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China's parents are in such a hurry that they are so busy with their children. Why do you say that? Look at the following example.
Xiao Wang's child is in the second grade this year. Before they went to school, they had begun to learn English, piano and painting. After school, they began to take swimming lessons and Olympic math lessons. Xiao Wang's wife is now taking care of the children at home, but before the children go to school, she still has a job like Xiao Wang. As for why it's gone now, it's easy to understand-to accompany the children.
It can be said that Xiao Wang and his wife are very concerned about their children's education. Xiao Wang teaches their children math and logical reasoning. Xiao Wang's wife accompanies her children to various interest classes, although some classes are shrinking and shrinking, reducing and reducing.
According to Xiao Wang's wife's personal description, I feel more tired than taking children to work, and I have to worry about getting angry every day. Of course, I'm happy that my children are learning well, but I'm more worried and distressed than my children. When Xiao Wang's wife said these words, her eyes kept staring at her watch, ready to pick up her children from school.
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The above example is not a case, but a true portrayal of many families, especially those middle-class families with good family background and high academic qualifications. They are deeply anxious about education and crazy about their children's education.
Why is this happening? Nothing more than the following reasons:
The children around the house are studying, but their own children are playing: the neighbor's baby is learning the piano, and his own baby is still playing around outside all day. At this time, parents will be unable to sit still, fearing that their children will become poor students in the future.
Teaching children in the way others say, but it's useless: after listening to various parenting courses of educational experts, like various educational books of educators, I finally found that the children are still the same and have not changed.
The competition for further studies has become fierce, and the admission conditions have become stricter: young students are promoted to small ones, small students are promoted to early ones, and early students are promoted to early ones. Every level is like crossing a wooden bridge. Parents should always pay attention to information, seize any opportunity and try to choose a good school for their children.
Worried about the future, I am afraid that children are helpless to change: the fire of artificial intelligence, examples of machines defeating human beings emerge one after another, countless people will be replaced by machines, and the state also attaches importance to artificial intelligence education. These changes have caught parents and children off guard.
Some people divide the above four reasons into: comparative anxiety, vacant anxiety, stress anxiety and long-term anxiety.
It is these four kinds of anxiety that drive parents crazy, and they are eager for every bit of trouble in their children. Because of these four kinds of anxiety, I actively compete when I see a good school district, for fear that it will be gone one second later. As soon as I heard that there was a good training class, I signed up quickly for fear of falling behind in the future. Some people have given a profound summary of this phenomenon, and I personally agree that every parent has become an art of action because of the great anxiety brought by education.
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So, are parents abroad anxious? Actually, I'm anxious, but I'm not that crazy, because foreign parents treat their children as their own, and they don't want domestic parents to treat their children as their own. This is the difference.
Children are born and raised by their parents, but schools are provided by the state, teachers are provided by the society, knowledge is learned by children themselves, and fate is mastered by children themselves. Parents must not affect their children's future for their own sake, but for their own face and selfish desires as parents, which is the source of great anxiety for parents in China.
It is understandable to make up lessons, compete for school districts and visit famous schools, but in this process, we can't ignore the educational law and growth speed of children, because it may be more important to give spiritual support to children when striving for more good educational resources. Parents must not be carried away by the so-called educational anxiety, otherwise, parents in China will really become the most pitiful people in the world.