You rarely see a genius like Vere in life: he has an amazing memory, reads the humanities line by line, is obsessed with the books he has read, and can find the basis from which page anytime and anywhere. He is proficient in mathematics, chemistry, art, history and law.

In your life, you often see such rebellious teenagers: love to go to bars to drink, love to pick up girls, love to fight and make trouble, love to steal things, love to go to labor camps n times, N+ 1 times and then repeat the same mistakes.

If this life goes on, Will should grow into love rat without compromise. From his association with Harvard girls, we can see that he teased her, angered her, conquered her with his own talent, and abandoned her when she was so keen on it.

However, Will was lucky to meet two good teachers at the crossroads of his life: Thorne and Rambo.

Let's talk about the good teacher Thorne today.

Thorne is a down-and-out psychology teacher who has experienced all the hardships of life and rich spiritual experience, and also a miserable hermit. It was he who finally led Will out of the mental dilemma in the struggle and painful treatment and anti-treatment.

His education reminds me of a sentence in the book: education is that one soul awakens another.

Will had a quarrel with five psychologists before he met Thorne. These experts are all famous industry elites. They have various psychotherapy methods. But every time Will meets an expert, he grasps the weakness of the other side through his own genius observation, and then attacks him by swearing, thus angering the other side and driving away the expert. And complacent. Probably in Will's heart, no one deserves to be his teacher. He needs the collision of ideas and the shock of an instant explosion.

Undoubtedly, Will's extraordinary understanding and high sensitivity have become the high wall of his spiritual salvation.

Fortunately, Thorne is such a charming teacher.

Thorne's educational method is simple, that is, trust and an open mind. Will's former counselors were condescending, while Thorne was not. He told the imperfect details of his life and his unrequited love, and finally broke the ice and entered Will's heart.

Let's see what Thorne has done:

0 1 Educators also have their own bottom line.

This is what I especially admire about Thorne. He let the educated know that teachers have a bottom line. Just because you are a student, you can attack the teacher without a bottom line; Just because you are a student, you can be arrogant and disrespect teachers. Is it because the teachers are giving in more and more?

Thorne did not hesitate to express his bottom line with violence.

When I first met Thorne, Will tried to catch Thorne's weakness and irritate him. Will stopped in front of a painting:

Thorne, like a crazy lion, jumped on Will and grabbed Will by the throat.

Obviously, this is what Will didn't expect. In his 20-year-old life, he always attacked others. He probably didn't expect that a gentle art college professor would hit him back so angrily.

Thorne also announced his principles silently.

Thorne told Will that I won't tutor you unless you tell me how you feel. Sure enough, during the third tutorial, Thorne and Will were silent for an hour. In the fourth tutorial, Thorne and Will kept silent for three quarters of the time, and finally Will couldn't help talking.

"You can feel my concern, but you continue to put me outside the heart. Then I don't have to waste any more time on you. " Thorne told Will the truth in silence. Then you can see that the explosion after silence is more powerful.

Will also understood: this is the teacher's bottom line, and I can't treat him coldly. So, when Will habitually buried his head again, Thorne said, "You are wasting my time by not answering honestly. You go out! " Push Will out of his studio.

An armchair strategist is not life.

There is a particularly classic line in Good Will Hunting, which Thorne told Will in his second psychological consultation. Thorne took Will to Swan Lake in a park and said the following:

I recorded this conversation word for word before the movie, and I really enjoyed it. While recording, I thought, how many such self-righteous children are around us? Talking about war, art, politics, life and love ... besides facing reality and being down-to-earth, he seems to be able to say something to you. Before you started to teach him a word, he quoted some truth from the book to you. When we really look closely, most of them are moaning and childish.

Thorne's talk kills two birds with one stone. First of all, he directly hit Will's weakness: arrogance and cowardice-arrogance on paper and cowardice in front of reality. After hitting Will's heart, Thorne said that he could not "empathize" with Will's childhood sufferings through appearances, which touched the source of Will's pain. Thorne's conversation skills as a teacher are really high, from pointing out problems to thinking from other's perspective to suggesting how to solve them.

Accept the imperfections of yourself and each other.

Look at another line:

Will doesn't want to continue dating Harvard girls because he doesn't want to destroy the perfection in each other's hearts. Thorne told Will that there is no perfect thing in this world, and the true meaning of love is that the integration of people is perfect.

Many times we choose to escape and seem to find each other's weaknesses. In fact, are we trying to escape from our imperfect selves?

You need to know what kind of person you want to be.

Although Will is a genius, he has no plans for his life.

It was Thorne who inspired him to think about several important topics: Have you ever touched your partner in the depths of your life? What exactly are you passionate about? What is your ideal in this life?

I remember a head teacher once told me that when you take over a class that no one wants to take over, one way may be effective, and that is to hold a class meeting and think about the topic "What kind of person do you want to be". After discussing the class meeting several times in a row, it is easy for the class to get on the right track.

Seeing Thorne's problems, I contacted the head teacher's method. Let students immerse themselves in their studies all day. Should we look up at the stars and think about the ultimate topic of life?

Learn to shake hands with your past self.

Will's file was handed over by Thorne.

Only then did I discover that Will had a miserable childhood. Abandoned again and again, beaten again and again, scarred photos, showing an unforgettable past.

In the past, Thorne asked Will to look him in the eye and said, "It's not your fault." Then, step by step close to Will, stare at Will, and repeat this sentence over and over again. Will is obviously a little scared inside. At first, he looked rather cold, then he was a little angry, then he began to cry, and finally he cried with Thorne. At that moment, Will finally said "I'm sorry". At that moment, Will finally reconciled with his past self.

Everyone has the shadow of childhood. What is important is how to face it.

Think about it, how many parents of our generation who grew up in material and spiritual deprivation really understand education? How many methods and influences are considered behind "for your own good"? How many adults dare to look back on their childhood and say that there is no shadow: from domestic violence to indifference, from school bullying to intergenerational support ... What kind of love is not full of holes? Which person's growth is not full of loopholes?

The most important thing is how do we face it? How to complete the transformation and growth of self-mind?

You can regard the failure of your marriage as the fault of being born in a family, you can also regard your escape from the crowd as a continuation of childhood loneliness, and you can also say, "You have never been treated gently by the world, how can you treat others gently?" ... if we return to the original sin, all the sins in this world can be found from the source of growth. However, these are useless.

No one can go back to the past and no one can go back to childhood.

Locked in a shell is a good way to escape and hibernate endlessly. But how can you stand such a life? Since death is also a long sleep, why not go out of your shell and feel the warmth and coldness of the world while you are alive?

Growth is a process of self-repair. From inferiority and cowardice to strength and calmness, it takes a heart to practice in the melting pot. Along the way, there may be mountains and rivers, stumbling, offending people and breaking your head, but those who can't hurt you will eventually make you stronger.

The key is to make peace with your past self, shake hands and tell that self that nothing is your fault.

Then, start from scratch, and then your life will be as beautiful as a flower.