Occasionally listening to her talk about the hot water in marriage made me cherish the wonderful time of being single dog.
Later, in the five years before and after graduation, five or six girls in our dormitory have been dating, dating and getting married, and in the following year, they all have their own children. I was in my mid-twenties.
They are all as big as flowers, but I can't attend their party anymore. They will go to see children's movies together, attend early education together, and go to the zoo to see monkeys together; The topic of chat gradually revolved around the children, and I couldn't get in a word anymore.
When we eat together, we can't chat well, because the children sit next to us and need real-time care, feed them and talk to them.
It may not be possible to make an appointment to organize a midnight snack at night, because you can't go home too late, because the children have to sleep.
I may feel lonely at this time, but I still won't worry. Isn't there no space for yourself around the children every day?
I may want to make money and be free more than to get married and have children. After all, you still have one or two unmarried friends like you. Compared with the same person, you feel better, not the last one.
But when you reach the age of 30, become a bridesmaid and become the last one of all your friends to get married, I think I may be in a hurry.
Because all your friends are married, you have no friends to ask, and they won't call you at the party. Your topic of * * * is out of tune, and you begin to think about your next life.
At this time, you will feel that the whole world is worried about you.
Your parents will urge you that your classmates and children are 9 years old. Look at you. What will you do in the future?
Your friends will urge you: I am still single. Shall I introduce you to one?
Your neighbors and relatives will also rush you.
Even people you don't know won't say, "Have you eaten?" But "Are you married?" How old are you, not married? "
With gossip, you are in a passive state. You start asking yourself, am I really old?
Thirty years old may really be a hurdle in life, which will make you think a lot.
We get anxious and scared. On the one hand, we are herd mentality. On the other hand, our best girlfriends are all married. You no longer have a friend who can share secrets anytime, anywhere. She has her other half's life and the people she cares about most. We agreed to get married together, but she left you where you were.
As Jiang Yang said: I finally understand why my heart will panic when I hear my classmates get married, just like an exam. Originally, everyone wrote their own papers, but once someone handed in their papers, they were inevitably nervous. The more people handed in their papers, the more anxious they became. Finally, I handed in my paper hastily.
At this time, we have to tell ourselves:
1, be positive, but don't worry, you can't get married just to get married.
You have to ask yourself, am I still the one who insists on marrying love?
If this is the case, don't worry, worry will often do something wrong, and people who entrust their lives must not be hasty. We should be under pressure. We can't get married just to get married. Marriage will only bring problems.
Don't think that people around you think you should be yourself. After all, everyone has their own life, and we can't say which lifestyle is better, as long as it suits them.
Nowadays, there are more and more fast-food marriages, which all end in a hurry. Fast-paced and fast-paced results are often unsatisfactory.
You can be positive, but don't worry, you must take the time to understand. The feelings you have must be fluent, withstand the scrutiny of years and the flow of time.
Time is too fast, youth is gone forever, and time is too slow, which makes my man delay coming. A 30-year-old woman knows better what she wants. At this time, you can try to expand your life circle, contact more people and give you more opportunities. Good love can also be found.
Choosing a person who can spend your life with you is the most important decision for each of us.
2, you have to believe that there will always be an encounter, which will be mutual love and appreciation.
There was once a song called Coke, and the lyrics read:
Maybe you are unhappy, but unfortunately you are unhappy;
Maybe it's my love, it's too late.
Maybe you are unhappy, but I hope you are happy;
I'm not getting married sooner or later, just a little slow. Just like a group of people running, some people run to the finish line first, but they can't. I just run slowly, and I will reach the finish line sooner or later.
Love, too, will only appear at the right time. Some people are suitable for growth, while others are suitable for cohabitation.
You may have met someone you like, but he doesn't like you; He likes you but you don't like him; Not because you are not good enough, but because you have not met the right person.
Really suitable people will like and appreciate each other when they meet.
It doesn't matter if love comes late, but you must be happy. Don't envy others like the lyrics. When you are alone, you should cultivate yourself, love yourself and do what you like. When the right person appears, you can hold on to it.
Also believe in fate, the world is so big, there are always people coming for you, and there are always people who are worth your time to wait. True love will be late, but never absent.