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Care less, let go more, and fill the potholes in parent-child relationship with "insensitivity".

When the epidemic struck, the unit announced that it would work from home and the school began to teach online. Adults and children seldom gather at home 24 hours a day. Is this unexpected "parent-child time" a surprise or a shock? Is the parent-child relationship more harmonious, or is life and work a double blow?

As a working mother who has worked at home for 2 months, I feel it's a long story. Once upon a time, "flexible work" and "working from home" were both words of "high above", and people in the workplace wrote their yearning on their faces. Unexpectedly, an epidemic made my dream come true with surprise. However, working at home meets going to school at home, which tastes sour and refreshing.

Working at home is also a job, try to do it; Online classroom is not just a classroom, it really needs a special "Ma Fei". Especially in the lower grades, children with poor self-control ability and no experience in online classes suddenly take online classes, which is called a situation. After a while, he shouted, "Mom, I can't hear the teacher!" " After a while, he eagerly asked, "Mom, how can you raise your hand to speak?" Hurry up! ""After a while, it was: "My exercise book is missing, help me find it!" "Everything is urgent, and every minute is on the verge of separation.

At the same time, the mother of the child is also working, colleagues communicate, and leaders explain that every piece takes seconds, and no one's business should be delayed. As soon as the online class is called, he can't wait for himself to split in half. I used to just send my children to school, but now I have to become a 24-hour study assistant. We should not only help with online classes, but also urge children to do their homework and help upload photos and videos. Panicked parents flashed from time to time: "Help! What about the video of the art class? " "What homework was assigned to the math class today? Eva said she didn't know. "

Therefore, it is not difficult to understand why some hotels have launched "online baby care packages" some time ago. The first reaction of all the mothers I know is: be careful!

If you are just a little busy, forget it. The key is that the parent-child relationship is still facing severe challenges. 24-hour seamless intimacy will undoubtedly maximize the advantages and disadvantages of both parties. The teacher asked questions in class. Why didn't my child raise his hand when all the other children answered? After-class exercises, why are some children praised by teachers, but my children are not? Anxiety keeps gathering, and I gradually feel that this and that are not good for her. The children spit: Mom, you are too wordy! Go away! The feeling of mutual dislike can be quickly realized as long as you stay at home for two or three days.

Just, calm down and think about it, my children are not perfect, isn't this what I have long known? As an adult, I can't do everything best; It is normal for a child to have such shortcomings. The intimate relationship between people, especially with children, sometimes needs a little "passivity".

The so-called "numbness" refers to a kind of dullness. Don't exaggerate every detail and don't care about everything, otherwise, you are likely to run out of energy in the triviality of life. Only by putting it down properly can we get along happily. This truth is actually applicable to adults and children.

Of course, home life also has troubles and unexpected sweetness. Online courses have increased my daughter's free time. Seeing her mother do housework, she will suddenly have a passion for housework. Take the initiative to pick up the mop and mop the floor, although I need my mother to mop it again after mopping the floor; Help my mother choose dishes automatically, although the dishes she chooses are particularly expensive ... but it is undeniable that the children's efforts. Learning to do housework is also a way for children to explore unknown areas and a sign of willingness to share labor with their parents.

Maybe not every child is like this, but staying at home gives us a chance to jump out of our accustomed daily life and do something that was neglected or difficult to achieve before. For example, some children will fall in love with sports, some children are keen on making handicrafts, and some children spend a lot of time painting ... We might as well take advantage of the situation and let children take this opportunity to do more interesting things, which may lead to unexpected gains.

After a period of online classes, I found a strange thing: after class, the children are still reluctant to leave the studio for a long time, even if they just listen to what their classmates say on the computer, they are also very happy. Children can't express, but I know-this is loneliness.

Children are like this, and so are adults. Being locked in the house for many days without socializing, people will feel lonely and depressed more or less. Home is not only a concept of space, but also deeply affects all aspects of life. Stress and depression can make intimate relationships tense. On such a special day, it is even more necessary for family members to tolerate and support each other, care less, let go more, and fill the potholes in parent-child relationship with "passivity".

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