Those swearing words are unbearable and make me angry and shocked. When I got home, I thought about it: Why should such a small child curse? Swearing at every turn will make people feel that children have no tutor, which is not conducive to their interpersonal communication. How to correct your behavior?
In kindergarten, children probably don't know what they mean, just feel fresh and interesting. At the same time, his parents didn't pay attention to teaching him how to say and do in these scenes, so he had to learn from the people around him. Once you hear the adults or children around you say this, and these children are not punished, the children will feel, wow, so everyone said this, which is very fun and can integrate themselves into the "circle of friends". Sometimes, after observing the children around them swearing and getting the "admiration" of other children, children regard these swearing children as demonstrators.
With the strengthening of children's language ability, they will find that language itself is powerful, and one sentence sometimes has a powerful effect and can sting others. After they discovered the secret of the power of language, they began to use it easily and happily. Adults are afraid of children swearing, and they react strongly when they hear it. In fact, the stronger the reaction of adults, the more children can feel the power of swearing, but they pay special attention to and like to use such words.
In this regard, parents can take the following measures:
Pretending not to hear
When a child's behavior appears repeatedly and is not strengthened, the probability of such behavior will decrease. This trick is very useful for correcting children's bad habits.
Simply put, it is to pretend not to hear, not to see, and turn a blind eye to the child's incorrect behavior. Slowly, the child felt bored and naturally stopped talking.
What parents need to be reminded here is: don't fly into a rage, show abnormal anger, or repeat the child's dirty words, which will only strengthen this bad behavior.
Stay away from the source of swearing.
Think carefully: Why do children curse? If we trace back to the source and find that he is affected by bad environment, then we should keep him away from bad environment.
For example, send him to kindergarten, prevent him from playing with some swearing children, and create a civilized environment for him (of course, this is difficult). If parents are vulgar, they should consciously improve their self-cultivation and set a good example for their children.
If you are a teacher, you can try playing games:
Children already think swearing is right and cool, so we must find a cooler way to make him sincerely willing to communicate in a civilized way.
As we all know, the magical world of Harry Potter is popular all over the world, which is cool enough for children. Teachers can prepare some polite nursery rhymes and a glass jar to teach children civilized communication by opening the magical world, learning magic spells and winning magic gems. Let children know that politeness is the coolest and most important thing.
Specific operation:
1. Make a special password: the first step to open the magical world needs a special password-I promise that the magical world will not swear!
If the child wants to enter the magical world, let the child say this sentence loudly three times, so that the child will always remember that he has promised not to swear again, otherwise he will be kicked out of the magical world. Besides, once he breaks his promise, the door of the wizarding world will be closed to him for one day.
2. Learn magic spells and civilized languages. You need a spell book to learn spells. In the magical world, spell books are "children's songs of civility and politeness", and teachers can find all kinds of children's songs about civilized terms.
When studying, the teacher will print out nursery rhymes and give them a cool name, so that children can read nursery rhymes first and then find out the "mantra" in them, that is, civilized terms. For example, there is a children's song: "My friend accidentally stepped on me; I won't hit him or scold him. It doesn't matter. It's a good doll. " This nursery rhyme can be named "Forgive a new curse". The mantra that children need to discover and learn is "Never mind".
Note that the choice of children's songs should be simple and catchy, cool and interesting enough for children to be willing to learn and use.
3. Use the right spell to win the magic gem. In the magical world of Harry Potter, every college has its own hourglass, and teachers' rewards and deductions for college students will be recorded, which is reflected in the number of gems in the hourglass. At the end of the school year, the number of gems will be counted and rewarded, so students pay special attention to their usual performance. Teachers can also imitate this model to motivate children.
For example, in the interaction, you can ask your child, "What spell would you say if your deskmate accidentally knocked off your textbook?" If the child answers "it doesn't matter", you can give it a star sticker. Can you also ask him what the real spell (civilized language) is? If you answer correctly, you will get a star. If you can get 20 stars in a week, you can get the "Sorcerer's Stone" (other prizes).
After learning all kinds of civilized incantations, continuous reinforcement can encourage children to continue to use them, so that children can quickly learn to use civilized terms. The strengthening of regular weekly inspection can avoid the decline of civilized language once children stop playing scrabble. Magic gems and star stickers are for children to see clearly what they have got, and visible reinforcement can inspire children the most!