Speech on sharing parents' educational experience 1 Dear teachers and parents,
Hello, everyone.
First of all, I want to thank Mr. Wang for giving me such an opportunity to discuss with you. In the meantime, I must correct it. Just now, the teacher said that I introduced successful experiences, but what I want to say next is also our failure and educational confusion.
I remember the night before my son Tang xx first went to school, he woke up three times-the child was very excited, but in fact, he was just a child. Our parents are very excited. I once talked to a parent who was present. I said, do you feel excited and a little stressed? Parents nodded.
I don't talk about excitement. What I want to discuss is: Why do we have slight pressure?
Are you afraid that your child will lose to others? Bad grades? Being bullied? I think I have everything. On the other hand, people have a pre-job training for any position, except when their parents have nothing; What salary do people have? We only have bitter water.
This is how we feel as parents.
Now I want to tell some stories about my children's growth during this period, so as to discuss the education of children, and we can further communicate after the meeting.
First, "I don't want to be small, I want to be big."
A few days after school, my child came home excitedly. It seems that he gained a lot, but as he spoke, his mouth changed: people bullied me.
"Oh, tell me, how did people bully you?"
"They said I was a little guy." It turned out that he wore a kindergarten uniform to school that day, and a group of classmates made fun of him.
"Oh, yes, I think everyone is right. You are really younger than others. You see-that's why we need to eat more and exercise more. "
"I don't want to be small, I want to be big."
"That's right."
"But they always want to touch my head."
"This is not necessarily a bad thing. Let dad see what this question is about. " I don't know for a moment. Later, I contacted my teacher, who often touched his head after answering questions. Slowly, he understood: this is really not a bad thing.
This little thing gives us some thoughts: children aged six or seven are actually very eager to grow up, eager to wait for respect and eager to be affirmed. In fact, as long as we explore children's inner world carefully, we will find that nothing is trivial in children's world, but everything is important. Once, as soon as the child came home, he said to me, it's strange why the teacher ate moon cakes in the office when I handed in my homework. Because in the world of children, his teacher is almost a fairy in the sky, and he doesn't eat human fireworks. If this is clear, it is not difficult for us to understand why children who forget to bring their school seals refuse to enter the school gate, and why a small eraser is a big world.
Second, "Mom, can you pick me up later?"
We always pick up the children ahead of time, but once we suddenly said, "Mom, can you pick me up later?" . We are a little confused.
"Anyway, you can pick me up later." We agreed to the child's request.
The next day, at the end of school, the phone at home rang.
"Mom, I report to you at school now. I dropped out of school. You can pick me up. " As soon as we heard it, we understood that we sold him a telephone magnetic card to give the child a chance to make a phone call by himself.
This little thing gave us a great shock: children are eager to be independent and eager to try. We always do everything for children when they need or like to try, such as getting up, carrying schoolbags, sorting out study materials, cleaning and so on. As everyone knows, while expressing our love for our children, we also let them lose a good exercise opportunity. Last year, when our child was in a large kindergarten class, we took him to subscribe to the newspaper. When ordering newspapers this year, we only took them to the door of the post office, and he went in to go through the formalities skillfully; Just last week, one of his classmates also wanted to order newspapers, so he volunteered to lead the way. What is self-cultivation? Can we understand that children can make progress little by little until we achieve the expected results?
Third, learning is your own business.
Most first-grade children regard school as an interesting thing. In their naive eyes, going to the first grade is the same as going to the big class. So their homework now is the same as that made by hand in kindergarten. Because of this, we should take this opportunity to strengthen the awareness that learning is our own business.
Last Monday, we found that the child forgot to cut his nails.
"Why don't you cut your nails?"
"You didn't say you wanted to cut your nails."
"Yes, we didn't-"I had nothing to say at the moment, but he cut his nails anyway.
When he went to the toilet, I asked him:
"Did you wipe your ass?"
"Sure, is there anything else to say?"
"Yes, I do things myself, don't I?"
"yes."
"Is manicure your business?"
"Yes-"Now children will understand that learning to cut nails is their own business, and they have to do their own things. Learning here should be learning in a broad sense, including learning, life and sports, that is, moral, intellectual, physical and artistic work. How to cultivate? We think it's best to take advantage of the great opportunity that children are very interested in school study. For example, we insist on talking to our children for half an hour every night, so that they can talk about interesting things about school and how they feel about learning. Once we talked, there was nothing to talk about, so we changed roles and asked him to interview his mother. Finally, her mother said to him: yes, work is my business; Learning is your business, you should do your own thing well. Recently, I sent an exercise, and he asked me to do 20 exercises for him, and said that I would arrange to finish it three times a day: morning, noon and evening.
Another example is the detail of carrying a schoolbag. From the first day of school, we said: Do your own thing, the child is very happy, so until now he has been carrying his own bag. For example, in this parent-teacher conference, we asked his advice: should your father or your mother attend? His answer is: the parent-teacher conference is your business, and you can do your own thing.
Another example is the exam. In the last Pinyin (vowel) exam, the child got 88 and went home uncharacteristically quiet. I didn't know until I contacted my teacher that he didn't study this part in kindergarten and didn't go to preschool in summer vacation, so he was naturally unfamiliar. When we helped him analyze this, I tried to say: Can you go to the teacher and ask him to give you some advice? Unexpectedly, he agreed and talked well with the teacher. Later, I thought: this test still has a lot of gains: first, let the children try what is failure; The second is how to analyze the failure; The third is how to treat failure; Fourth, learn to ask the teacher for advice. It means more than 100%, because sometimes the failure of thinking is more worthwhile than the joy of success.
This mid-term exam, the child is full of confidence, I must take a 100+ 10, because the teacher said that four red flowers can be added! On Monday, the test papers were handed out, with Chinese 98- 1 and math 99+7. After we comforted and encouraged him, he told us the reasons why he failed in listening and writing in the Chinese exam. He is a little careless in mathematics. To be honest, we are very satisfied with the child's own analysis. Academic performance is important, but how to treat it is more important. If children can slowly discover their own advantages and disadvantages in the exam and adjust them in time, it should be worthy of our affirmation.
Fourth, family is the best school.
Xiao Yueran recently had a very annoying thing, that is, he had a good chat with a classmate in another class the other day. When he got home, he gave him his favorite yo-yo. The classmate said he would give him a yo-yo, but after many days, nothing happened.
"I met him several times, but he never mentioned it." The child is full of grievances.
"Shall I buy you one?"
"This is what I want." We found that what the child really wants is not the one he gave to his classmates, but waiting for their return. Or in other words, what children want now is not the ball, but the real friendship.
"You can do this: keep asking him to come back, wait, remind him and try to forget." We give him an idea and let him choose.
"Don't wait."
Looking back on this incident, we are glad that we didn't simply do something, such as calling the child stupid and simply letting the child get the yo-yo back, without putting all the responsibility on him. Although this matter is still inconclusive, in this process, children have learned to analyze and choose, which is enough.
School is the main position for children to learn; Family is a good school for children to study. At school, children have a lot of homework, such as Chinese, math, music, art and so on. At home, they also have homework such as housework, eating, sleeping and communication. For example, doing housework, as long as the child can finish it, might as well let him do something, such as placing dishes and chopsticks, such as tidying up his room, such as watering flowers and so on. There are at least several advantages for children to do housework: first, to cultivate the equality consciousness of children's family members; The second is to cultivate children's labor habits; The third is to let children observe life initially and accumulate materials for words and expressions.
Education is teaching by example. At school, it is more about words and deeds. At home, they are more role models. For example, watching TV online is our parents' hobby, but since our children went to school, we have always insisted on watching TV online after their children fell asleep. For example, reading, when you read, children will involuntarily follow. A parent told me a true story. He was very strict with the children when they were in primary school. They are not allowed to have children everywhere. Once, their classmates called him and asked him out to play. For safety reasons, when parents answer the phone, they tell each other that their children are not at home, and the children always remember. When the child was in the second grade, a customer called their store to place an order. As soon as the child answered the phone, he said, You are looking for my dad, and he is not here. Hang up the phone.
It should be pointed out that we were also very afraid of children making mistakes at school. In fact, from another angle, if a child behaves well and has no problem, then it is of little significance for him to go to school. I understand education in this way: create situations to make children succeed or fail. Of course, we should praise success. If failure makes him try to get up by himself, he will be stronger. So to be optimistic, education is to let children find problems and then solve them.
Interest is the best teacher and habit is the best reminder.
Listening to stories is the interest of all children. I remember that when the child was in a small kindergarten class, his mother would tell him several stories every night. Both mother and son listened and read. After a while, we were surprised to find that the child could know many words. We tried to let him see it for himself, but he actually read it with relish. I wonder if all of you here have found out what books children like to read best nowadays? My children's favorite books are science and nature. I think this may be because children's cognition of objectivity starts from these aspects.
He likes reading, expressing, making friends and watching TV.
But when it comes to watching TV, many parents have a headache. We used to be very upset. We have thought of some methods, but they all feel unscientific. At present, our approach is: let children understand that watching TV is a kind of leisure and a kind of learning, so they should also devote themselves to watching TV and be serious; The second is to let him learn to arrange his own time, for example, watch a few more minutes every day and arrange his own programs according to the channel, but not too concentrated; The third is to accompany him to watch programs, such as "Super Change" and other useful programs; The fourth is to use the program content as a topic of communication to guide children. In this way, children will feel that watching TV is as important as learning Chinese and math, and watching TV is also a good study.
With interest, habits are easy to form. We are particularly happy that many habits have been formed since children started primary school, such as living habits: going to bed at 8: 30 every night on time, waking up naturally after 6: 00, brushing their teeth, washing their faces, eating, tidying up their schoolbags, wearing a red scarf with a badge, finishing their homework first thing at home, and then exercising. Everything is in good order, and occasionally he breaks the rules and changes it if he is reminded.
Of course, I believe every family has a difficult book to read. We used to worry about our child's short stature for a while, and always thought about how to increase the amount of exercise, which always made him panting. Later, I thought about it. If physical education is a subject, if physical education is also an examination item, what we are doing now is not exam-oriented education. In fact, growing up is the same as learning other lessons. Step by step, not in a hurry. In the eyes of our parents, we may be more concerned about how children learn Chinese mathematics. In fact, children's physical, ideological quality, interpersonal skills, hobbies and special habits are as important as children's Chinese and mathematics.
Dear parents, if we compare the children's school days to an endurance race, then the children are still at the starting line. They have plenty of time and opportunities, and the most important thing for us is to encourage, support and guide them. Education expert Ringo once said; The best shoe is that you don't always feel it when you wear it under your feet. The best education is to let children try it themselves and only do it when they need our help.
More important than children's academic performance is the success of being a man.
More important than children's success is their healthy growth.
I sincerely wish all parents present here a harmonious family and healthy, sunny and happy children.
Thank you again for your guidance and arrangement. Thank you.
Speech on sharing parents' educational experience 2 Dear teachers and parents:
Hello, everyone.
First of all, I want to thank Mr. Wang for giving me such an opportunity to discuss with you. In the meantime, I must correct it. Just now, the teacher said that I introduced successful experiences, but what I want to say next is also our failure and educational confusion.
I remember the night before my son Tang xx went to school for the first time. He woke up three times. The child is very excited. In fact, he is just a child. Our parents are very excited. I once talked to a parent who was present. I said, do you think you have a feeling of excitement and a little pressure? Parents nodded.
I don't talk about excitement. What I want to discuss is: Why do we have slight pressure?
Are you afraid that your child will lose to others? Bad grades? Being bullied? I think I have everything. On the other hand, people have a pre-job training for any position, except when their parents have nothing; What salary do people have? We only have bitter water.
This is how we feel as parents.
Now I want to tell some stories about my children's growth during this period, so as to discuss the education of children, and we can further communicate after the meeting.
First, I don't want to be small, I want to be big.
A few days after school, my child came home excitedly. It seems that he gained a lot, but as he spoke, his mouth changed: people bullied me.
Oh, tell me, how do people bully you?
They said I was a nobody. It turned out that he wore a kindergarten uniform to school that day, and a group of classmates made fun of him.
Oh, yes. I think everyone is right. You are really younger than others. See, that's why we need to eat more and exercise more.
I don't want to be small, I want to be big.
That's right.
But they kept touching my head.
This is not necessarily a bad thing. Let dad see what this question is about. I don't know for a moment. Later, I contacted my teacher, who often touched his head after answering questions. Slowly, he understood: this is really not a bad thing.
This little thing gives us some thoughts: children aged six or seven are actually very eager to grow up, eager to wait for respect and eager to be affirmed. In fact, as long as we explore children's inner world carefully, we will find that nothing is trivial in children's world, but everything is important. Once, as soon as the child came home, he said to me, it's strange why the teacher ate moon cakes in the office when I handed in my homework. Because in the world of children, his teacher is almost a fairy in the sky, and he doesn't eat human fireworks. If this is clear, it is not difficult for us to understand why children who forget to bring their school seals refuse to enter the school gate, and why a small eraser is a big world.
Mom, can you pick me up later?
We always pick up the children ahead of time, but once we suddenly said, Mom, can you pick me up later? We are a little confused.
Anyway, you can pick me up later. We agreed to the child's request.
The next day, at the end of school, the phone at home rang.
Mom, I am reporting to you at school now. You can pick me up after school. As soon as we heard it, we understood that we sold him a telephone magnetic card to give the child a chance to make a phone call by himself.
This little thing gave us a great shock: children are eager to be independent and eager to try. We always do everything for children when they need or like to try, such as getting up, carrying schoolbags, sorting out study materials, cleaning and so on. As everyone knows, while expressing our love for our children, we also let them lose a good exercise opportunity. Last year, when our child was in a large kindergarten class, we took him to subscribe to the newspaper. When ordering newspapers this year, we only took them to the door of the post office, and he went in to go through the formalities skillfully; Just last week, one of his classmates also wanted to order newspapers, so he volunteered to lead the way. What is self-cultivation? Can we understand that children can make progress little by little until we achieve the expected results?
Third, learning is your own business.
Most first-grade children regard school as an interesting thing. In their naive eyes, going to the first grade is the same as going to the big class. So their homework now is the same as that made by hand in kindergarten. Because of this, we should take this opportunity to strengthen the awareness that learning is our own business.
Last Monday, we found that the child forgot to cut his nails.
Why don't you cut your nails?
You didn't say anything about a manicure.
Yes, we didn't say that I had nothing to say at the moment, but he cut his nails anyway.
When he went to the toilet, I asked him:
Did you wipe your ass?
Of course there is. Anything else to say?
Yes, you do things yourself, don't you?
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Is it your business to cut your nails?
Yes, now children will understand that learning to cut nails is their own business, and they have to do their own things. Learning here should be learning in a broad sense, including learning, life and sports, that is, moral, intellectual, physical and artistic work. How to cultivate? We think it's best to take advantage of the great opportunity that children are very interested in school study. For example, we insist on talking to our children for half an hour every night, so that they can talk about interesting things about school and how they feel about learning. Once we talked, there was nothing to talk about, so we changed roles and asked him to interview his mother. Finally, her mother said to him: yes, work is my business; Learning is your business, you should do your own thing well. Recently, I sent an exercise, and he asked me to do 20 exercises for him, and said that I would arrange to finish it three times a day: morning, noon and evening.
Dear leaders, teachers, parents and friends,
Good evening, everyone!
I am honored to share the experience of family education with you here. Children's progress is inseparable from the hard work of school teachers. I would like to take this opportunity to express my heartfelt thanks to the school leaders and teachers. Thank you for your hard work.
In just 5 minutes, I can't share the educational methods for children one by one and share some representative views with you. Every family and every child can't be the same. Maybe some methods are suitable for this family and useful for this family, but they may not be suitable for another family. So, today's experience is just a sharing process.
The first point: knowledge is more important than scores.
I often say to children: knowledge is your own, knowledge can make us smart, knowledge can make us full of wisdom, knowledge can solve many problems, and so on, so that children can understand the importance of knowledge.
At the end of every exam, I never ask my child how many points he got. I want to read the test paper with my children, no matter how many points, 70 points or 90 points, the first thing to do before I get the signature of the test paper is to look at the test paper questions to see where I lost my points and what the reasons were. Is it carelessness or failure to master this part of knowledge? After a long time, every time she analyzes the test paper with her children, she can take the initiative to find the existing problems. Sometimes she will be embarrassed to say: Oh, I am careless again, I shouldn't lose points here, or I can't do this problem, or I understand it wrong, and so on. My goal has been achieved, and children begin to understand where their problems are and know that they are wrong, so it will be much easier to correct them.
The second point: make up for what is missing.
As we all know, children need calcium when they have calcium, and zinc when they lack zinc. The same is true of learning. When the child came back with a score of 70, we first analyzed the test paper and found that the child had not mastered that knowledge well, so we made up that knowledge for her. Once, my child's Chinese reading comprehension was not very good, and she kept losing points there, so I bought some reading comprehension questions for her to practice writing. After a long time, children can gradually know their own problems. When they were in the fifth grade, they found that their math was always difficult. She offered: Mom, I want to make up math. In fact, I know it's not that I have poor knowledge, but that I'm too careless, so I bought some math test papers. When the child is free, I will let her practice writing in a relaxed environment if I am willing to accept it.
The third point: the order of homework completion.
Do the homework of copying first, and then do the homework of checking information, endorsing and previewing; Do the homework you are not good at first, and then do the homework you are good at; Do more homework first, then do less homework; Do the difficult homework first, and then do the easy homework. Because children's energy begins to be more abundant, and eventually they will be more tired and have no spirit.
Looking up information, reciting, previewing and other homework will take up more time and less brain power, while writing homework, especially math, needs to be done first. Finally, although endorsement also requires brains, it can be done in a relatively relaxed environment. You can lie in bed and recite while eating fruit. When your child makes a mistake while reciting to you, don't interrupt, and finally tell him that it is wrong. Thirdly, you can give an action reminder when you recite (it is best for children who are good at homework to finish it faster, and those who are not good at it will be slower. First, they can finish it slowly. Finally, time is tight, but the rest are what children are good at, which can be completed quickly, with less psychological burden and much better effect.