You may think: the child is still young, and it doesn't matter if you cheat him occasionally. In fact, this is not good, unless you want to be cheated by him in the future. I won't lie to children. I also deliberately want him to know that dad won't lie to him, and dad keeps his word. This is very important, on the one hand, you can gain his trust; On the other hand, it can also establish the prestige of dad's words and prevent him from making trouble without reason because of luck. Take a small example: at first, I dressed Lele and told him to put things down first. He always refuses in tears. Maybe he thought I'd take this thing away. After getting dressed several times, I immediately returned the things to him. Since then, he has safely put them down or given them to me.

Strategy 2: Be patient with children.

Only parents can understand how much patience is needed to treat children. When you carefully prepared a big meal, he didn't eat a bite; When he falls asleep, you have a lot of things to do, and he refuses to sleep anyway; When you are particularly sleepy at night, this little thing will keep crying ... you have to try your best to suppress your anger and treat the baby calmly. You have to do this, because on second thought, it's not his fault. But can you do it? Can I do it again and again?

Strategy 3: Be consistent.

Try to be consistent and avoid confusion in children's thinking and judgment. If you allow your child to do this today, and then tell him that he can't do it tomorrow for no reason, it will cause chaos. You may forget your inconsistency, but children will never forget it. Over time, you will find it difficult to carry out your orders. Is the child willful? Actually, you are one of the reasons.

Strategy 4: Give children a little power appropriately.

Sometimes, a child will be interested in something, and if you don't let him do it, he will stubbornly do it. At this time, you may wish to give your child a little choice.

There are two rows of floor-to-ceiling bookcases at home, and Lele is very interested in the contents. He had to open the bookshelf again and again and dig out the books inside. I don't want him to get into the habit of rummaging around, nor do I want to stifle his curiosity. What should we do? On the one hand, I told him that it was not good to turn over the books. On the other hand, if he really wanted to open them, I suggested to him: Well, let's get something and close the bookcase when we have it. He always does it happily. Now, he will not only open the bookcase to choose one thing, but also close the cupboard door; Moreover, after finishing things, he will open the cupboard door and put things back.

Strategy 5: Ignore the unreasonable demands of children.

When a child makes unreasonable demands, or you can't meet reasonable demands, if he cries endlessly, should you satisfy him to the maximum extent? On the contrary. You can never meet the unreasonable demands of your children, and you can't compromise once. Otherwise, it will only make the same unhappiness happen again and again. When you say "no" or "can't do it" to children, children often don't give up immediately. He will look at you and continue to test whether you really won't let him do it. At this time, the BBunion Early Education Center suggested that we should resolutely walk over and take the child away and let him do something else. Instead of continuing to sit there and say "no" repeatedly, continue to compete with children. Son, you can tell from your firm attitude that you really can't.

Strategy 6: Let children know how others feel.

It is difficult for a person who doesn't understand the feelings of others to be considerate. Although there are too many hardships and disappointments in the adult world, you may not want your children to know too early. But it is good for children to understand their parents' feelings and hardships. So, I will let Lele know that I am really tired and I want to sleep. I hope he can play by himself and leave me alone. I will let Lele know that I am really angry with his bad behavior; I will let him know that I am tired of holding him and let him go by himself; I will let him know that it will be painful to hit others. If you want to hit others, try hitting yourself first. I'll let him know that my parents will be wrong. It's my fault. I will take the initiative to say sorry to him; I will let him know that it is impossible for a person not to get sick. When he is sick, he must be strong and bear the discomfort caused by the disease, instead of endlessly torturing adults ... The child's character is cultivated in the dribs and drabs of daily life. As a father, I hope I can make more efforts to explore and make my child a popular person and a person with high emotional intelligence.

Strategy 7: Let children take a little responsibility.

You may jump when you see this subtitle. What responsibility do you put on such a young child? In fact, children's sense of responsibility should be cultivated from an early age. Children should be responsible for their actions and establish a sense of responsibility. Lele often throws many toys all over the floor. I'll ask him to tidy up his toys with me, or guide him to tidy up himself. What I asked him to pick up, I asked him to get up after falling. I told him to do his best.

Strategy 8: Don't impose your wishes on your children.

Every child has his own joys and sorrows. Even parents have no right to ask them to do everything according to your wishes, even if you do it for his own good. For example, if you think it's time for him to go to bed, you must let him eat a bowl of rice, or you must let him put down his toys and do what you want him to do ... The imposed result will only be counterproductive. Let children act according to their own wishes. Children are not only happy and optimistic, but also develop an independent character.