"It is better to rely on men than on themselves. The sense of belonging given by men is not as good as the sense of security generated by buying a house." The words of a good girlfriend tell the truth of many women.
I don't know when, but "owning a house" has gradually been added to women's life planning. Where 3 1. Pay to buy a house, while in second-tier cities, 35. & gt
The continuous increase in the total number of women buying houses is not only a proof of women's economic development strength, but also a representative of women's spiritual independence.
1, your own home, can learn to let go of all the shame and secrets.
The writer Anne Baby read an article called Home, telling her experience from renting to buying a house.
Marriage and family counselor training, she said that when she was a child, she was placed in someone else's house and felt helpless; When I grow up, I wander in every big city, and there is a bitterness of living without a fixed place.
After having the ability of economic development, I finally bought myself a suite, which is a real home. I bought my favorite furniture and enjoyed it there.
After that, Annie Baby met a man. She left home, lived in a man's house, washed your hands and made soup, waiting for the man to come back from overtime.
Although there are beautiful women as company, there are still times of sadness and loneliness. At this time, the most convenient place she wants to go is her home, which is her home.
The moment I opened the door of my room, the life I longed for came to me. I can't tell others about my pain, but I can put the mattress on the sofa alone, drink whiskey and fall asleep as drunk as a fiddler.
Baby Annie said: If you have a house, you can get drunk, bury your head in sobs and learn to let go of all the shame and secrets. This is its own home.
Your own house is the best dowry for a woman in her life.
Three years ago, my good friend Xiaoli married a businessman who was not short of money. The man's family has more than ten houses and several luxury cars, which makes the neighbors envious.
After marriage, Xiaoli gave up her job as a criminal defense lawyer and concentrated on having children at home. On weekdays, she goes shopping for a SPA, and a driver's car picks her up, just like a rich woman.
When I came home not long ago, I met her by chance and was surprised to find that she seemed to be aging for ten years in an instant. She didn't know until she asked. She hasn't had a very good life these two years. Because she gave birth to a daughter, her mother-in-law was very dissatisfied and wanted her to have a second child soon after giving birth. However, due to postpartum depression and poor human feelings, she is very resistant to having a second child, causing great anxiety between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Although the husband is very kind to him, the couple still live with their mother-in-law in daily life, and her mother-in-law is very tough. Usually her husband is busy at work, and she can't help. Xiaoli bowed her head with her mother-in-law at home and didn't look up. She gave birth to her mother-in-law's boredom and couldn't vent it. I went through a lot of hardships until my husband came home, and he stopped me from going home with a sentence "After all, she is my mother, and I am sorry".
Xiaoli said that before she got married, she felt very confident. She graduated from a famous university, young and beautiful, and has a good job. But after giving birth to the baby, she suddenly became less confident, her figure was not as good as in the past, and her job was gone. She still lives in all her mother-in-law's houses. Her husband has so many houses, but one is in her own name.
"In my mother-in-law's house, I am someone else. Back to my family, I can't find this feeling as a child anymore. I feel homeless. If only I could have my own house. " Xiaoli said.
After listening to her experience, my heart was filled with sighs. How important is the house to women?
Needless to say, this is at least the last way out for women. When they realize that they are homeless, they can at least find the boundary of solitude. No one will disturb them. They can close the door, laugh, cry and breathe freely.
Owning a house of one's own is a woman's heartfelt confidence, a way for women to treat themselves well, and a gift for women as much as possible.
3. A woman's sense of belonging is given by the house.
I read a short story about the big-name star Ma buying a house.
At first, when Ma was a poor boy, he and Kong lived in his house. Once, the two men argued, Kong shouted "get out", and the horse broke into the house with a small box.
However, I didn't realize I was homeless until I went out. I was embarrassed to sleep on the street suddenly at night and went to a relative's house. I only found a hotel to stay in.
After that experience, she reminded herself that she must have her own house, so she quietly made money to buy a house, never asked Kong for a penny, and after buying a house, she decorated it a little. Although the house is not big, every place is her own.
Later, after the house was renovated, Kong came to visit and inspect, and Ma warmly entertained him. But in the evening, he said, "Welcome to visit warmly, and politely refuse to spend the night. It's time for you to go back."
He said with a puzzled smile, you sound like a fortress owner. Mayi felt very meaningful, so he hung up the "Majiazhuang" sign at his door to declare his sovereignty.
Ma said: Since then, no one has spared himself and never sleeps on the street again.
What a wonderful "house in hand, no panic in heart", the sense of belonging in women's hearts is given by the house.
The current affairs commentary variety show "Looking at the World" made a variety show "Unmarried Women Buying Houses, Reflecting Changes in Values" to discuss the current situation of women's pre-marital property.
In the variety show, Ma Yinan, an authoritative expert on legal inheritance of married life, clearly pointed out that women's premarital property is completely harmful to married life. Women will be more confident, will not give too much consideration to men's social and economic standards, will not stipulate that men must have a house, and will not marry against their conscience because men have no house.
For this matter, I can't deny that a woman with a house will be more calm when dealing with her married life. She doesn't need to feel inferior because she lives in a man's house. She has the same influence as men. Even if a man has no money to buy a house now, she can calmly say "nothing, I have a house, just give me love".
Every woman, if there is a standard, should buy a house for herself as much as possible, no matter how big the total area is, relying entirely on herself.
There is a sentence in the book "There is a Woman": I look forward to being collected by others all my life, properly placed and carefully stored, so as not to be surprised, miserable, wandering around and having no branches to follow. But that man, I know, I always knew, he would never come.
Marriage and family counselor training, _ who will be a woman's life, can serve, and promise not to abandon this life. But the house can, it is not easy to betray yourself, and it will not leave you. If you like, it will always be there quietly waiting for you.