Freud believed that more than 95% of human behavior is controlled by the subconscious mind. In other words, almost all our actions are influenced by the subconscious mind. Then, in the process of children's education, parents must start with understanding the subconscious if they want to stimulate their inner talents. What are the secrets of the subconscious mind?
First, the three psychological laws of the subconscious mind.
1. Subconscious operation rules
The law of subconscious operation means that no matter what seeds you plant in your subconscious, its results will soon appear in your real life.
If you tell a person that you can do it, you will succeed. You keep talking and talking, and one day he will really succeed. And you complain to a person: you are incompetent, you have no ability, and gradually he becomes less and less powerful, and gradually he lives like nothing.
2. The law of specialization
For example, some children have a good talent for languages. If his parents implant language-related things in his subconscious, his language talent will be well developed. As for a child who is sensitive to numbers, his parents are interested in cultivating mathematics. Gradually, the child will subconsciously put mathematics first, and will achieve something in mathematics when he grows up.
3. Substitution law
The subconscious mind can only have one thought at a time, positive or negative. If you want to get rid of a negative thought, you must replace it with another thought, that is, positive thought. If you want your child to get rid of bad habits, you can only replace them with good habits. For example, if a child is lazy, it is necessary to instill the idea of diligence in the subconscious and let diligence replace laziness.
In family education, the law of substitution is particularly important. If parents often use some positive and encouraging words to make their children confident, they can often do things well. However, if parents often complain and scold their children, when they grow up, they will encounter personal difficulties and lack confidence in doing anything.
Second, the six characteristics of the subconscious mind
1. Huge energy.
2. If you don't know the truth, go straight.
In the same way, if parents tell their children that it is right to do so when they are very young, they will subconsciously think that it is right; If parents tell him that this is wrong, the child will subconsciously think that this is wrong. For example, it is normal for a couple who often quarrel to implant quarrels in their children's subconscious, and children will often quarrel in their married life when they grow up. In a family with harmonious and mutual respect, the married life of children will often be harmonious and respectful when they grow up.
3. Poor memory, need strong stimulation or repeated stimulation.
Take the use of chopsticks as an example. Before children learn to use chopsticks, parents will take pains to instill in their children what posture and how to exert themselves. The subconscious mind is like a child, and it is often difficult to remember the information received once. Only through repeated stimulation can we really remember and store it.
This is why when we educate our children, we finally take pains to make them realize that "hitting people is wrong", and as a result, children quickly use "hitting people" to solve the problem. Whether it is positive information or negative information, in order to really implant the subconscious mind and have a certain impact, it is necessary to stimulate it repeatedly.
On the one hand, this feature of the subconscious points out the direction for us to make positive hints in the process of educating children, and at the same time, it also sets obstacles for children to contact with negative hints. If we can find those negative hints in time, we can use the power of the subconscious to delete and isolate them as soon as possible.
4. Easily stimulated by images
5. I like emotional information best.
Emotional fluctuations are most likely to attract the attention, acceptance and storage of the subconscious mind. This is why it is easy for us to remember the saddest, most painful and happiest things, but it is easy to forget what we just finished in the morning. Similarly, the subconscious mind is often the easiest to accept and store emotional information and words with strong emotional color. For example, our childhood wishes, even in the past few decades, are unforgettable and often come back to us under certain circumstances. This is not because we are nostalgic, but because we used strong words such as "wish" and "hope" when we were young.
Based on this feature of the subconscious mind, when educating children, we can use more words with constructive feelings, such as love, faith, enthusiasm, optimism, intelligence, hope and progress. At the same time, avoid some words with destructive feelings, such as timidity, stupidity and disgust.
6. When relaxing, information is most likely to enter the subconscious.
Speaking of the subconscious above, I remembered something that happened after school the other day: a mother picked up her hand and pointed savagely at her son. The child was cornered and curled up with his head down, pitiful. The mother said to the child: You say you are as stupid as a pig, and you still hit others. I slapped you. I was just coming down. At this point, her mood is still very excited. She told the teacher that you look at him now and don't even look at him at home. When you saw me, you were angry.
At that time, the child said to the teacher: "Mom, the teacher was emotional and hit someone. I can't help hitting people. I don't know if it is right or wrong. " It is conceivable that how many negative emotions the mother hypnotized the child.