Only by slowly raising can children's potential abilities and talents be fully brought into play. Failing the exam requires parents' persistence.

Xiaojin, a working mother, shuttles between the company and the school every day. Getting up in the morning is like winding an alarm clock. She cooks breakfast for the children, wakes them up, takes them to catch the subway, sends them to school, and then goes to work in the company.

Xiaojin's family pays the mortgage every month, so Xiaojin knows the importance of studying hard. Xiaojin's children have just entered the kindergarten class, but they can easily recite hundreds of ancient poems and know more than 300 Chinese characters, with addition and subtraction within 100.

Moreover, Xiaojin has arranged his children's Sunday time to be full, including piano, calligraphy, painting, dancing, swimming and other special classes, so that Xiaojin and his children are busy as a bee.

Xiaojin's tense and advanced education method obviously runs counter to the slow-growing education method. In the future, children will need a lot of abilities and skills that are not available in books and papers. However, slow care can completely release the inner potential of children. However, slow care requires parents to have lofty and firm beliefs.

1, don't worry, let the children grow up slowly.

Many parents are very anxious from the moment their children are born, hoping that their children will grow up soon. Seeing that other children have learned to walk, I am anxious, so I quickly hold their hands and let them learn to walk. I'm afraid my children won't eat with spoons when they go to kindergarten. Children begin to practice eating with spoons when they are less than one year old. In short, it is to constantly urge children to grow up quickly. And slow raising is to follow the natural law of children's growth and let them grow up slowly. Children who grow up in this way will be more practical, just like building a tall building. Only by laying a good foundation step by step will the whole building be more stable and firm.

2, not ahead of education

Nowadays, many parents will educate their children in advance and let them learn beyond their age. In addition, send children to early childhood classes, kindergartens and other special classes on Sunday. This seemingly versatile child has actually overloaded his brain and limited his imagination and creativity. And slow care is to let children slowly master the knowledge they need to learn at this age, not advance education.

3. Give children a happy childhood

Nowadays, many children can't feel the happiness of childhood. Childhood should be a stage for children to be fearless, laugh and have fun. However, most children are locked in the classroom and do a lot of homework and papers, which are occupied by various big exams and quizzes. And there is no time to play, no time to run outdoors, and even swinging in the downstairs community has become very luxurious. And slow maintenance is to give children more time of their own, give children more time to play, and release their nature.

Montessori said that the best education for children is that parents should respect and follow the natural laws of their children's healthy physical and mental growth and let them grow freely. Only when children follow their own will and ideas can the small universe hidden in children break out.

1, children's imagination is more abundant.

Slow maintenance will make children's brain space not occupied by too many books and homework, but leave them more space and time to fantasize and imagine. Only in this way can children's brains run smoothly, novel and interesting ideas emerge in an endless stream, and children's imagination can be fully released.

2, optimistic and cheerful personality

Take care of the children slowly, and the children will not be urged by their parents all day, will not take up too much time by homework and test papers, will not stay up late to fight for grades, will not be sad, and will not feel distressed. Therefore, slow care will make children's personality more optimistic and cheerful, open-minded and not impatient.

3, interpersonal relationships get along more harmoniously.

With slow care, children can have more time to contact all kinds of people and things, contact more people, learn how to deal with interpersonal relationships, and get along with others more harmoniously.

Slow parenting, giving children an optimistic, cheerful and open-minded personality and learning how to get along with others are the basic conditions for children to step into society in the future. However, these basic conditions cannot be found in books and papers.

1, parents should have a firm belief and take a long-term view.

Slow care, first of all, requires parents to have firm beliefs and broad vision, not afraid, not caring about other people's eyes and incomprehension, and stick to it. Many parents are inclined to slow-growing education and want to try it. However, it is always interfered by the powerful traditional education and the confused eyes of people around it, and it is impossible to persist.

2. Let children try and explore boldly.

Slow care is to let children live, try and explore according to their own hearts. Only when children dare to try and explore can they gain, progress and grow. At the same time, it can improve the imagination and creativity of children. When children come up with ideas that surprise us, parents should support them, don't attack or criticize them, and don't stop them from trying. Is to support and encourage children to try and explore. Don't forget, many scientists and artists have led the social progress because of their bold guesses and attempts.

3, it is not easy to draw conclusions for children.

Every child has his own natural performance in childhood, which may be naughty, stupid, unwilling to study or unable to do anything. However, parents must remember that it is not easy to draw conclusions about their children. As Rousseau said, we should give our children full respect and understanding, and don't rush to a good or bad conclusion. Edison was expelled from school because he was too stupid when he was a child. As a result, he became a great inventor under his mother's education. There are not a few such real cases, so don't give up easily and jump to conclusions about children.

It is impossible to test how to communicate with people and how to deal with interpersonal relationships on the test paper. Slow parenting means giving children more space and time to play freely, and the root of slow parenting lies in whether parents can persist.

Interactive topic discussion: Can you accept the slow-growing education method?