Parents often face the problem that their children refuse to go to kindergarten. Lighter people want you to try your best to coax, and then go out reluctantly; In severe cases, children may make a scene, and even if you beg, you won't give in. What should you do in such a situation?
It is normal for children to refuse to go to school at the beginning of school, mainly because they have not adapted to leaving their mother's arms and living in a strange place. So when school starts, many kindergartens only have 1 and 2 hours of classes a day, and even have parents to accompany them. Generally speaking, within a week, children can adapt to kindergarten life; Some more "extroverted" children may enjoy the collective life in kindergarten in just one day.
As for a period of school, children suddenly don't want to go for the following reasons:
* Children can't keep up with their studies.
The current kindergarten curriculum content is also quite difficult, and some "slow-hot" children may not be able to catch up; In particular, some people are in poor health and sometimes feel uncomfortable. Parents will ask their children not to attend classes, miss more classes, and can't catch up with the progress, so they are more resistant to returning to the park. Therefore, parents should always pay attention to their children's learning situation to avoid him falling behind others and generating negative emotions.
* Have problems getting along with peers.
Some children, due to introversion or other reasons, don't get along well with other companions in the park, and even are "squeezed out", so they will feel unhappy. If you can't get psychological counseling, you will have the idea of hating going back to the park.
Therefore, if you see a child suddenly resist going back to the park, you should contact the teacher to find out the reason, or talk with the child to understand his inner world, so as to help the child in time.
* Unwilling to go back to the park after the long vacation.
This is the most common situation. Sometimes, after a long holiday in kindergarten (ranging from 3 to 4 days to 1 to 2 weeks), many children are reluctant to go back to kindergarten, because during the holiday, parents may arrange many activities or take their children to travel abroad, and the children are bored, naturally do not want to go to school and are bound by regular life.
In addition, during the holidays, parents may allow their children to stay up late and get up late, and naturally they don't want to get up early the next morning. After the holiday, it will certainly be difficult for them to get up early and go to school.
Therefore, every time you take a long vacation, parents should pay attention not to arrange too intensive activities to avoid children playing too crazy. And one or two days before the end of the holiday, it is best not to go out to play, and try to stay at home and rest. At the same time, let the child go to bed early, and let him return to the garden to return to a regular life. In this way, children will not resist returning to the park after a long vacation.
Generally speaking, children don't want to go to kindergarten for five reasons:
1, I don't want to be separated from my parents. For children, parents will feel extremely safe when they are around. After attending kindergarten, it is not difficult to imagine that children will feel lost, anxious and at a loss when facing and dealing with problems alone.
2. Fear of unfamiliar environment. Accustomed to their familiar home, but now they have to wait for a long time in a school full of strangers, and children will feel inexplicable anxiety and anxiety.
3, unable to adapt to group life. When children arrive at kindergarten, they must abide by the norms of the group, share what they want with others, queue up for snacks and toys, and there are restrictions everywhere, so that children feel that kindergarten is not fun.
4. Can't keep up with the progress of the group. Collective life often fails to take care of individual needs. If children can't keep up with the progress of kindergarten, they will feel frustrated and have psychological pressure, and they will be nervous at the thought of going to kindergarten.
5. Interpersonal communication is frustrated. Children are eager for friendship and can play with many children in kindergarten. However, if you really go to kindergarten and are bullied and excluded by other children, you may not want to go.
Parents have their own solutions to the problem that children cry and refuse to go to kindergarten. But the most important principle is: parents should insist on picking up and dropping off, often communicate with teachers, and find and solve problems in time; Encourage and praise more to cultivate children's independence and self-care ability. In this way, the baby will gradually like kindergarten, and the parents' problems will be solved. The following suggestions are for parents' reference.
1, get ready before entering the park. Tell more stories, cultivate children's imagination, encourage children to tell stories to others, and cultivate their courage and expressive ability. Teach your baby to know some simple words, numbers and images, so as to lay the foundation for entering the park, so that children will not be too afraid of the teacher's questions. Let the children play with the children in the neighborhood, and if possible, take them to the children's entertainment city to meet some strange children. Tell him that there are many children in kindergarten, and there are many interesting things there, which will arouse children's yearning for kindergarten. Understand the specific requirements of kindergarten for educating children, cultivate children's initial self-care ability and good habits, arrange the corresponding schedule between children and kindergarten, shorten the distance between family and kindergarten in life and hygiene habits, and let children have some indirect experiences in kindergarten.
2. Encourage your baby to make more friends. Children in kindergarten are very important to children. With the company of friends, he won't cling to what adults leave behind. Therefore, other children and their parents can be invited to play at home at ordinary times to promote the friendship between children. Conditional units will arrange "kindergarten shuttle bus" to help pick up and drop off children. This kind of opportunity is better, children can go to kindergarten together, happy and lively, and no one will feel lonely.
3. Insist on sending children to kindergarten. No matter whether the weather is cold or hot, windy or rainy, we must insist on sending our children to kindergarten on time. If we often fail to emphasize the objective reasons of going to kindergarten, we will develop the bad habits of children's cowardice, temperance, willfulness and freedom. Once these behaviors are formed, it is difficult to eradicate them. It will not only affect children's enthusiasm for going to kindergarten, but also have a bad influence on children's personality. When he grows up, he will unconsciously bring these bad habits to his study, work and life. Therefore, parents should cultivate children's discipline from an early age and cultivate their strong will and courage to overcome difficulties.
4. Communicate with children and teachers in time. If children have been in the park for a long time and still have strong fear and resistance, parents should pay attention. It is necessary to communicate with children and teachers in time to find out the specific reasons so as to prescribe the right medicine. If a child encounters difficulties or is criticized in kindergarten, parents should help the child overcome difficulties or find out the reasons for doing something wrong, educate the child to have the courage to overcome difficulties, admit and correct mistakes, and be a strong child. If you find that your child is unwell, you can temporarily not go to kindergarten and observe at home. If there is no one at home, you can also send it to kindergarten, but you should explain the situation to the teacher and let the teacher observe and take care of it.
Something must have happened. Ask the teacher, ask the child.
What if the child doesn't want to go to kindergarten (three and a half years old)? Most children don't want to go to kindergarten at first. Generally speaking, they need to adapt for a while. Some children cry every day before going to kindergarten, which is something that children must experience. Therefore, the only way is to insist on sending it, and the child has to send it when he cries. When he knows that crying can't solve the problem, he will learn to adapt himself to the environment. But it's better to be early when you are three and a half years old. Generally, such a young child can only go to kindergarten and learn nothing. Just send it to kindergarten at the age of five.
What if a 3-year-old child doesn't want to go to kindergarten? The child didn't want to go to kindergarten at first.
It takes a little time for a child to adapt to a new environment without family after leaving his mother for such a long time and entering a strange environment.
Some schools hold classes to let parents stay with them for a few days.
Some children are obedient from beginning to end, but some children cry and make trouble, and they don't cooperate at all.
What parents should do is to send their children to school every day as long as they are not sick. Even if you cry badly, your parents should send it. The teacher will leave soon after taking the children away. Don't stay, have a look. Not only will the child be sad, but you may also be soft-hearted. This is the first step to school. You must stick to it. It will be fine after this period.
If possible, children can attend early education classes for several months before going to kindergarten, accompanied by adults for several months, and it is best for children to be separated from their parents when going to kindergarten.
What if a four-year-old child doesn't want to go to kindergarten? Before entering the park, take the baby to the kindergarten to familiarize himself with the places and teachers of his life games. Constantly encouraging children to go to kindergarten is the performance of his growth, describing the beauty of kindergarten for him, and making the baby full of expectations for kindergarten.
After entering the park, give the baby to the teacher with confidence, try to restrain your emotions, don't tell the teacher repeatedly because of the same thing, say "goodbye" to the baby easily, and tell him that you will pick him up from school on time to eliminate his concerns. Of course, since you promised him, you should show up on time after school. Don't use the term kindergarten as a tool to scare him, threaten him and make him afraid to enter the park.
Don't let your baby see that you are unhappy or worried, and don't hide and observe because you are not at ease. Once found, the baby will cry even more. If the baby is too dependent on you, let other family members send it.
You should believe in your child's adaptability and not compromise because of his crying. As long as the physical conditions permit, try to keep sending, and stopping sending can only extend the baby's adaptation period.
What if a five-and-a-half-year-old child doesn't want to go to kindergarten or primary school? Under normal circumstances, many children don't want to go to kindergarten or go to school, and it is normal that there is no particularly serious conflict. If it is very contradictory, parents should find out the reason and see if there is a teacher punishing the student or a classmate bullying him. And find the root cause to solve it.
Why don't many children want to go to kindergarten? If 1 company suddenly lets you go abroad on business, you will feel uncomfortable. It is the same for children to go to kindergarten.
Kindergarten life is far less beautiful than that made up by parents. At home, a group of people serve one person. In kindergarten, everything is good for self-help.
3 Kindergarten life follows "one-day life process" and "kindergarten classroom routine". Children can't do whatever they want, and various constraints are also the reasons why children refuse to enter the park.
What if a 4-year-old boy doesn't want to go to kindergarten? There are various reasons why children don't want to go to kindergarten. You should find out the reason and then prescribe the right medicine. See if the child is timid or uncomfortable, or there are other reasons. Most children don't want to go to kindergarten, but they will get used to it for a while. Now they are all children. If they form many bad habits at home or their grandparents are used to it, they will definitely not adapt to this collective life. But if you are integrated with the children, you will be willing to go. There are still many problems to communicate with teachers in time, find out the reasons and correct them in time.
Children are 5 years old and often don't want to go to kindergarten. What should I do? It is normal to feel fresh in kindergarten, and there are many children who can't sleep. Maybe your son is extroverted and more active, but it's normal, it doesn't matter.