Gold is valuable, but family is priceless. The most selfless love in the world is the love of parents for their children; The purest feeling in the world is brotherhood and sisterhood.
Buddha said: it takes several generations for a person to be reincarnated as a child of his parents, a brother and sister of his mother, and a good relationship cultivated by the previous generation. Grandma often said: "some children ask their parents for debts, so they are naughty and make trouble all day, making their parents fidgety;" Some children come to thank their parents and pay their debts. He is obedient and filial to the old. "This statement must be reasonable, and it is the feeling of grandma's long-term practice.
Grandma said I came to pay my debts. I have been clever and sensible since I was a child, and I know that it is not easy for my younger brothers and sisters to understand their parents. I feel that I am both a debt collector and a debtor. Because I have been sick since I was a child, my parents have been worried and sometimes I am afraid that my mother will be worried. When I feel uncomfortable, I can bear it. As long as I find myself listless or my face is burning red, my mother will drop her sewing, sometimes she can't cook, cover the pot, put out the fire under the stove and take me to see a doctor at once. At that time, my father was teaching in other places, and I heard that I had a high fever. With a flashlight and its faint light, I had to ride my bike for more than ten miles to go home and have a look. I got up early the next day and rushed back to my school in Dai Yue. Not to mention how much time and money parents spend on seeing a doctor, their worries about their children and their safety are immeasurable.
I want to repay my parents. At that time, I was still young and incompetent, so I thought I could at least not make my parents angry, so I tried my best to make my sister and brother obedient and make my parents happy. I often save every penny of my parents' pocket money. At the beginning of each semester, I will buy a new pencil box for my brother and sister and tell them that my mother gave me money to buy it. I must listen to my mother, let them study hard and let her worry less. At that time, the children were very satisfied. A little thing can make them happy for a long time. Grandpa always praises me and looks like my sister.
I have known since I was a child that I should respect the old and love the young. In those difficult days, I never had enough to eat and wear than others, and my life was very tight. As we all know, bosses usually have more opportunities to wear new clothes. Brothers and sisters pick up the boss's clothes. I don't like this. Knowing that my parents were going to make new clothes for themselves, I told my mother that I still had clothes to wear. Just make this cloth for my sister and brother. As long as my brother and sister are happy, I am happy. Being brothers and sisters for life is also a rare fate. Why fight and argue?
(2) the relationship between husband and wife
My husband and I were born in a poor rural area. There is a school in the village. We finished junior high school in this alma mater. Although the school buildings at that time were dilapidated, it was our dream that rural children could study here. I remember that the campus is full of dirt roads, and when it rains, it is full of mud. In winter, there is air leakage in the classroom, and frozen hands and feet hurt like cats.
In my mind, my husband has been a monitor for many years. When he was very young, he led a team to shout exercises, kept jumping in the middle of the playground and whistling: "toot, toot, toot". One minute people are running, and the next minute they are going backwards. When I come home from school on a snowy day, I am also like a monitor. He always walks around in the snow, making way for the children to follow, including me, and is often taken care of by him.
He was young and pure at that time. He thinks that he is the monitor and should take care of him naturally. He also thinks that the monitor should take care of his classmates, but after a long time, his classmates don't think so. The teacher also said: these two children are good partners after class. Over the past few years, he has always been named monitor and I have been named study committee member. Ironically, we often buy all the tickets. He is mainly responsible for class discipline, and I am responsible for class study. Rural schools are not very formal, and there were no class representatives before. One class is a study Committee member, who sends and receives exercise books all day, and often shuttles between the teacher's office and the classroom during recess. I was tired for a while and really had enough. I want to quit the improper study Committee, but I can't. Sometimes the monitor sees me struggling to hold a stack of tall books and asks a classmate to help me deliver them together. Students play during recess, but I'm too busy to go to the toilet. After the break, I took my exercise books and handed them out one by one, so it was time for the next class. I have to wait until the next class. The careful monitor had an insight into my heart for some reason. He once grabbed the book in my hand and said, "You go to 1 and I'll pass it to you." (Students all say that going to the toilet means going to the first place.) My face has turned red, and I will often help me distribute books in the future. I really thank him from the bottom of my heart. After all, I solved the urgent need. Looking back now, it is ridiculous and interesting. Childhood friends, two small conjectures, may be doomed from now on, and will be his wife all his life.
I also hate him in the management of class work, and now I think of it as narrow-minded. At that time, there were few substitute teachers, and the head teacher also took his classes. A lot of homework is assigned to the self-study class during the day and the light self-study class at night, which is the responsibility of the class cadres. We divide our work, and often I read the dictation part and everyone writes it; Otherwise, I will copy the teacher's questions to the blackboard, pick two students to climb the blackboard, and then he will stand on the podium with a teaching pole to correct them. I am timid, shy in front of the whole class and afraid to go on stage. No matter how I copy and read the questions, I can't do my homework. I felt miserable, so I took it out on him. I was angry, so I didn't talk to him. I don't blame the monitor for this division of labor. He not only studies well, but also has strong organizational ability. I just study hard and am shy, so I can't show my face.
In the third year, we participated in the math competition organized by the county education bureau. He won the first place in the county, and I won the third place by one point. The headmaster was so happy that the whole school held a commendation meeting for us and let us speak on stage. At one time, we became celebrities in the school. The teacher called us a pair of "boys and girls", the head teacher called us a pair of "good partners" in the class, and the students called us a pair of "good partners".
After high school, I went straight to the technical secondary school, and he joined the army. After graduation, I took the social self-study exam while working, and at the same time he was admitted to the military school. In this way, they are busy, and they have not contacted each other for four or five years. One summer vacation, I was doing farm work in the field, and he stood on the ground and called me, saying that the military school had a summer vacation.
Girls in rural areas have never seen the world, only care about being shy. As for what he said to me, there are not many similarities. I only remember that he encouraged me: "There will be bread, and everything will be fine" and told me: "Losing wealth is only a little bit; If you lose courage, you lose everything. You can't let feudalism and secularism hold you back. " From then on, I broke the calm heart of a pair of teenagers. Although he is affectionate and I am interested, he also knows that my father's family rules are very strict. With my personality, I don't have the courage to break the family constraints. He is very wise, let the class teacher ask my father for matchmaking, the difficulty of resistance is greatly reduced, and the marriage will slowly become a positive result.
Imagine that you didn't realize your dream of being a soldier, but you married a soldier and spent more than ten years with him in the army. These are all fate! There is no rhetoric, no wedding dress or even a decent wedding in our marriage. Everything was simple, only a few tables were reserved. Please invite your next of kin and the leader of the brigade. I don't think it necessary to make a mountain out of a molehill. It's all a formality for outsiders to see. As long as two people love each other is more important than anything else, what's more, his family has no economic strength! Now that the material conditions are good, it's a little regrettable to think of it.
We seldom talk about disgusting things, and we have no commitment to each other. We have been living a frugal life for the rest of our lives, which may be influenced by the family environment. My husband can live better than me and manage money better than me. People say that women are in charge of money, and my family is a butler, who is in charge of wages. Don't think he is stingy, and I don't care about money, but he has it. On the wine table, friends and comrades-in-arms often ask who is in charge of your family: "I rushed to answer:' My husband is in charge'. I know men, so I have to give him enough face outside. Husband often jokes: "There used to be two soldiers (wife and children), but now there is only one soldier (son goes to school in other places), and he is still disobedient." Made everyone laugh. Everyone will always keep up with the sentence: "I really envy you, and the relationship is so harmonious. "
I often feel confused. In my heart, he is not just a husband, sometimes like an elder, sometimes like a big brother, caring for me and loving me. I often ask him, I don't care about things at home. When you are the shopkeeper of cutting, are you tired of running this home alone? Husbands often say calmly, "It is right for a man to support his family and worry about his wife and children. This is called money is hard to buy. "
My husband seldom says I love you, but his daily actions often move me. He knew I couldn't sleep well at night, so he made breakfast on his own initiative. Who doesn't want to sleep in more? I think it is very rare for a man to make breakfast for his woman every day. Is this also a kind of true love? Maybe you think he is a freeloader, but he is wrong. No matter his salary or position, he is higher than me. In fact, how much you pay has no logical relationship with economy and status, but depends on whether you are willing to pay. I think whether a couple, male or female, is happy or not, is not how many people love you, but whether the person who loves you can love you the longest. I never compare with other women. It's boring. I feel happy and satisfied. I like this quiet life and cherish our marriage.
(C) "military wife" edge
When I was a child, I liked writing and often published blackboard newspapers for classes and schools, but this hobby ran aground for many years. Because my husband is not at home, I am both father and mother, son and daughter-in-law. There are always endless chores and no energy to enjoy writing. Reading novels occasionally is a meal to improve one's spiritual life. Nowadays, children are free and want to regain their hobbies. At first, my husband didn't understand and strongly opposed it. "It is said that articles can be eaten and drunk, so why bother the brain. Finally, several became writers. " I retorted, "Do you love playing ball so much because you want to be a national player?" He said, "Where is it? I am just a personal hobby. " "It doesn't matter. Writing articles is also my hobby. I didn't think about becoming famous and getting married, but I like writing and I am very happy. "
Later, I saw that I made so many literary friends in Jiangshan, and my life was very happy and full. I never earned a TV remote control from him again. Especially after the article was published in Military Wife magazine, he was happier than me. I said to him, "Isn't it just a piece of tofu and a small magazine? As for being so happy? Make a fuss. " He said, "Wife, you are too belittling yourself." "Military spouse" is not a cheap product, but a publication for the whole army ... "If not, some comrades in the army called to ask congratulations some time ago. Since then, my husband has changed from opposing to supporting. I joked happily, "I finally kicked you down." It is very happy to have family members to support your hobbies.
Speaking of it, it is a very accidental opportunity to become attached to the magazine Military Wife. One day, I opened QQ, a string of principal Yuchun's window and asked why. President Yuchun repeatedly arranged for me to contact editor Tang quickly so as not to miss the opportunity. It turned out that the director of military spouse magazine found my article "A military spouse's job search experience" from Jiangshan. Like Miao Miao, he found my old club from Jiangshan, President Mu Shiyu and President Yuchun. Tang, editor of the military sister-in-law society, said in the first sentence: "Sister, I finally found you. I've been looking for you for a week. " I said half jokingly, "I'm not a criminal. What do you want me to do? " Here, I am very grateful to them. If any link is broken, my fate with Military Wife magazine will pass by, and there will be no chance for the birth of the last two articles. Without the training of President Tianlong and the help of Sister Xiaobei and Sister Xue Mei, I wouldn't have made progress today.
Military spouse magazine is strict. The first requirement of the article is that it must be true and the author must also use his real name. The article must pass three schools and three trials before deciding whether to use it. If the article involves a soldier, it must indicate his or her army and position.
Posting is not always smooth sailing. Jiangshan. Com prose requires more than 2500 words, and the magazine's "attention column" requires about 1600 words. At first, I wrote very long. Once, I asked the editor to return, and asked me to compress and modify it before submitting it. Another time, I wrote about an advanced figure in the army, and the article was written as a story report material, which was confused with the local work summary. In a short space, it is not easy to write an article vividly, to portray the characters successfully and to have something to say. Just like the short story "The sparrow is small, but it has everything". In the face of harsh requirements, I backed out, and the editor encouraged me: "Don't be discouraged! You don't look like a military wife. " "Is your soldier's bride's family military spouse! You should come back often. " This sentence warms my heart and makes me particularly moved.
Think again, haven't you long wanted to find a website full of military life? Now that I have an acquaintance of Military Wife magazine, I knock on my heart and ask myself: Why did you back down? You shouldn't. The article is taken from life and comes from life. I feel that soldiers have an endless world, so I rearrange my mood, salvage my memory, recall the touching stories of my military brothers, and decide to record my many years of military career with my husband in words, and express my true feelings and unforgettable military feelings to everyone and share their ups and downs.
Because she married a soldier, she became a military wife; Because the child will go to the military camp after graduation and will become the mother of a soldier. Now I have become attached to the magazine Military Wife, and it is also a rare fate to write articles with her. I am deeply honored. I think this is a gift from God and a glorious task for me. I would like to pick up my clumsy pen and sing praises to those warm-blooded men who silently contribute to the country and the people, and to those young people who don't like red makeup and love armed forces.
No matter who I know or not, the soldiers in the world are family. As a family member of a soldier, I hope the army will prosper and the military family will be happy! I am one of countless military wives. I am willing to do my bit for the military spouse magazine and accompany you all the way!