Load negative energy, not positive energy.

You say he can, he can;

If you say he can't, he can't;

You cheer for him, and he will surprise you one after another.

You say that he is inferior to others, and he will prove that he is really stupid with his actions;

Children don't lack advantages, and parents lack guidance. Let's work together for our children! In the series of classes of Nut Tribe, I was fortunate to hear a wonderful lesson from Xiao Chunxiu, who expounded the problem of stimulating children's internal drive, which is worth discussing.

The child's initial heart and motivation are very important. His initial words and deeds came from nature and needed constant response and contact. How to respond to children has become a science.

When the child's reaction is actively strengthened, it will gradually become a habit. It is commendable to say what you don't understand. Specifying questions is a kind of ability. For example, "I can't do this math problem" is general, while "I can't do this math problem vertically" is concrete and shows a more accurate expression. It is necessary to strengthen children's ability to solve problems and let children get used to a good virtuous circle. Of course, this kind of strengthening needs a lot of preparation in the early stage and should be done step by step. Children's good thinking habits are priceless and need a little guidance from parents.

The child's growth needs our long-term participation, but the ultimate goal is to quit gracefully and give him the strength to fly to a free and broad spiritual zone.

In the long academic journey, children need homework guidance and thinking training. Some parents separate the two, send their children to discipline remedial classes and thinking training places respectively, and then wait for the flowers to bloom. In fact, the growth of children's mind needs the integration of courses and the subtle influence. Then, why don't we take homework as the carrier of thinking training?

Slowly let go from a certain point, this is a trick of Teacher Xiao, which is very practical and effective. This method can be used for application problems, dictionary lookup, composition writing, etc. Faced with a composition topic, where can't I write it? Stimulate his mind. "Scene description? Start? Material? " Where there are problems, we should deal with them and combine habits with homework instead of isolating them. Let children know what they want and how to overcome it.

There are two situations for children to dawdle, one is that they can't do it, and the other is that they can't do it. There are children who need companionship and children who don't need companionship. In addition, the child's mental maturity is also sooner or later, so it is necessary to analyze the specific situation. Most children are used to writing and playing at the same time, while parents expect to finish it at one go. Personally, I think that a child is very efficient when he is motivated, and he should be given all kinds of encouragement to make him confident that he can finish it regularly. When children dawdle, if parents are anxious or even furious, it is generally not possible, and the result is often counterproductive.

There is another situation, when the family is not together, communication is needed, and benign communication in good faith, or even long-term communication, will make one party no longer run counter to it. For example, there is a phenomenon in class, and it is a living phenomenon. There are often accused fathers or mothers: "It is the fault of the husband (wife) that the child has poor grades, bad mood or bad habits!" This kind of accusation or criticism is often harmful, either to pour cold water on children or to destroy family relations. Yes, you think it's the other person's fault that the children are not well raised; So, this is the credit for raising children? ! God bless? Education needs long-term vision and long-term support, but the idea of quick success and instant benefit is narrow and biased.

What should parents do when there are contradictions in parenting views? Many traditional practices are that parents stand on the teacher's side, attack the child's mistakes, and suppress the child to make him obedient. Teacher Xiao put forward a brand-new view that the requirements of the school are unified, which is unfair to many children. Helping children to resist external pressure and protect children is one of the principles of parenting. Parents should not be amplifiers, but buffers.

Children are flowers with unlimited potential. How to stimulate their abilities and find resources that match their abilities and interests is the common wish of parents and teachers. Parents should have a broad vision, not be limited, and give their children more room for development. Let him find fun and grow up freely in happiness. Have appropriate expectations for children and pursue spontaneous cultivation.

Of course, in the adult world, there are different types. Creative, conventional, free, etc. Don't dwell on the details he is not good at and match him with more resources. Sometimes, adults need to really let go of something, such as letting others see your ability through your children and pushing your children into the vanity of learning hegemony. You should be careful with them. When these pressures become motivation, it is positive energy; It's just that when the pressure is high, it's negative energy and danger.

"Planting trees for ten years, educating people for a hundred years". Education is a long-term project, and it will take twenty years to see the results. In the process of subtle influence, let us silently pay love and care. Generally speaking, when you encounter setbacks, you can see the right or wrong way of education.

Every ordinary person may encounter certain situations, such as lovelorn, unemployment, career failure and so on. It used to be a sky, but it often fell into a swamp. There is a word called "depression", which is usually considered as a psychological cold. Its ultimate explanation is "the world is meaningless, and I am inferior to others". Once a person is infected with depression, it is actually difficult to recover.

So, how should we motivate children? What are the principles and methods? Please remember those nine words: "low threshold, positive feedback, positive cycle."

The core of praise is not that sentence, but sincerity without utilitarian purpose. "You did a good job!" This is an appreciation of the behavior at the moment, not a prediction. It is human nature to expect something when praising children. The sentence composition of language is not important, but the power from the heart is important. So pay attention to the language, but also pay attention to the core.

Good boy likes to brag. Find something to boast about. There is always an idea in my heart that "I wish I could do this every day", which is an impure compliment, and 90% of parents do it.

Going back to an old-fashioned topic "doing homework", our core goal is to finish homework with high quality, but have we considered the nature of children?

Our distant ancestors dabbled in collecting genes and were good at free movement. How to play? How to finish homework? Make an appointment Playing and learning can actually be done at the same time.

No matter what you do, you must give an important belief. Learning is a happy thing. You can turn learning into a happy game and learn while playing. You can turn writing into a speech and guide him to make progress step by step to attract the audience. You can turn English into phonetic magic and make him linger.

Nothing in the world can be done overnight, and learning needs repeated practice. When grading children, we are used to 100. If it is not good enough, we will deduct points and keep deducting points. In fact, we can change the method and start from scratch. In fact, children's growth starts from 0, which is an irresistible growth law. If you really start from scratch, every day of your child will be a smile and a surprise!

May the wishes of children be generated and accumulated bit by bit. Our wishes and objective methods will help children show their inner drive, make a little progress and move towards rotten spring. ...