by a foreign businessman with poor English, I wouldn't complain if a gold collar with a London accent took me ten times my salary.

Secondly, based on the rational analysis of the realistic reasons and the present situation, we can have a reasonable judgment on the situation and trend of our own situation, and we will not fall into the situation of moths to the fire because of individual temptation or temporary impulse.

For example, when I learned that the speed of reading financial statements was one-fifth that of my roommate, no matter how my junior advised me how to be suitable for financial work, I would just laugh it off. For another example, when I have no resistance and endurance to an uncertain life, I won't participate even if it is a tempting entrepreneurial opportunity, because I know I don't want to harm others and myself.

So? Happiness lies in contentment? Seemingly peaceful, but actually dangerous; ? Self-knowledge? Seemingly helpless, but actually calm. ? Happiness lies in contentment? With what? Self-knowledge? The difference between our core views lies in whether we are aware of our inherent shortcomings and understand what we should not get at all.

? Happiness lies in contentment? Is it a kind of? Conceit and give up? Don't fight for it if you believe you can. This is a kind of? Positive? No. ? Self-knowledge? Is it a kind of? Rational compromise? On the premise of acknowledging one's limitations, it is a decisive abandonment and return. Negative? Positive.

So let's review these three? Pain? Examples of. If you eat it? Self-knowledge? This medicine: starting a business? Official second generation? Accept the reality of family support, make more efficient use of family resources and make the company bigger and better; Masters of prestigious universities face the strength gap between themselves and foreign investment banks frankly, and may have more opportunities to work in CICC. Students who have studied for five years have frankly faced the gap, studied and got employment earlier, and combined with the perseverance of re-reading, their grades may have surpassed many Peking University students in the same period.

To put it bluntly, no matter what level of pain it is, there are two cores to break the pain caused by the difference between one's desire and reality: one is to improve oneself without delving into it; Second, people are self-aware.

We resolutely put aside the wrong cognition of ourselves, tear up the false prosperity with our own hands, and give ourselves a reasonable positioning, reliable planning and prudent action through our honest and sober reality. This seemingly heartbreaking self-knowledge will lead an unusually bright and happy life.

Some things you don't know how unsuitable you are until you try, some things you don't know how incompetent you are until you work hard, and some things you don't know how unworthy you are until you turn your back.

As long as we are brave and honest with ourselves, we will gradually determine ourselves? how much is it? And finally? What is not suitable for doing, what can't be done and what can't be done? And bet on us? What you are fit to do, what you can do, what you have the opportunity to do, you will do well. ?

How to find it? Self-knowledge? And then what? There are about two successful experiences:

The first is trial and error.

By constantly trying your own upper limit, you are constantly abused in the process of pursuing higher and stronger, and gradually understand your own limits. According to the law of large numbers: there are enough data and the measurement is accurate enough. Try more, and you will always measure yourself more accurately.

The second is to be calm.

Setbacks are normal, tragedies are good. Compared with the actual and potential harm caused by blind self-confidence or self-deception, this kind of tuition fee that makes us sober and practical is simply nine Niu Yi hairs. Today, the price we pay for our limitations will be made up by our own sobriety sooner or later.

Of course, the attitude towards life has its own characteristics. If you want to live a leisurely life all the time, it doesn't matter how much you have achieved, so there is no need to think about it at all. Happiness lies in contentment? And then what? Self-knowledge? All right, let's eat. Let nature take its course. This medicine will do.

If you want to live a meaningful life and don't want to work too hard, then refuse? Happiness lies in contentment? , choose? Self-knowledge? Ignore the ability, everything is within the ability. After all, Ma Yun didn't spend his energy on finding high-paying foreign companies, studying for further study and dressing himself up.

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