Son Gao Chen 14 was admitted to the juvenile class of the University of Science and Technology of China. 18 years old, received a full scholarship from a famous American school to pursue a doctorate. Daughter Gao Chen, aged 65,438+06, entered the first experimental class of educational reform in South University of Science and Technology. At the age of 20, she won full scholarships from three world famous universities to pursue her doctorate.
In 2006, Gao Chen, aged 12, entered Ruian Middle School with the first prize in the National Mathematics Competition and entered Class 06(3). The head teacher is Sue.
This is a century-old prestigious school, and Son Ye Jin, an alumnus who contributed to the asteroid being named the Star of Ruian Middle School, was regarded as an idol by Gao Chen.
Teacher Su said that the scene when she first came to school left a deep impression on her.
At that time, 12-year-old Gao Chen was taken to Ruian Middle School by his father. At this age, other children just entered junior high school.
Chen's father told the teacher that he had taught himself mathematics and physics textbooks for three years in high school.
Teacher Su said that she was a little confused at that time. She is worried that the young Gao Chen really has mastered the knowledge points of high school textbooks.
"I teach chemistry, so I asked him some chemistry questions to test him." She said that Gao Chen answered this question very clearly, and his own thoughts and opinions were also included in the answer.
"This is very rare. He is the youngest in the class, but his learning ability and understanding ability are super strong. " Teacher Su said that this was also reflected in the later learning process.
Teacher Su recalled that when he was at school, his schedule was different from that of other students in the class.
Because he is young and needs more sleep, he is not allowed to study in the morning.
"Sports in Gao Chen is relatively weak. After all, he is three or four years younger than his classmates, and some can't keep up with the rhythm. " Teacher Su said that because of this, she didn't attend classes for most of the afternoon and was arranged to exercise or study at home.
During the examination, Gao Chen was one of the first students to hand in his papers, so the teachers would give him some extra meals.
Gao Chen studied in Ruian Middle School for two years, and then was admitted to the junior class of the University of Science and Technology of China. Teacher Su said that his learning ability is so strong, not only because he is diligent and can study hard, but also because he has a pair of educated parents.
The reporter interviewed Chen's father.
Look at his tutoring experience—
How to let children learn to teach themselves and learn time management?
How to guide children to aspire?
Gao Chen's father, Chen Qianlin, was the principal of a local school in Rui 'an, and now he is the principal of Country Garden Experimental School and a famous family education expert.
Chen Qianlin believes that holidays are the best time for parents to help their children develop their autonomous learning ability, and mastering this skill will benefit their children for life. As long as parents are willing, they can use their free time in winter and summer vacations to guide their children to learn this skill. The following are some of Chen Qianlin's experiences in educating Gao Chen and Gao Chen.
It is better for children to teach themselves than training classes.
How to make children develop the habit of self-study?
Self-study begins with exploring and expanding learning. Guiding Gao Chen and Gao Chen to explore began in early childhood, with slightly lower requirements and more game colors.
The difference between inquiry and game is that learning guides the game, in which there are more learning purposes, more assumptions, associations, classification and reasoning, and more reflections and feelings. The "topics" explored by the two children involve animals, plants, astronomy, geography and history. Because they are young, it is impossible for them to achieve "scientific achievements" in their inquiry, but unconsciously, their knowledge has been broadened and their learning ability has been developed.
The extended study of the two children began after school, around a theme, or went to the bookstore to find books and magazines, or browsed online, or asked the teacher for advice. Whenever there is interesting content in the textbook, the two children always systematically understand it by expanding their learning. I guide children to expand their learning.
Chinese, for example, focuses on cultivating listening, speaking, reading and writing skills. I guide children to read and read newspapers freely and listen to their "reports" from time to time, which invisibly cultivates their literacy, reading ability, analytical ability and oral expression ability.
In mathematics, I guide my children to play intellectual games and read stories about mathematicians. In science, I guide children to watch popular science TV programs, browse popular science websites and read popular science books.
Expand your study and do exercises, and do some corresponding exercises around what you are interested in. The two children bought some problem sets and chose freely according to the teacher's teaching progress. There are some test papers in the bookstore. The two children chose some difficult problems to do, and the overall learning effect was good. Both children have the habit of sorting out the wrong questions, copying the questions they usually do wrong or think for a long time to come up with in a special notebook and looking through them from time to time.
Gao Chen went to primary school at the age of six. At the end of the semester, Gao Chen and I discussed and made a bold decision: advanced placement.
Gao Chen jumped directly from the second volume of the six-year program to the fourth volume of the five-year program. At first, Gao Chen's grades were not good. After half a semester, his grades came up. After advanced placement, Gao Chen was praised by teachers and relatives, and developed a strong interest in learning. After reading the fourth book, skip another year and go straight to the seventh book. Similarly, the results have caught up again.
After two advanced placement, I gave him textbooks to teach himself. When he didn't understand, my husband and I helped him solve his doubts. English (excellent course) is difficult to teach by myself, so I asked Teacher Xie Jingru to help me teach for a while. After keeping up with the lessons of the same grade, I guided him to stick to the habit of self-study and take time to learn extra-curricular books by himself.
After the beginning of each semester, Gao Chen always finishes the whole textbook by himself soon. By the time she was in grade two, Gao Chen had finished her math and science studies in grade three. Even though it is difficult to teach himself English, he always studies ahead of time.
Studying ahead of time increased Gao Chen's confidence and improved his learning ability.
When Gao Chen was in the third grade, he had finished the course of Grade One. After high school, I also taught myself at home in the afternoon. When I was a freshman, I took a course in Grade Two. When I was in Grade Two, I taught myself all the courses in Grade Three.
Self-study gradually became a habit after my sister Gao Chen read the second day of junior high school. She can basically tell what is important and what is difficult. Every weekend, Gao Chen will teach himself next week's content, first complete some supporting topics for next week, and start to get high marks.
During the winter vacation, Gao Chen basically taught herself the second semester of Grade Two. By the end of the second day of junior high school, Gao Chen had finished the junior high school courses by herself. Gao Chen took part in the mock exam for the senior high school entrance examination, and his performance was among the best.
We all have to work. Gao Chen taught himself at home every Tuesday and Thursday when he was a freshman, and every other week after his sophomore year, all by himself. Because of his great ambition and strong overall self-control, Gao Chen arranged his study and life in an orderly way. By the end of the second year of high school, I had finished all the courses in high school by myself.
When my children grow up, my daughter comments on my family education. The first thing my daughter said was, "My father seldom asked me about my schoolwork, but he gave me valuable self-study ability …" My son also said, "My father guided me to learn by myself, freeing me from the troubles of homework and the shackles of standard answers and embarking on the road of scientific research …" Indeed, guiding my children to learn by themselves was the most risky and successful experience in my family education.
Parents often ask me that children refuse to learn when teachers teach. How can your child be so conscious? I firmly believe that this has something to do with my guiding children to set up lofty aspirations. Ambition and self-study are the core elements of my family education. I firmly believe that it is the most important golden key for children's growth-ambition will produce gravity and self-study will produce thrust. If you have these two powers, ordinary children may also become great talents.
Guide children to yearn for
My greatest experience in family education is determination and self-study. The twins in my family are lofty aspirations established at an early age, inspiring them to overcome difficulties bit by bit and move towards success step by step.
How to help children set up lofty aspirations? I really work hard!
This is a good way to expose children to celebrities. When I moved from the countryside to the urban area of Rui 'an, I purposely settled on Hongqiao Road, which has the deepest meaning in Rui 'an. Often bring children to the door to "find the footprints of celebrities." For example, I visited Yuhailou, the former residence of Sun Yirang, a great scholar in the late Qing Dynasty, and Lijitang, the earliest medical school in Zhejiang Province. I went to lakeside park many times to read the inscription of Academician Sun Yisui.
I also often take my children out for study tours. If I take my 5-year-old daughter to Weihai, I will go to Liu Gongdao to take photos related to the Sino-Japanese War and guide her to serve the country scientifically. Take my 9-year-old daughter to the Confucius Temple in Beijing to see the calligraphy and stone carvings of the top scholars in previous dynasties. Once I took my 7-year-old son to Tsinghua, and I managed to eat in the school cafeteria by myself. Walking on the path after dinner, I said, "Every stone under this foot has been walked by celebrities." The son said, "Yes, including today I was walking."
Reading biographies of celebrities is also a form of dialogue with celebrities. The biographies of celebrities that children saw and were influenced when they were young include great scientists who changed the world and so on. The stories about scientists such as Newton, Marconi and Fleming in the book are very enlightening. They like Miracle Road best. This book about Einstein's biography is the most precious treasure of two children when they were young.
I have a widely circulated saying about education: "Education should let children have dreams, help them pursue their dreams, and don't care too much about whether they have realized their dreams." Indeed, the importance of family education lies in giving children dreams. Where there is a dream, there is a miracle; where there is a dream, there is gravity; where there is a dream, there is spiritual strength.
How to let children learn time management
It is most important to make a timetable and strictly implement it.
Some children learn efficiently, while others drag their feet. Here, from the perspective of family education, I will introduce to you a knowledge of how to guide children to learn time management.
If you manage your time well, you can combine work and rest, which is not only beneficial to your physical and mental health, but also can improve your learning efficiency.
When my children were young, there was an oral timetable. After school, I guide them to make a timetable. My family education thought is:
It is a hard requirement to make a schedule of work and rest. When children taste the sweetness, it is easy to make them change from heteronomy to self-discipline.
As for the schedule, it is the child's own business. I'll advise, but in the end it's up to the children themselves. If it is not easy to realize, it can be changed at any time. For example, children say they get up at 6: 00 in the morning, read books from 8: 00 to 9: 00,10: 00-1:00 do exercises ... I can do anything. After a while, the child said it was too early to get up at six in the morning, so change it until the child was satisfied.
Once a timetable is made, it must be strictly implemented. In our family, it is wrong to play games during study time, and it is also wrong to study during play time.
The foundation of family education is "rule of law". Some parents like to take care of their children all the time. This is "rule by man". It seems that they can also take care of children, but relying on adults to tell them what to do can easily make children form a passive character. "Rule of law" is different. Parents are in charge of rules, and rules are in charge of children. Children know the rules, and it is easy to follow them voluntarily, and it is also easy to form a good habit of self-discipline. There are no rules at home, that is, there are no laws in the country. Work and rest schedule is an extremely important rule of time management.
There are many advantages to letting children make their own schedules: first, it is easy to implement and parents can control it more effectively. At least the child has no reason to resist. Secondly, cultivate children's sense of independence and decide their own lives. Family education is not to control children, but to cultivate independent personality.
Son 14 years old was admitted to the juvenile class of China University of Science and Technology. During college, my son basically went to bed at 10: 00 at night and got up before 7: 00 in the morning. Later, my son's GPA in the Chinese University of Science and Technology ranked high in the Department of Mathematics, which was related to the good schedule.
Professor Andy Chen, former dean of the junior college of the University of Science and Technology of China, once told me that two important factors determine whether a child can become a talent, one is the ability of time management, and the other is the ability of planning. I agree with him very much. In my opinion, guiding children to make and implement timetables can not only cultivate their time management ability, but also cultivate their planning ability in the process of making timetables. It seems that the schedule of work and rest can not be ignored.
Lack of interest gave up the Olympic competition.
Don't follow the trend and choose to give up some learning projects.
On July 26th, 20 16, after the opening ceremony of the Pacific Rim Conference on Differential Geometry, Qiu Chengtong, academician of the European Academy of Sciences and winner of the Fields Medal, gave an hour-long lecture, followed by a 22-year-old boy.
This young man is my son. In the past year, my son gave speeches at the University of California and the University of Wisconsin. On September 20th of that year, he was invited to give a speech at Harvard University. After all, you are only in your early twenties, and it is not easy to have such academic achievements.
When my son is over two years old, he is particularly sensitive to numbers, such as the page number of the book, the license plate number of the bicycle, the house number, the telephone number and so on. And he always says it over and over again.
I found that he was particularly sensitive to mathematics, so I consciously cultivated my interest in mathematics. For example, a "chopsticks toy" was developed, and chopsticks were sawed into several sections for placing numbers and mathematical formulas. This game has been eight or nine years old, which greatly promoted the development of mathematical thinking. There is also a game of poker with 24 points, which lasted for the whole primary school stage.
On the one hand, it is to strengthen the interest in mathematics, on the other hand, it is to eliminate interference. I always feel that if you want to learn everything at the top, you may actually lose something more important. I made my son give up some study projects, such as art study and writing training.
When he was in middle school, his son had a certain ability of self-study. When I was in the third grade, I was fascinated by the Olympiad. My son went to the bookstore to find almost all the Olympic books he could find for self-study, and actually won the first prize in Zhejiang, so he was admitted to Ruian Middle School in advance. Self-study of Olympic Mathematics often encounters great obstacles, and because of his strong interest in mathematics, the more difficulties he encounters, the more he learns.
However, his son participated in the Olympic Games in the first year of high school and missed the national award. Senior two took part in the Olympics again, but still lost. I asked why, and he said it was boring to learn Olympic Mathematics. At this time, the teacher suggested that the remedial classes in Shenzhen should be strengthened for about one year to win the Olympic Prize, so as to be able to walk to Peking University Tsinghua. I asked my son what to do? He said that studying was ok, but he always felt uninterested. Since I am not interested, I will let him give up, so that I can have more free time to study other courses by myself. After the second year of high school, my son took the college entrance examination and was admitted to the juvenile class of the University of Science and Technology of China.
After graduating from college, my son applied for a doctorate. I hope he chooses statistics, and I also asked Mr. Cai, a "genius magician". Teacher Cai also thinks that statistics has a good prospect. At that time, Mr. Cai's eldest son Cai was a professor of statistics at the University of Pennsylvania, and his youngest daughter Cai Tianxi was a professor of biostatistics at Harvard University. I want my son to study statistics, so I may ask Cai Jiaying for a favor. But my son chose his favorite major in differential geometry. My son video chats with me once a week, which shows his great love for mathematics. He said, "Mathematics is art and beautiful", and learning mathematics is as interesting as "cricket fighting" as the tutor said.
People often say that interest is the best teacher. My son can enter the forefront of mathematical research mainly because of his interest. I think, if I find my son interested in mathematics since childhood and ignore it, or follow the trend and let him attend a miscellaneous training class; If he loses interest in olympiad, it is because of the utilitarian nature of enrollment in prestigious schools that he is forced to insist; If the university or doctor mobilizes or even forces him to choose economics and statistics; Maybe it will be a major mistake in family education.