Method 1: Encourage children to learn.
1, establish a reward system. We sincerely believe that work must be rewarding, so you should also make your children's studies rewarding. Do less housework, get ten yuan more pocket money, and watch TV longer. No matter what the reward is, as long as it can motivate children to learn and meet the conditions at home. Be sure to explain the system clearly and stick to it. There are two ways to "bribe" children: tell them that if they study, they can get something. For example, if they study for an hour today, they can get a piece of chocolate or 30 minutes of free time. Some children may not buy it.
Tell children that if they don't study, they won't get anything. If they don't study for an hour today, they won't catch up with their friends.
2. Motivate children with goals. Without a deep understanding of learning, children may feel that learning lacks goals and is abstract. Be sure to let them know how important learning is to them. Talk to them and tell them that studying can improve their grades, so that they can be admitted to a better university in the future and do what they want to do. Try to tell them how a semester's study will affect their long-term goals and plans.
3. Connect the subjects that are not very "interesting" with the subjects that children like, and arouse children's interest. Most children are naturally good at certain subjects. As time goes on, they will like subjects that are easy to learn and hate subjects that require more effort. This aversion will lead children to choose to escape when they encounter difficulties and make excuses to say that they don't need to study. Children may form the idea that they don't need to learn mathematics, because "no one usually uses algebra". Before that, you must put an end to this idea as soon as possible. Help them realize that although learning according to their own interests will make schools more interesting, all-round development is also important. In order to prevent this kind of problem, you can associate the subjects they don't understand with the subjects they are good at. Use examples and comparisons. For example, if your son likes history but hates mathematics, you can try to attract him with the history of digital development and tell him stories about famous mathematicians to add a little romance to the subject; Or let him know that mathematical methods such as carbon dating can help us better understand the historical era.
Tip: Ask your child's teacher, knowledgeable friend or offline or online tutor to help you solve this problem. You can consider using online resources such as games and teaching videos to arouse children's interest.
4. Consider enrolling your children in advanced courses in subjects of interest. If your daughter hates doing English homework, but is willing to spend a few hours doing scientific experiments, consider signing her up for a science summer camp or a youth course in science, technology, engineering and mathematics. If your son doesn't like studying for exams, but is keen on practicing musical instruments, you can let him join a youth band or hire a music teacher to encourage him to hone his musical skills. If it is clear that children must keep a certain degree of investment in "boring" courses before they can continue to learn what they like, it may stimulate their interest in learning and make them abide by some kind of learning discipline.
5. Let children know knowledge, not just study. It doesn't matter if children are encouraged to learn new things every day, even if they are trivial. If your children don't understand the meaning of understanding and loving knowledge, then no matter how they study, they are just reading dead books. Let children experience the joy of understanding knowledge. Maybe you don't have to do anything, and the child will take the initiative to learn. Take the child to a public place that can stimulate her thinking. Take her to the air and space museum, natural history museum, art museum or aquarium. Take her to the library, zoo or theater. Take her to a place that excites her.
Find interactive ways to encourage children to study at home. Show him a documentary, let him play educational games or buy him books. Ask him questions and teach him to look at the world around him with suspicion.
6. Find "interesting" learning methods. By using flashcards, personalized study manuals or post-it notes in children's rooms, you can even encourage children to study with friends by email. Jump out of the inherent mode of thinking. What makes children dislike learning may not be textbooks, but the way of presentation. Try different methods and adjust children's learning style until they can stimulate their interest. If a child wants to learn in some way and make the learning process interesting, you should support him or her. If they don't care about learning methods or don't want to learn at all, it will be beneficial to put forward some ideas that may attract their attention.
Method 2: Guide the learning process
1, making learning a pleasant thing. For example, you can ask them to draw cartoon pictures or charts, and make mind maps or mind maps. Sometimes, they can be encouraged to enjoy learning just by doing some simple things, such as giving them some colored pens, felt pens or gel pens. Look it up online, and you will find interesting videos on many topics, or role-playing scripts and ideas, so that children can play their creativity and enjoy learning.
Step 2 get involved. Care about children's learning and know which knowledge they think is easier and which knowledge is more difficult. Be familiar with the textbooks that children are studying. If you don't know the basic concepts of algebra yourself, it is very difficult to help children learn this course. Knowing what children need to learn can help you help them learn better. Take the initiative to consult their teachers if they lack understanding of the difficult knowledge in their eyes. Don't let children ask the teacher, they may forget about it, or they are afraid to ask questions alone. You should meet your children, find a teacher and find the best way to ask for advice on your lifestyle.
Find time to do their homework with them. Don't tell them what to do, but help them all the time. Sometimes, children feel nervous because someone is watching them study. They don't like this feeling. Try to study with them or give them some space.
3. Minimize interference. Turn off the TV and move the game machine. If children study on the computer, be careful not to let them play games. Consider blocking some websites on your computer, or disabling the Internet during designated study hours.
4. Know under what circumstances children's learning efficiency is the highest. Knowing how to do it can make her more engaged, improve her learning efficiency and strive to create an ideal learning environment. Think of the child as an individual with his own needs and advantages. If your child has a strong visual memory, try to get him to read the article aloud and repeat what he saw in his own words. Some children better remember what they have written or touched, so repeating the process of solving math problems or writing down historical dates can help them learn. If a child learns most efficiently by listening, you may need to read aloud to help her remember knowledge. Arrange the study time every day reasonably. This will help children concentrate on their studies and make them feel that it is time for them to do something.
Try to understand under what circumstances, children's learning efficiency is the highest. Do you want to put something to eat next to you when you want to improve your study efficiency? Do they like studying quietly, or do they study while listening to music? Do they prefer to sit at a desk, or on the sofa or on a yoga ball when studying?
Tip: Some parents mistakenly think that their children have not spent enough time on their studies because they have not sat down for a long time. Different children have great differences in the speed of learning, writing and understanding. Your son only sat down to study for an hour before the big exam, probably because he mastered knowledge quickly.
5. Consider hiring a tutor. The teacher may suggest that you hire a tutor. If you can afford tutoring, you can try. Hiring a tutor can help children learn and even let you learn some knowledge. If you can't afford the tuition, one-on-one teaching by teachers may solve the problem. Many schools also have peer counseling programs to let some students teach other students. Finally, you can surf the Internet at any time and find some well-received dialogue and video counseling services.
6. If the child is young, try to accompany him when studying. Be sure to let them know that you are willing to help them, but don't let them rely too much on you when thinking about the answer to the question. Be patient, active and tolerant. As children grow older and become more disciplined and independent, you may need to leave and let them develop the habit of learning independently.
7. After the children finish their homework at home, check it. Read their compositions, do their homework and check their math homework. Consider checking the answers and using them to correct mistakes. Be sure not to belittle the child or bore him or her. Your counseling should be positive and relaxed. Don't put pressure on your child and make him feel heavy.
Method 3: Develop discipline
1, let children realize that learning style is very important. Set an example for children. Find a person who loves learning, take your children to meet each other, let them ask him or her questions and find out why they love learning so much. Tell your children the story of your childhood school and show how challenging and interesting learning is.
2. Start at an early age. Once children begin to receive any kind of education, they should be taught how to allocate their time reasonably. Tell them that schoolwork is more important than playing games and watching TV, and let them get into the habit of doing their homework before doing other things.
3. Teach them to understand the consequences of various behaviors. In some areas, schools may not require students who fail any courses. But you can usually find some summer cram schools, whether on campus or off campus, it doesn't matter. Children may be reluctant to accept summer tuition, but you can use this opportunity to let them know that studying hard at ordinary times will give them more free time in the summer vacation. A cram school can help children catch up with their classmates' learning progress in the next school year and avoid falling further behind.
Try not to force children to study. Doing this for a long time will cause children to try their best to avoid learning. If you put the children at the desk, lock the door and let them read the textbooks for three hours, they will probably not do as you wish. If you constantly emphasize the importance of learning to them and yell at them when they are not studying, children may get tired of learning and dislike the authority figure in the family, that is, you. If you convince children to learn in a more relaxed way and make them realize the importance of learning, the results will be different. For children, "Maybe you should study" sounds much better than "study at once". After hearing this sentence, they are more likely to have the idea of "maybe I should study now"
Tip: Actively encourage children to find out why they need to learn. Constant stress can only lead to extreme resistance and/or resentment.
5. Set a good example. Let your child see that you are trying to do something related to your work. When your children are studying or doing their homework, sit next to them and do something you need to do. Spend an hour studying with your children every night.
6. rest. Arrange the time for diligent study and free play reasonably. Ensuring that children have a short break during their studies can be used to relieve stress, otherwise they may accumulate too much stress, which will have a negative impact on their health, social life and academic performance. Continuous study for more than 20 minutes may lead to children's inattention, so taking a break every 20 minutes can help them remember what they have read. Don't let children sit in front of the computer all day. Make sure their eyes get proper rest and give them enough time for outdoor activities.
If children can't concentrate, forcing them to continue learning may reduce their learning efficiency and may produce negative associations throughout the learning process.
It is very important to balance play and study, so make sure that children have time to play. In addition, physical exercise actually helps to get the best learning effect.
7. Know your child's circle of friends. If your son's friends are not very interested in school and study, their habits and behaviors are likely to affect your son's attitude. Consider whether you should, or have the responsibility, interfere in your child's social life. If the problem still exists, you can consider talking to your child, the parents of your child's friends, or limiting your child's contact with some friends. In the final analysis, there are not many interventions that can change children's social life except transfer.