The education of sons is enlightened, but the education of daughters is rigid.
Ceng Jize, the eldest son of Zeng Guofan, is the earliest and most famous diplomat in China. Under his mediation, the Sino-Russian Erie Treaty was signed, which saved China's huge losses. Zeng Ji Hong, the second son of Zeng Guofan, is a famous mathematician. He calculated the value of pi to 100 after the decimal point, which is a great achievement. In Zeng Guofan's era, only taking part in the imperial examination and gaining fame and fortune was the right way, and diplomacy and mathematics were not inflow. Instead of stopping them, Zeng Guofan supported and encouraged them very much. At Zeng Guofan's side, there are many westernization movement talents. Encouraged by Zeng Guofan, they helped Ceng Jize to study diplomacy and mathematics in Ji Hong, which played a very important role in their great achievements in their respective fields.
Compared with the education of sons, the education of daughters is much more conservative and rigid. Apart from Confucianism, his education for his daughter is a set of frugal housekeeping methods. There is nothing wrong with managing the house diligently, but it is in big trouble to be obedient and virtuous. This is also the premise of how unhappy his daughters are in marriage.
Zeng Guofan's education of his daughter is very strict. The youngest daughter was lively and lovely, and Zeng Guofan loved her the most. When the youngest daughter visited him in the Governor's Mansion, she dressed better and more brightly, which made Zeng Guofan feel too expensive. She accused her little daughter of not dressing like this and told her to change quickly.
Zeng Guofan's educational thought of three obedience and four virtues, coupled with strict educational methods, made his daughters honest, stuffy, boring and resigned, which laid the foundation for their bleak lives.
Pay attention to your spouse, but only look at your father and not your mother.
Zeng Guofan pays attention to the right match in choosing a spouse for his children. Therefore, the objects he chooses for his children are the children of old acquaintances and colleagues, and their fathers are all of good conduct.
Liu, Zeng Guofan's daughter-in-law, married his eldest son, and his father, Liu Rong, was a close friend of Zeng Guofan's fellow villagers, the commander of the Xiang army, and an ancient prose writer of Tongcheng School in Qing Dynasty. He was knowledgeable and had a broad vision. Liu was smart and studious since childhood, and was very loved by his father. Under the influence of her father, she received a good enlightenment education. She is not only familiar with poetry and books, but also has developed the habit of thrift.
Zeng Guofan's second son married a daughter-in-law, the daughter of Zeng Guofan's Jinshi Guo in the same year. Guo worked in Jiangsu Huaiyang Daotai and was killed by Taiping Army. His family entrusted Zeng Guofan to take care of him, so he got married. He had four sons and a daughter, and Ji Hong died at the age of 33. His wife, Guo, is 34 years old and her children are underage. It's all because Guo brought up the child alone.
It can be said that the marriage of Zeng Guofan's two sons is happy. Zeng Guofan's suitable mate selection standard seems feasible, but this standard is good for his son and completely different for his daughter.
Zeng Guofan has five daughters. His eldest daughter's name is Zeng, and her husband Yuan Yusheng was appointed by Zeng Guofan. Marry young? .
Yuan Yusheng's father is a bibliophile with a very good personality, but his son Yuan Yusheng is impetuous and idle, and he took a concubine without telling his father-in-law before getting married. Shortly after my marriage, I went out to drink and drink. Being married to him is like jumping into a fire pit.
Zeng Yaoji, Zeng Guofan's second daughter, married Chen Songnian, Zeng Guofan's adopted son. Chen Songnian's father, who used to be Zeng Guofan's man, was also very nice, because the Taiping Army defeated and committed suicide. Chen Songnian has no skills, but he has a bad temper. He always scolds Zeng Yaoji. Once resigned to fate, life was no fun.
Zeng Guofan's third daughter, Zeng, was upright. She was betrothed by Zeng Guofan to his good friend, General Xiang's son Luo Zhaosheng. Two in-laws once founded Xiang, and they have a good personal relationship. When I was young, I decided on this marriage. But this third son-in-law is a dude, drunk all day, wandering in the flower street and Liuxiang. There is such a dude, and generally there is a mother who indulges her son too much. She has no knowledge and no pattern. Zeng's mother-in-law has a bad temper, a bad temper, and a bad temper. Her handmaids dare to insult this daughter-in-law.
Zeng Guofan's fourth daughter, Zeng Ji Chun, was betrothed by Zeng Guofan to Guo Yiyong, the eldest son of his friend Guo Songtao. Guo Songtao was China's first ambassador abroad, but his son had a good personality. Unexpectedly, her husband died young, and Zeng's mother-in-law was Guo Songtao's side room. She was mean and hostile to Zeng. When the solar eclipse reaches coarse rice, only the vegetable garden is used as a dish, and the cost of one or two pieces of silver per month is also stingy. It's hard to know. ? He raised two young sons and died at the age of 35.
The daughter-in-law that the son marries is human, as long as the person is good. Daughter married to face a family, only a good family style! Zeng Guofan's standard of choosing parents instead of family style is biased, which leads to the marriage result of his four daughters. Zeng Guofan saw the unfortunate marriage of his four daughters, learned from these mistakes, and married his youngest daughter to a family with a good family style, so he was happy all his life.
? Although the husband is not virtuous, the wife must be happy. ? Hurt the daughters
Zeng Guofan is a faithful believer in Zhu Cheng's Neo-Confucianism, believing in three obedience and four virtues. He firmly believes that monarchs can be unkind and ministers can't be unfair. A husband can be immoral and a wife can't be unhappy.
In order to transform his eldest son-in-law, Zeng Guofan brought Yuan Yusheng, the husband of his eldest daughter Zeng, to the army. And Yuan Yusheng lied to his father-in-law, even relying on his father-in-law's? Umbrella? , wantonly soliciting prostitutes, Zeng Guofan is not good to tidy up him directly, so he has to take it out on his son-in-law's servants and prostitutes, which makes Yuan Yusheng feel humiliated and tries to commit suicide by swallowing opium, which is a sensation and makes Zeng Guofan lose face. After Yuan Yusheng's corruption was discovered, Zeng Guofan was so angry that he broke off relations with him directly. This makes Zeng even less valued. She tried to return to her parents' life several times, but Zeng Guofan resolutely refused. Zeng Guofan said, I can break off relations with him, but you can't come back.
The third daughter was in a difficult situation in her husband's family. She also wanted to go back to her parents' life, but Zeng Guofan refused. Zeng Guofan also charged in his letter home. I should ask Third Sister to obey and respect, and don't say anything against it. I advise you to be able to bear hardships and stand up to the gas. ?
Zeng Guofan taught his daughter to be obedient, made her son-in-law push his luck, and made her situation worse.
It is often said that China has two and a half saints, and Zeng Guofan is the half. Zeng Guofan is determined to be a saint, but he is not a saint after all. He believed in Zhu Cheng's Neo-Confucianism, and it was three aspects of Zhu Cheng's Neo-Confucianism that influenced him, making him educate his daughter with wrong ideas and hurting her.