Introduction: Most young women will return to the workplace after giving birth, and the children will teach their grandmothers to take care of them. Busy work and contradictory parenting concepts will lead many grandmothers to be dissatisfied with their mothers. Look at the seven "bad mother" complained by my mother-in-law. Did you get shot?

After giving birth to a baby, the mothers of ordinary families will choose to return to the workplace. Nowadays, many new mothers are new forces born after 1985. As new mothers, they have to shuttle between work and family. Heavy work makes many working mothers neglect the care of their children and do behaviors harmful to their babies' health.

Let's see who won't bring their children to the list of seven kinds of bad mother.

After giving birth to a baby, the mothers of ordinary families will choose to return to the workplace. Nowadays, many new mothers are new forces born after 1985. As new mothers, they have to shuttle between work and family. We should not only teach each other, but also work hard in society. Heavy work makes many working mothers neglect the care of their children and do behaviors harmful to their babies' health. In addition, the post-80s mothers are inexperienced in parenting and grew up in a happy environment. For the birth of a small life, it is inevitable that there will be unexpected behavior. Or we can look at some mother-in-law complaints.

First, premature weaning

Grandma Mi: Weaning so early, the poor child has no milk to eat.

Xiaomi's mother's work is very heavy, basically she is working except eating and sleeping. If Xiaomi clamors for milk all night, it will also arouse her mother's disgust. Go to work with dark circles under your eyes the next day. Because of this, Xiaomi's mother weaned Xiaomi immediately after one to three months. Xiaomi suddenly lost breastfeeding, her resistance went from bad to worse, and she had a fever again and again. But because of weaning, Xiaomi's mother's milk can't come back. Children can only bear the recurrence of the disease.

I remind: Weaning your baby as early as six months will definitely reduce your baby's immunity. The international health organization advocates that mothers should insist on breastfeeding for more than nine months. If mom is afraid of trouble, she can use a breast pump to solve the feeding problem. Nowadays, breast pumps are very convenient, and it is also common for breast milk to be stored in the refrigerator abroad. As long as the storage method is proper, the baby can drink enough milk when taking it out, and the trouble of feeding at night can be solved.

Second, leave the children to the care of the elderly.

Grandma Jun Jun: Now the children only listen to me.

Jun Jun's mother is the regional director of a local bank. Every day, she has countless accounts and phone numbers. When she went home to say hello to the children, she immediately rushed to the computer to continue her work. I changed diapers and fed Jun Jun. I really want to know why young people are working so hard now. The child was born as if it were not his own. Leave it at home. Now Jun Jun is sticking to me more and more. Without me, she will cry all day, even her mother can't help it. But as soon as I appeared, she stopped crying.

I remind: Although the elderly can share the burden of young people with their children, working mothers are totally inclined to work. If they ignore their children, it is difficult to build trust with them and it is easy to alienate them from their mothers. Children's self-confidence comes from a sense of security, and the most important source of security is the mother's contribution at the age of 3. After this stage, his mother can't make up for it.

In fact, no matter how busy mom is, she always eats and takes a shower. She will spend these hours on the cultivation of parent-child relationship, while nursing her children and chatting with them while taking a shower. It can not only adjust your daily life and work, relieve stress, but also enhance your feelings with your children.

Third, wear tights and high-heeled shoes for children.

Grandma Cai Xiao: Tight clothes wrap the crying baby.

Cai Xiao's mother is a new soldier, and her parents were born after 1985. I came all the way from my hometown to help them take care of their children, because I'm afraid they can't take care of their children. When I came on the first day, I saw Cai Xiao really dressed in fashion and beauty, just like a little beauty in the city.

But when I look carefully, it turns out that this cloth is so tight. Cai Xiao's mother insists that this is a famous brand dress, which is very expensive. If you want to give it, dress the baby in the best. No matter how expensive it is, you should not wear tight clothes so early. I think Cai Xiao's father grew up when he was a child, not just a pair of loose cotton trousers. And that little high-heeled shoe, which sprained Cai Xiao's foot, how can she walk!

Let me remind you: tight underpants can make the little guy's meat round, and adults like it very much. In addition, some children's clothes follow the popular factors of adult fashion, making adult popular tights into "small replicas", and some trendy mothers like to wear them for their children.

In fact, the baby has a lot of activities every day and sweats a lot. Tights have poor sweat absorption and heat dissipation, which can easily lead to eczema or heatstroke in children. In the long run, it will also hurt children's genitals, affect the development of little boys' testicles, and may also lead to urethritis and inflammation in little girls. Therefore, the choice of clothes for the baby is mainly loose, so that the child can move freely and will not suffocate.

Fourth, let the baby play the ipad freely.

Grandma Xiaohua: The poor child wears glasses at the age of 2.

Xiaohua's mother got an ipad because of her work performance and used it as an early education tool for her children. Xiaohua watches the game on it and paddles around with an ipad every day. I just can't understand the things on it. Xiaohua is playing there silently, and even grandma doesn't answer any questions. But within a month, this little flower has a pair of glasses on her face. Poor child, she is going to correct her eyesight at such a young age. I didn't know it was the ipad until I heard about it.

Not only that, but also found that this little flower often asks questions, but she can't answer them for a long time, and her response is still a little slow. I said it must be the result of indulging in that game all day.

I remind: In fact, ipad and iphone are the same. Playing too much will not only hurt your baby's eyesight, but also affect your baby's comprehensive ability and physical development. Pursuing * * * in the change of light and shadow will affect children's attention. If you focus on graphic electronic products too early, you will have less contact with the outside world and your ability to communicate with people will weaken. Children need to be exposed to all kinds of new things. If they just stare at the game, their ability to absorb new things will also decrease.

Experts advise children before 10 not to play ipad. In addition, the body is in a state of tension for a long time, and bending down will also have an impact on the development of the body.

Five, despise the supplement and preview of parenting knowledge

Grandma Wenwen: How can anyone take care of a child like this? Only when the child is ill will he regret it.

Xiaowenwen's mother likes hearsay best and likes to buy milk powder by brand. I never look at or listen to the doctor's advice, and I don't look at how to teach my children. I understand that she is busy at work, but she must have a score. She can't leave her children.

Once a child had a fever, she covered her sweat in the old way, thinking that she would be fine if she sweated. Who knows that even a stubborn old man knows that it is the result of tonsillitis, not a common cold, so covering his sweat will only lead to a rash, and his condition has not been solved. Finally, the child was ill and had to be sent to the hospital, so she went through books everywhere to catch up on this knowledge.

I suggest: in the past, children were always said to be a blank sheet of paper and knew nothing. In fact, after western parenting books spread to China, many mothers realized that children have too many secrets of their own development, and even mothers are blank sheets of paper and have to learn everything again.

With the development of children, mothers should supplement their parenting knowledge in different summer vacations to make full preparations for educating and caring for children. In this way, the child walks in front and the mother guides him, and the child himself has also developed to the greatest extent. Mom won't feel tired either. Don't feel out of place at work just because there is a parenting book on your desk. In fact, the parenting knowledge in these books can be of great help to post-85 mothers.

Stay at home with your children

Grandma Guoguo: How can I breathe fresh air if I stay indoors all day?

According to my son, Guoguo was a little house girl before marriage. At first, she thought she was very good. No, even after marriage. Even if I have fruit, I am too lazy to go out and buy a milk powder. I went directly to Taobao to buy it and delivered it to my door, which saved me the time to go out.

Although I don't have to worry about taking care of the children and she is not busy at work, she can't stay at home all day! This past summer, their mother and daughter just lamented that there was air conditioning, but now they always catch a cold and get sick.

I suggest that outdoor activities are the base for children to learn interpersonal communication, and the rules and principles of interpersonal communication should be taught to children by adults. Many old people or nannies do not do well in this respect. Outdoor activities are also the battlefield for the development of children's sports. Without such outdoor activities, children's knowledge will be less and interpersonal communication will be weakened accordingly. Although she has her own home, working mothers can't spoil their children, which is harmful to their growth.

Although the weekend is very tired, working mothers want to stay at home, but they always take an hour or two for parent-child activities, take their children outdoors and breathe fresh air.

Seven, throw the child to the toy.

Grandma Xinxin: I almost ate a toy that time, and something happened, which scared me, old bones.

Eating toys is really scary. I didn't expect this kind of thing to happen in our family. It's all because her mother talks about TV all day and doesn't like her. Can such a slippery little toy be hard to swallow? If something happens to my heart, how can I stand this pair of old bones?

Another time, Xinxin's mother went out for a trip with a group of sisters, secretly stuffed a toy for Xinxin and went out without telling me. Of course, I am happy to have toys, but at night, my mother never appeared and kept crying, waking everyone next door. How embarrassed I am.

I suggest that when the baby is young, especially within one year old, he is much more interested in real-life objects than toys. Many working mothers prefer their own entertainment whenever they have time, just using some toys to make up for their love for their children. Although it can distract children's attention at first, after a long time, children will not buy it and will stick to their mothers more and more.

What mothers should do is to squeeze out some parent-child time to show their babies things around them, even toys, and share them with their children. Children can't see their mother during the day, and they should get their mother's care and companionship during breaks or holidays.