No matter what kind of children, mistakes are indispensable in the process of growing up. Some mistakes are irrelevant, and parents can only nag. But some things touch the bottom line, which makes parents lose face and worry.
At this time, most parents can't hold their breath, and they want to solve it in the simplest and rudest way, that is, adding fists and feet. Does this really work?
According to the survey, 90% of children have been beaten by their parents.
In a survey, 90% of the 50 children interviewed clearly remember the scene where they were beaten, the reason, who beat themselves, and even every little detail can be repeated.
At this time, you may say, these children have a good memory! Don't you remember so clearly every time you are beaten, don't you live in sadness all day?
Besides, shouldn't younger children always remember to eat without fighting? It should be human nature not to remember sad memories, but being beaten has become a reality and cannot be forgotten or erased at all.
"Even if you hit me, I won't accept it."
One of the interviewed children said that I was beaten by me because I came last in the math exam. When he hit me, he scolded my mother by the way, saying that my mother didn't educate me well. And he also said that he must study hard in the future. If he still does this, let him know to hit me once.
Since then, I don't like math even more. I even began to give up the subject of mathematics. Although I paid a painful price for this, I didn't even get into high school, but I don't regret it.
We are a little sad to hear such a story. The culprit of the tragedy that happened to this child is his father. If his father could give him more care and help him study, he wouldn't be so rebellious.
Beating can not only solve the problem, but also intensify the contradiction.
When a child is beaten, some parents will repeatedly force the child to admit his mistake and say that he will never dare again. Let children obey themselves like their own hands.
Isn't this disrespectful to children? If the mistake really lies with the child, parents don't have to force the child repeatedly! If the child insists on being soft, there is only one possibility, and it is not his fault!
Most parents don't go deep into the essence of the problem at all. They don't want to waste time and are not interested in it. Whether he is right or wrong, it will be solved by a beating.
Professor Shi Dongjian: Beating and scolding children is the incompetence of parents' education.
Shi Dongjian, an educational scholar, once expressed his views on parents beating their children in a public speech, which was very opposed! Even if it is a deep and painful disease.
Every time a parent slaps a child, it will change the child's attitude towards life and destiny. Optimistic and positive children will become unhappy and passive.
It will also accelerate the occurrence of children's violence, because that's how they are treated, that's how parents solve problems at home, and they will learn this behavior when they hear it.
Moreover, some children with fragile hearts will also have autistic behavior after being beaten and feel that they have annoyed their parents. Why are they so hateful and don't like themselves? How sad it will be!
There is no problem that communication can't solve.
When children do some bad behavior, parents should not be the result of angry behavior at the first time, but should explore the generation of behavior. Why do children behave like this? Is this the first time or a regular behavior?
Only by figuring out the real reason behind this can we find a solution to the problem faster and know how to do it. But in any case, parents should be careful with their fists.
If the child makes such behavior for the first time, parents will hit the child indiscriminately, but the child will feel that the parents have strengthened their behavior and have greater curiosity, and want to try one after another.
Maybe they don't really want this, but they want to see their parents angry with themselves again. In the long run, the parent-child relationship is getting worse and worse.
Similarly, if this often happens to children, it is impossible to solve any problems simply by playing. Instead of finding the root of the problem, they made a fuss on the surface. How do they persuade their parents?
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Have you ever hit your child with your hand? What was the situation then? Do you regret it now? Welcome to share your thoughts with us.