This summer, I was lucky enough to read Wang Donghua's Looking for Mother. This book puts forward the concept of mother education from the perspective of pedagogy, starting with the study of celebrities' lives, and puts the importance and methodology of mother education for children under a theoretical framework. I think it's quite positive.
The author believes that human development consists of four parts: intelligence, will, morality and spirit. Among them, the spirit is the bottom of the triangle, without which there is no foundation. The meaning of masculinity is the self-consciousness that people put themselves into it. Therefore, education should be divided into learning education and chemistry education. Mother is the biggest protector and designer of children. Therefore, in the first three years of the child's life, if conditions permit, it is best for the mother not to go out to work. In order to educate children, parents should rethink how to behave. Family style and family are also very important, which is the foundation of children's success.
I agree with his concept of male chauvinism. In the mirror period of children's self-cognition, he will have a kind of self-expectation for himself under the education of his mother and family. I am the first person. If a child believes that he must be a first-class person from an early age, there will be a voice in his heart in his future life, no matter how difficult he encounters, telling him that he is excellent and can overcome difficulties, and he will eventually try to get himself back on his feet, because from the perspective of future time, he must become a first-class person. This is the foundation of self-confidence, self-esteem and self-improvement.
With this knowledge, intelligence, will and morality can be used. I also agree with the influence of mothers on their children. A mother gives birth to a child, and the child is the offspring of the mother. The relationship between father and child is acquired and conditional, while mother and child are inextricably linked, which the author calls "empathy". After I became a mother myself, I often thought about this kind of "empathy" between my mother and me, and really found the similarities between the way we think and behave. Of course, I also seem to feel the "empathy" between me and my children. I also hope that she will become a person who has made outstanding contributions to society. Like almost all mothers, I don't want her to be a mortal or a mediocre person.
Although some people will say that the ordinary is the true meaning and the blessing. But many things have external conditions. In order to educate children, parents should re-examine themselves and correct themselves. Sometimes, even just to show our children that we want to be better people, braver and more diligent.
Teaching by example is far more important than teaching by example. Paradigm imitation is a way acquired when the baby's brain is perfect. If you don't make a good plan, lay a good foundation and turn bad acquisition into a habit, you will have to work twice as hard, and there may be no result. Especially when children are young, when mothers cultivate good habits for their children through role models, fathers can take over the baton and pass on social genes to their children. Therefore, as parents, we have a great responsibility to learn, think and cultivate.
Generally speaking, there are no certain rules for mothers to educate their children, but they should work hard, concentrate on studying, pondering and observing, guide the situation with full love and try their best to correct the direction for their children. This should be the way I can think of to educate children at present.
To achieve this goal, we need to learn, and the lessons learned by our predecessors are the shortcut for us to learn. Just like the example of Madame Curie mentioned in the book, she not only carried out scientific research, but also suffered the loss of her husband and raised two daughters independently. She not only won two Nobel Prizes, but also put her eldest daughter on the Nobel Prize podium.
She not only records the child's weight, daily life and development, but also records the child's recipes. At work, I personally led my daughter to travel around and taught her how to become a great scientist and a great person with practical actions. It can be said that such a mother is really great.
I'm just in case. Thinking about life, I often complain that it is difficult to raise children. Coupled with work and housework, the three mountains often make me breathless. Although this book is full of nonsense, it makes sense not to talk nonsense. It can be said that it has gained something. I suggest that mothers can have a look. Of course, fathers should actually read it.
Being a parent is a very important and sacred job, and we should pay full attention to it.
After reading "Finding Mom", I read more than 700 pages and two volumes of "Finding Mom" in about 20 days. After reading "Finding Mother", I feel that a woman's name is the second mother. As far as my own stupidity is concerned, I can't absorb the knowledge and ideas conveyed in the book into my mind like a sponge, but an idea has entered my heart and occupied my whole heart, that is, a woman's name is her mother. I should be a mother first, then a teacher. My motherhood should be my innate mission, a woman's mission and responsibility, and I can't be indifferent and underestimate it.
Looking back on my mother's ten years, I feel that I have neglected my duty, and I regret it. I feel that I have not wholeheartedly accompanied my daughter's growth. At this point, I dare not admit that I am a mother. I'm just an unqualified mother. When you are ignorant, you waste your time, and your youth will be swept away with ignorance; Take your work seriously and often forget to ask your children. When I wake up in the middle of the night, I think of my students. I feel like a biological stepmother. The most critical time for children has passed. I didn't know the importance of early education until I read this book. I feel helpless in pain, too. The family environment of "Li Shigeng" determines how far my vision is. But I am still deeply grateful to my parents-it is their vision and will that keep me from "turning my back on the loess". I don't despise people in any industry, and I always have an inexplicable affinity for the hardworking farmers in China. However, there may still be a gap between my consciousness as a farmer and my thoughts today. Only because my parents built a ladder for me with their hard work and efforts did I have the opportunity to know that a woman's name is mom today. Otherwise, like my childhood friends, I will get married and have children, leave home to go out to work, and leave my children at home, leaving them as lonely, fearful and desolate as a mother bird looking forward to going out hunting all day. I read Wang Donghua's Mother's Discovery, and I am more convinced that my parents are more civilized than other parents at that time, and so are my brother and I today. Although my parents' goal is only to let us have a better job than them, I feel that a woman's name is the second mother after reading Mother's Discovery. I went to normal school and my brother went to college. Later, the fourth uncle who knew a little about it in the countryside and the fourth aunt who graduated from high school followed their parents. My uncle's sister was admitted to the undergraduate course, and my distant uncle was also influenced by our family, so my distant uncle's two sisters also went to college. But my uncle and uncle, two families who can't read a liter, have always despised my parents' practice of letting us go to school. None of the four children from two families graduated from junior high school. My parents influenced my neighbors again. His son graduated from college, and his neighbor's family influenced his younger brother's family. His brother's daughter went to college again. For those parents who don't pay attention to their children's education, children are still rats with holes.
More importantly, our hardworking, tenacious, kind and filial mother raised our brothers and sisters with her actions towards grandparents, and we all respected our parents and in-laws. I often feel surprised when my sister-in-law is meticulous about her mother-in-law. Why don't I have such a "shrewd abacus" and "shrewd vision"? Today, I realized that this is my mother's wisdom, happiness and the guardian of my heart. The generosity of my parents and the hard work for my family have long changed my character of worrying about my husband's family. This may be what Mr. Wang said about learning to raise. Parents' cultivation of their children's personality mainly takes their children's words and deeds as the best nutrient solution, which is infiltrated day by day and naturally edified. Parents are red, children are not black, and parents are black. It's not that easy to make children red.
Looking at Mr. Wang's book and thinking about my own growth, I seem to know more about how I should be a mother. Always observe the child's heart and give him necessary and timely spiritual attention, support and warmth. Mother's eyes should be able to read her daughter's mind at a glance, and mother's mind should be the spring breeze blowing all over every corner, delicate, seamless and warm. Mother's guidance should be the drizzle on that spring night, moistening things silently. Only when a woman knows that her first job is to be a mother and that she can give up money, reputation and status in this life, but she can't be born sterile, can she make our children the happiest children, the happiest children, and let our children grow up as freely as possible towards their natural advantages, so as to cultivate our own talents into real talents.
After watching "Looking for Mom" for two and a half months, spanning a solar year, I decided to finish reading 482 pages of "Looking for Mom" today (see, before I finished reading it, I was anxious to say that I had completed a big project. In the meantime, even my son once said, mom, you recite a book all day without reading it. Why are you carrying it? I said: this is the habit of scholars. When I borrowed this book from Mei Lin, I vowed to return it to her after reading it for one and a half months (this calculation method is based on reading 10 pages continuously and steadily every day, and occasionally reading more than 20 pages a day when I feel interested). A month and a half later, I read less than half. For two and a half months, when I didn't read a page for several days, it proved that it was really difficult for me to read. I decided to finish reading this book on June 5438+1October1May, and I will ban myself on June 65438+1October1April. I read a good book and slept well that night. In other words, as a person with such poor self-control, I just need to throw away my mobile phone and turn off the TV, so I can read.
Looking for Mother is a book that brings me great happiness. The most direct happiness is the sense of accomplishment after reading such a thick book. More importantly, this book is informative and the author's thinking is clear. Around his thinking, he quoted the criminal records of celebrities at all times and in all countries. Moreover, this is a very readable book, not a novel, but better than the novel. Several times, I even looked forward to it. Give me two days to read to my heart's content without interruption. I'm looking forward to what it will write below. But just thinking about it. If you really give me two days, I will brush my mobile phone, turn on the TV and use various excuses to reduce reading time. Can 20xx avoid this drawback?
The author's point of view in the book sometimes makes me feel a little extreme, but when I think about it, the author's meaning is only to make the knife stabbed by parents more painful and to make contemporary parents have a deeper memory and awakening. When the author wrote this book, he must have read many books, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign. This book is very thick, but it is by no means pieced together. The book lists many anecdotes of celebrities, all from the perspective of maternal education, but also to the point. Let me know many celebrities I have never known or seen before, but I can't tell them. Some of them are of origin, which is really interesting.
Hermann hesse once said: No book in the world can bring you good luck, but they can make you be yourself quietly. They seem to leave no trace on you, but they are deeply rooted in your soul, your temperament and everything you say. For me, the book is finished, but the words in the book are difficult to repeat, and I didn't take notes during the whole reading process. From the bottom of my heart, I still hope that this book can be reread, but there are not so many two and a half months. Although I can't remember the lyrics, the idea that the author wants to convey has entered my blood and heart, which should be the reason why I am happy to read this book. Happiness lies in the role of mother. I don't know when it started, and the mother unconsciously achieved or destroyed one aspect or even all aspects of the child. Practice the responsibility of a mother-achievement or destruction.
It must not be the mother herself who praises her greatness. Every mother will not feel great, but should feel that she is a mother's happiness and luck, and start from the role of mother and grow up again. Yes, I'm tired of sitting in school for decades. Only when I become a mother will I start growing again. For women, they grow more after becoming mothers than before.
When reading this book, I will think, if I have this heart, when is the right time to start reading, decades after the age of 22, when is the right time to start reading. A woman who wants to be a mother should read this book, at least from the moment you get a marriage certificate. Premature reading may not go on, people always feel that there are more important consultations and knowledge to hunt, and the proliferation of blue screens does not give people time to study. At this time, the interest of being a mother is not as attractive as the great attraction of the blue screen.
There is a sentence in the book to the effect that there is no need to worry about taking a long walk. Reading can't just rely on explosiveness. I often make mistakes when I think about it, and it is too hard to read. However, I stopped watching it later because I didn't have enough stamina. What I lack most in reading is endurance, and what I lack most is persistence and stability. I don't have to compete with others. The result of comparison is discouragement, and the result of discouragement is giving up. Two and a half Harle. If you feel discouraged, not reading a book a year is giving up.
Because the book is very thick and long, and there are too many blue screens to stop reading at present, if you give time to the blue screen, you can't give the book, so I don't recommend men to read it, but it is really a good book, historical, world-wide, humanistic, sci-fi, contemporary and educational.
I have been a teacher for more than ten years, and I am the mother of a four-year-old child. I always thought I knew education, but after reading Wang Huadong's Looking for Mom, I was on pins and needles, because I found my shallowness again. It is generally believed that Finding Mom is a book about early education, not a book about comprehensive education, or a book about basic education. With the enthusiasm of idealism, the author discovered the great role of mother-"Mother's quality determines the future and destiny of the nation", or "Mother's education affects the destiny of the nation", and "Mother, only mother, is the just motive force to create history". He summed it up in poetic language: "The hand that pushes the world is the hand that shakes the cradle".
For many years, I have been paying attention to school education, and I feel good about my son's preschool education. But "Looking for Mom" not only showed me that I wasted a lot of good time for my son's early education, but also showed me the crux of those stubborn diseases in school education-the weakness of family education. Finding my mother gave me a deeper understanding of family education. 1. Unforgettable sad dramas and sad past events. Wang Huadong was born in 1963. Born less than half a year ago, he was sent to his grandfather's house because of his mother's long illness, and lived there for ten years. When he returned to his parents again, the family atmosphere that greeted him was even more depressing than the national atmosphere at that time. My father is a defeated capitalist roader, and my parents have to support three boys including him on a meager salary. The already low standard of living has added another "waste clothes and shoes, only eat and do nothing" git. To make matters worse, due to the doting of grandparents for many years, it is more difficult for him to "do as the Romans do" and disturb the original family order. From the day he was "beaten" by his father, he fought against this family and his parents in his heart. "Home is a hell that scares me! The outside of home is always beautiful. The farther away from home, the more touching this beauty is! " "With the growth of age, this hostility has not been eliminated, but has become more hateful." "My strongest motivation for going to college is to stay away from this home."
In order to relieve my depression, I don't want to continue to sort out those tragedies. In fact, many tragedies under the sun can be avoided, especially those caused by improper education. Improving education level is an important means to improve human quality. At present, our country is carrying out a new round of curriculum reform, from teaching materials to educational concepts, from educational methods to educational equipment, the whole country is undergoing earth-shaking changes. School education is indeed changing, and it has achieved initial results. However, inspired by Mr. Wang Huadong, I think a very important part of our education reform is missing, that is, family education. We might as well do an experiment to change a teacher (you can change classes) in your child's learning career from childhood to adulthood, that is, change other teachers in the same generation. I don't think the ending will change much. Because in the same environment, the requirements of society for teachers are unified. Although the quality of teachers is different, the difference will not be great. Every teacher must have a teacher qualification certificate and a minimum standard. If the newborn child is sent to a family in a different environment, the future outcome of the child will definitely be very different from that of his biological brother and sister. We can all see that several children who come out of a family are strikingly similar. Besides the influence of genetic quality, it is more important to receive the same family education the day after tomorrow.
At present, our school education is led by political institutions and professional institutions at all levels and supervised by many parents and supervision departments, which has promoted the improvement of school education quality. But what about family education? Which professional organization and department is supervising, evaluating and inspecting the education of each family? The improvement of parents' education level is only a spontaneous behavior. How many people who are not qualified to be parents are parents? The effect of family education is naturally quite different. Therefore, the lack of family education in China has seriously affected the development of school education and the improvement of national quality. With good family education and school education, talents can emerge in large numbers and education can give full play to its value. Otherwise, even the best school education is like a disabled person walking on tiptoe, and it will never play its speed and level!
Finding mother gives us a new perspective. In the words of his preface, "May the whole world read it, not just this book, even this book-but a big book like father and mother, but a big book like being a man and being a noble person." Therefore, I hope that not only people in the world read it, but also people in the world encourage it and do it. "
Finally, I ended with the last sentence in the postscript of this book: "Every mother has a good child, and every child has a good mother"!