Xiaogang Feng once said: "Chen is a lofty person who only bows his head in the play." Over 60 years old, he is still persistent and sincere about the performance. In his own words: "communicate with the audience with the role."
Off-stage, he is so low-key and mysterious. Being in a lively entertainment circle, but living in a secluded place, without gossip and hype, is recognized as a "zero bad review" good person.
Chen rarely gives interviews and admits: I've talked enough nonsense in my life. I can't let the audience hear these words with makeup, and I never participate in reality shows and never speculate on my private life. He said, it's already on the stage, so skip off the stage.
As said, Chen doesn't like the scenes of social intercourse, drunkenness, mutual flattery and deep friendship. After work, he doesn't like media interviews and publicity activities. He likes reading, painting, practicing calligraphy, making clothes for his daughter, cutting wallets for his wife ... and doing his duty as a husband and father.
Many people think that Chen's wife must have saved the galaxy before she could marry him! But Chen said: When I had nothing, I took a fancy to me.
Every time I talk about my wife Du Xian, I will proudly say: First, she doesn't judge people by their knowledge; Second, she doesn't judge people by money; Third, she doesn't judge people by their position; Fourth, she doesn't judge a book by its cover.
When they met, Chen was just a walk-on student. Du Xian was born in a scholarly family and entered CCTV as a news anchor as soon as he graduated. The 1980s was the most glorious period of Du Xian's life.
Some even described her as "the most beautiful woman in China". Many old people say that they watch the news just to see Du Xian.
Then they got married. After her daughter was born, Chen was busy filming every day, and the heavy responsibility of taking care of her daughter fell on her.
Du Xian hosts news programs during the day, studies English at the Language Institute, and takes care of the children when he goes home at night. Life seems to be squeezed without a crack. It lasted for five years, and then the work was transferred to the Ministry of Economic Affairs as a behind-the-scenes editor.
This is a brand-new field for her, and everything has to start from scratch. The hardest part is actually in the beginning In order to understand obscure economic knowledge, I study day and night. With this persistent spirit, she was admitted to the Graduate School of Economic Management, School of Cadre Management, China University of Science and Technology for further study.
Whatever she does, Du Xian must do her best. She never lacks the courage to start all over again. Chen proudly said to others: "our family is, everyone is personable, not surprised by honor or disgrace!" " !
1992, she resigned from the iron rice bowl in the eyes of everyone. There may be worries, but it's best to live in the present, she said. After working hard for half a lifetime, she returned to her family, taught her husband and children and continued to learn English. She became "Chen's wife" in the eyes of others.
Later, with the growth of Chen's fame, he gradually retired from the media industry and lost news. It was not until a recent photo of Du Xian came out on 20 14 that Du Xiancai, who had retired, became a professor at China Communication University.
In the photo, she has short and capable hair, her eyes are still bright and her manners are still humble. Such a good appearance must be indifferent, peaceful and open-minded inside.
Now that he has retired, Chen seldom goes out. He hates socializing and never drinks, but he stays at home more often. Their biggest hobby is that husband and wife sit under the window together, she embroiders her flowers and plants, and he cuts his purse.
A successful marriage will make a person love life more and more, become more and more excellent, and make a family more and more warm and harmonious.
In marriage, Du Xian never gave up the opportunity to grow up and constantly worked hard to cultivate herself. Perhaps this is the mystery of their marriage: independent growth and mutual fulfillment. In Chen's words, a good marriage must be made by * * *.
Husband and wife, the greatest significance of this life is not food, clothing, housing and transportation, not having children, but communicating with each other, comforting each other, nourishing each other and achieving each other. Practice in love and walk in love.
We should think about and experience this love, so that our life can awaken and grow in love. Then how can we get the happiness of love and marriage?
Why are there problems and contradictions in marriage? leave
In Buddhism, everything in nature has the power of origin. Any event or object is produced by the existence of many causal conditions and the interaction of * * * *. When conditions change, it will also change.
For example, two hydrogen atoms combined with one oxygen atom are water molecules; Three oxygen atoms combine to form ozone, which has a special taste. Each oxygen atom does not have this taste, but it will add up. This is the origin.
Marriage is also the origin. When the husband exists alone, or the wife exists alone, there is no problem, but put together, it will produce a third force, which affects the husband and wife. This is the karma of husband and wife.
Husband and wife quarrel, husband says husband is right, wife says wife is right. In fact, they are all right. It is the role of this industry in the middle, just like oxygen atoms. Together, the three have a special taste. So when we understand the origin, we will tolerate each other and be grateful to each other.
Take chopsticks as an example. It takes five minutes for a pair of chopsticks to hold a plate of peas. How many minutes does it take to hold a plate of peas with a chopstick? Is it ten minutes mathematically? Actually, I can't catch anything.
From this we can know that for chopsticks, one plus one is not equal to two, but equal to infinity. Because it's useless to use one chopstick alone, and the other one is useless. You can't hold peas, but a pair can, and it's endless. This is also the origin.
That's what couples do. Cherish each other If you want a good married life, you can't just work hard. Husband and wife can live together well. If a family wants to prosper, it must be harmonious, which is the origin of marriage and family.
How to manage a beautiful marriage relationship? leave
Before liberation, people lived in feelings, so managing marriage and love is managing a kind of feelings. Many people are together because of feelings, and friends are together because of feelings. At this level, I feel beyond reason, not because the other party has standards.
Hypothetically? If a girl wants to find a boyfriend and meets all the criteria listed by her, even if the boy is in front of her, she may not be satisfied, because the feeling is decisive. The standard set in mind is just a reference.
So when operating, learn to create a feeling. Many women forget the feeling of home, and many men don't send roses to their wives. What roses did he say? They're all family. A rose 10 yuan, I'll give it to you 100 to buy it yourself.
One hundred dollars didn't personally send that rose to be happy. This is the feeling, an important way for a relationship to exist, and it can be said that it is the only way. So, what is the breakdown of love and marriage? It's all because the feeling is gone
Therefore, the most important thing in interpersonal communication is to manage feelings well. So what's the best feeling? That is love, great love, unconditional love.
For many of our family problems, love is conditional. What do you want to give me in return for my help? This kind of love is an exchange. In exchange for love, it is not even called love, it is fake.
How to practice in love? Walking in love? leave
According to the law of origin, as long as the material conditions change, the marriage will change. The world that people really live in is the spiritual world, so we should have spirit.
Real marriage is to establish the third spiritual world and the * * * belief between husband and wife. This is the real bond of marriage, the guarantee of marriage and the happiness of marriage.
This spiritual world is also well established, that is, participating in the same activities will enrich your spiritual world!
Couples with different spiritual worlds are like two pieces of bacon hanging together, and it is limited to talk about how to love each other in marriage. So you should know that everything is the function of the spirit.
The change and promotion of husband and wife will enrich each other's spiritual world and make the marriage more and more happy.
Where is the joy of life? Everything is unhappy because it has not changed. We should make our life more and more new in our married life and each other more and more new. China has a very important classic called the Book of Changes, which means "change". The Book of Changes is a classic about the changing laws of all things. Our external changes are limited, and our internal changes are infinite. Let others see through, this is the charm, this is the mystery. ?
Therefore, one must grow, and growth means change. Husband and wife need to grow up together and change together in order to build a happy family.
I especially wish you a happy family, good health and smooth career! There is no amitabha in the south!
Zen changers say:
What is love in the world?
I hope to be United as one, and never leave each other.
But this feeling is changeable, impermanence will harm people, and if it hurts people, it will be unhappy. So everything is bitter when it is impermanent. Everything depends on karma.
A happy marriage partner must be our own meeting, knowing each other and knowing each other on the road of internal growth; Marriage is also the only way for us to constantly understand life, break through life and let life grow.
The way for smart couples to get along is to awaken each other, encourage each other and help each other to realize the value and awakening of life.
A good marriage must be made by * *.