For example, let a 4-year-old child dress himself. Don't say, "dress yourself now, and I'll buy you an ice cream this afternoon." Just say, "I think you are old enough to wear it yourself." Under such a hint, he will feel that he has really grown up when he is trying to dress up, and will consolidate this feeling in his daily efforts since then, thus greatly increasing his self-confidence.
Adult's evaluation is very important for children to have confidence. In early childhood, adults trust and respect children and admit that children often say "you are great". Children will see their own advantages, affirm their progress and think they are really great. On the contrary, children are often denied, despised and doubted by adults, and often hear the evaluation of "you are stupid, you can't, you can't". Children will also deny themselves and doubt their abilities, thus creating a sense of inferiority. Therefore, adults must pay attention to their own evaluation of children, be proud of their own advantages, and don't regret their own shortcomings. We should give priority to positive encouragement, be good at finding the bright spots in children, and don't blindly compare our children with other children, but compare our past and present, so that children can know that they have grown and progressed, thus generating corresponding self-confidence psychology. In particular, we should give more care and encouragement to children with developmental retardation, let them know that everyone has strengths, and let these children gradually establish a correct evaluation of themselves.
Second, create opportunities to cultivate children's self-confidence in practice.
Give him some tasks that he is sure to complete, such as setting the bowl, serving rice, getting glasses for grandpa, and getting newspapers from the mailbox. Praise him if he does it. Sometimes I help him do some difficult things, such as washing handkerchiefs, shining shoes, sorting toys on the shelves, etc. And I will give her great praise and build her self-confidence. Get up in the morning, go to bed at night, let him put on clothes and exercise his independence. You should know that self-confidence and independence should start from bit by bit, not abstract. Therefore, parents should correctly understand their children's shortcomings and advantages, correctly grasp them, create good opportunities and conditions for their children to try and discover, develop their various abilities, praise them in time when they make achievements, fully affirm their progress, and let them experience the joy of success and have a positive and happy emotional experience.
Third, cultivate children's self-confidence through encouragement.
Encouragement is the most important aspect of cultivating children. Every child needs constant encouragement, just as plants need sunshine and rain. Children can't grow up healthily without encouragement. But we often despise the encouragement to children and often forget it. Many people mistakenly believe that children need education and continuous education, while education is more about indoctrination and discipline.
When a child tries to do something without success, we should avoid proving his failure to him by words and actions. We should separate things from people. Failure in doing one thing does not mean that the child is incompetent, but he has not mastered the skills yet. Once he has mastered the skills, he can do things well. If you take an accusing attitude, your child's self-confidence will be hurt. At this time, it is not as simple as mastering skills. Children may never do it. For adults, the first thing to do is not to lose heart and lose confidence.
If you want to encourage children, the most important two points are: first, don't satirize him, so he will be hit to varying degrees; Second, don't praise him too much, lest you have pride. In the process of educating children, we must always take this into account: don't let children lose confidence in themselves. At the same time, we should know how to encourage children's self-confidence.
Fourth, let children gain confidence from the joy of success.
The condition of cultivating children's self-confidence is to let children get successful experiences, and too many failed experiences often make children doubt their abilities. Therefore, teachers and parents should put forward tasks and requirements suitable for children's level according to their development characteristics and individual differences, and set a suitable goal for children to accomplish through hard work. They also need to learn one thing successfully to gain self-confidence. Besides, they should pay special attention to children who lack self-confidence. For example, for timid children, we should consciously let them undertake certain tasks at home or in class, and cultivate boldness and self-confidence in the process of completing tasks. Creating a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere, like the sunshine and air on which human beings depend, affects children's physical and mental health and intellectual development all the time.