Don't let boys become more and more like girls. Children should be educated like this. Parents are always very cautious about the cultivation of their children and try their best to help them solve their growing troubles. Educating children is a career worth investing in. The following is the content of not making boys more and more girly!
Don't make boys more and more girly. First, appropriately "help the poor" and compare with others.
"Never wan ku, few great men" means that too much material enjoyment may lead to the comparison psychology of boys, and the infinite satisfaction of material needs will make boys lack strong will and manly responsibility. Therefore, it is best for boys to "help the needy", instead of focusing on children and engaging in special treatment, so as to avoid cultivating children into playboys who pursue material enjoyment, extravagance and waste, do not know love and do not know gratitude.
"Poor support" does not mean not to buy delicious, fun and beautiful clothes for children, nor does it mean deducting the normal needs of children, otherwise it may raise boys to lack confidence and wisdom. The connotation of "poor support" is not to blindly meet the requirements of children regardless of their own economic situation. First of all, we should rationally guide boys to realize that it is a shame to enjoy their achievements and actively resist this behavior. Secondly, we should respect "poor support". For example, if a boy clamors for toys, parents should not scold or drag them away casually, but guide them patiently. You can learn from Americans, even the children of the rich, go out to work to make money and buy what you need.
Second, learn to let go and promote independence.
Boys need their own independent space more than girls. Huang Quanyu, an American education expert, said in How to Cultivate Children with Full Potential: "The ideal state is that parents are not conformist and there is an atmosphere in the family that supports and encourages innovation. If parents are not innovative, they should be open-minded and broad-minded, and don't control their children too much. " Therefore, parents may wish to give boys more independent space and learn to let go.
Letting go education is not to let children let themselves go, but to let parents do a good job in their children's life education while letting go, to restrain their words and deeds, and to let children learn the tolerance, understanding and tolerance necessary to get along with others, and to form a healthy and perfect personality. It should be noted that it is not to suppress the boy's rebellious behavior, but to reflect on and understand the psychological reasons behind the rebellious behavior and find a solution, otherwise it may hinder the boy's psychological development.
Third, frustration education has become stronger.
A large-scale survey shows that 70% unmarried women think their boyfriends are "weak" and "irresponsible" and call them "nipple men". This is mainly because parents like to wrap their children with love, help them arrange everything, and make boys weak and refuse to grow up. When they are wronged and hit, they will avoid, yield or give up, that is, "eggshell psychology."
Parents can give some frustration education to boys appropriately, so that "raw eggs" will become firm after being cooked. First, boys can be asked to do what they can, such as taking care of a potted flower, watering it every day and fertilizing it regularly, so that children can realize that it takes effort to do anything. Second, children are often not very purposeful and planned, and they do things from beginning to end. Parents can encourage their children in time, let them learn to be self-motivated and do everything well from beginning to end. Third, when encountering setbacks in study or life, help children objectively analyze the reasons and guide them to face setbacks with a correct attitude. For example, "although I didn't get the ranking this time, I made progress than before"; "You can't sing, but you are good at math. Strive to participate in the Olympic mathematics competition "and so on.
Fourth, words and deeds depend on the father.
Boys who have contact with their fathers for at least 2 hours a day are more harmonious, enterprising and masculine than boys who have contact with their fathers for less than 6 hours a week.
The boy's gender identity can not be separated from his father's role model effect. Boys in early childhood need to get rid of their attachment to their mothers and gradually accept their fathers and others. At this time, the father's alienation will make the boy more attached to his mother. When they grow up, it is difficult for them to integrate into the collective and be surrounded by inferiority. Therefore, the father can't be absent from the boy's life.
As he grew up, his father became more and more a role model for boys. If the father seldom helps his wife with housework, the boy will naturally not do housework. Because in their minds, they have formed the impression that housework is a woman's business and men have the right not to help. Fathers should set an example and tell their children how to get along with others and what kind of distance to keep in interpersonal communication; Clarify the rules, cultivate their self-control ability, and let boys grasp the "degree" of behavior themselves.
Fifth, explore active intervention.
Androgen makes boys move and like to explore. In the eyes of parents, they are restless and naughty boys all day. Behind the boy's mischief is his practical ability and innovative ability. Parents should make rational use of this feature, do not interfere with boys' creative activities, and do not give them too much restrictions and protection. No matter how difficult it is for children, such as making ship models and climbing trees, boys should be allowed to try first. Even if I finally give up, it should be my own idea, not my parents' stop. A particularly noisy boy might as well go with him first, make him run crazy enough, and then play some quiet games with him, or draw pictures and read books.
Don't make boys more and more girly. Nowadays, whether in the workplace or in life, there are more and more phenomena that women are stronger than men. "Who says women are inferior to men" has been well verified in this era. It can be seen that in the market, many female CEOs, etc. , can be competent for men's work, and even because women are delicate, they do better than men in some things.
Why do contemporary men look worse than before? Women have surpassed men, which is related to everyone's living environment and the living environment of this person since childhood. Ann can tell whether I am a man or a woman, and all my children are women. We can see a lot of small fresh meat on some variety shows. With their exquisite appearance and excellent singing and dancing talent, they have won the favor of many contemporary teenagers.
There is a famous small fresh meat. Once I was watching his TV series at home, my mother passed by and told me that this girl was very delicate. And I immediately told my mother that this was an actor, and my mother didn't know how to respond to me in an instant.
Nowadays, the feminine appearance of male artists in the entertainment circle accounts for 60%, which makes many old artists very dissatisfied. Boys should be masculine, so feminine appearance will have a great influence on contemporary teenagers.
At present, parents' ideological education is still relatively traditional. Boys should look like boys and learn to show their "masculinity", and many small fresh meats dress up to cater to the audience.
Many children also find it difficult to find a correct position because of the influence of TV programs, thus becoming more and more feminine boys. This is the influence of the times on children.
First, why is the "feminization" of boys in society getting more and more serious?
Now, after walking in the street for a long time, you will find that some men have lost their original image of "sunshine boy" in dressing, but have become beautifully dressed. Lipstick, blush and liquid foundation are all applied to the face, and some are even more delicate than girls, which is the so-called "piggy".
Why are children becoming more and more feminine now? The reason is closely related to social system and growth environment.
① Feminization trend of contemporary artists.
Now almost all the hot news is reported around "small fresh meat". Any hot news about "small fresh meat" will be taken to the hot search for the first time, which is also the favorite thing of children now. These "small fresh meats" are very rich in appearance makeup. It is this kind of dressing that has won the praise of many young people and the imitation of many people. They also want to be as glamorous as artists.
The teachers around me are mostly women.
You will find that children's teachers are mostly women, and children who grow up in an environment with many women are easy to be feminine.
③ Parents overprotect their children.
Parents overprotect their children and don't let them take risks to do something, so the boy's nature is bound, which leads to his inner personality, more self-protection and gradually less masculinity.
The formation of children's personality is closely related to their living environment.
Second, what is a child who lacks "masculinity"?
"Masculinity" is what every boy needs. No matter in ancient times or now, many male images are deeply imprinted in our hearts, such as Jason Wu's film Wolf Warriors, and so on, and this masculinity is conveyed through movies.
Of course, there are people like Jia Baoyu, and his personality is closely related to his environment. His character is not the legendary "masculinity", but has become feminine.
I like to dress myself up.
What such people like to do most is to dress themselves beautifully and exquisitely, which is a relatively intuitive manifestation of the lack of masculinity. They will pay attention to the management of their appearance, especially in their hair styles.
Don't like adventure and exercise.
Parents should pay attention to their children when they don't like to explore more new things. Is it because they lack masculinity that they are unwilling to take risks?
Third, children's lack of "masculinity" is often due to the lack of fatherly love.
People often say, don't marry children from single-parent families. Why? Because many children in single-parent families live with their mothers, many children will become feminine because they have been with their mothers for a long time, thus lacking men's masculinity and sense of responsibility.
Single-parent families lack fatherly love. Children in single-parent families, no matter which parent they are with, will have personality defects. Therefore, a child's personality is closely related to a complete family. Many children from single-parent families are prone to autism and even lack some motivation, precisely because the family does not give enough love.
Fourth, to prevent children from being "feminine", how can parents raise their children to be more "masculine"?
Don't let children become more and more "sissy". Children are not "manly" This is a concern of many parents. They are afraid that their children will be misunderstood. The child's "girlish feeling" is not only manifested in the appearance, but also makes the heart gradually feminine in many cases. Therefore, parents must pay attention to their children in time if they find that their children are beginning to have a "girlish" trend.
Take more children to participate in adventure activities.
Excessive protection of children will make children afraid to explore the more exciting world outside, and their personality will become timid. Even boys will become introverted because of the overprotection of their families. Therefore, parents should learn to let go properly, let their children explore bravely and show men's brave spirit.
② Let children do outdoor sports.
Let children take part in more male-dominated activities and cultivate their masculinity, so that boys will become muscular, powerful and more confident.
Tell your child more about your gender.
When a child appears "girlish", let the child be gender-aware, tell the child that he is a boy, as powerful as his father, and then protect his mother and let the child know his responsibilities.
The feminization of children is becoming more and more serious, which is closely related to their environment. Parents, as a mirror of their children, should give them a correct view of values and make them masculine.