Diane's mother Evelyn graduated from Cambridge University and is a university mathematics professor. She always wanted to solve a world-famous math problem and go down in history, but she couldn't solve it, so she pinned her dream on her daughter Diane.

Diane inherited her mother's talent in mathematics, even better than her mother. She is a genius in mathematics.

Under the pressure of her mother, Diane approached the math problem infinitely, but she couldn't solve it until Diane committed suicide.

Diane gave birth to her daughter Mary before her death and was raised by her brother Frank. Mary inherited her mother's talent and was obsessed with mathematics. At the age of seven, she read top books on mathematics.

After Evelyn knew about the existence of her granddaughter Mary, she wanted to get custody of her, sent her to a "genius school" and trained Mary as a mathematician.

However, Uncle Frank thinks Evelyn is a genius, but she should have a normal growth environment. She should know how to make friends and care about people, instead of growing into a bookworm who can only do math problems.

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As a mother, Evelyn has a strong desire to cultivate Diane into a useful person, hoping that her daughter can realize her dream that she has never realized. All her starting points are: I am doing this for your own good!

Paul was Diane's first love and eloped with Diane to go skiing, but Evelyn called the police. When they came back, Evelyn accused Paul of kidnapping Diane and sued Paul's parents until Paul was afraid to call Diane, and Diane had nothing to do with Paul anymore.

Since then, Diane has committed suicide.

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In fact, Diane has solved the math problem, but she just didn't tell her mother. She slipped the answer to this math problem to her brother Frank and told him that the answer would not be published until her mother died.

Diane never thanked her mother Evelyn. In Diane's eyes, her mother Evelyn is an autocratic tyrant. She cruelly took away her childhood, youth and love.

Evelyn took everything that ordinary people had. Diane's life is no longer complete. She became a problem-solving machine. Maybe one day, when she solves the problem, she will be of no use to her mother.

In order to get back at her mother, Diane indulged herself, made love to others at will and gave birth to Mary, giving an ordinary childhood to Frank.

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Evelyn indirectly obtained the custody of Mary by despicable means, and let her solve problems under the guidance of a group of teachers every day. I hope Mary can solve that math problem as soon as possible and realize her dream.

When my uncle discovered Evelyn's method, he immediately went to Evelyn with a topic and told her the truth.

Evelyn was shocked after hearing this. She can't believe it's true!

Finally, when she looked through Mary's draft, she found that Mary had worked out this math problem, but she never told Evelyn that it was a silent struggle of Mary, a gifted child!

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After reading Gifted, you will feel that it is very wrong for parents to impose their dreams on their children, but everything has two sides, good and bad. This practice of imposing strict dream cultivation is not necessarily bad.

Recently, wrestling, dad! It is very popular and highly praised in China. Many parents went to see it.

In the movie, amirkhan plays the father who trains his two daughters by extremely strict means. He let them win the gold medal in wrestling at the cost of depriving them of their childhood.

But India's national conditions are different from those of the United States. In India, the folk custom that men are superior to women is very serious, and the fate of girls has been fixed since childhood:

Singer, the hero of the film, is a national wrestling champion. As a father, he has a "resource endowment" in economics-that is, his two daughters have greater comparative advantages than other girls of the same age in terms of genes and training conditions.

In such a bad environment, if girls don't practice wrestling with natural resources, their fate will be fixed, so everything my father did in the movie really came true: "I did it for your own good!" " You will understand later! "

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The above two are extreme examples, which can be said to be a mistake. Either the daughter is a genius or the father is a national champion. Most of us wouldn't have this IQ and father.

What is the meaning of reference? Do parents want to be a "tyrant" and say to their children, "I am doing it for your own good, and you will understand later."

At this time, the idea of mathematical classification discussion will be used:

The background of the above two films, one is in the United States, which is a developed country with better educational environment and better social welfare, and people have more rights to choose their own lives.

The other is in poor and backward India. If parents don't train them, society will be worse, and girls' future fate will probably not be very good.

So, in the final analysis, the most important thing is the growth environment!

Chen Ming once talked about education in Qi Yuan Shuo, and I was deeply touched by it:

At present, China has both poor and backward places like India and developed places like the United States.

In a poor place like India, if you have your own "resource endowment", say to your child, "I am doing it for your own good, and you will understand later!" Is to create the best growth environment, because if you don't do this, he/she will fall into a sea of suffering.

In a rich place like the United States, if you raise children, don't selfishly regard children as a tool to realize your dreams. He/she has his/her own dreams. What you need to do is to give him/her a growing environment to realize his/her dreams!

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