There are really too many newborns. In recent years, we have often discussed several issues: newborn birth rate, population aging, social population age structure, economic development and so on. It's all about the new population.
However, I want to say to our younger generation: Don't we want to have children? Yes, even in dreams! ! But do we dare to live? How expensive it is to raise a child now!
We look at the problem of not wanting to have children from the following three aspects: individual, family and social responsibility.
Personal level:
Do young people really think about Dink nowadays? Fundamentally resist the problem of getting married and having children? I don't think so. Who doesn't want to be sad and have a shoulder to lean on; Be accompanied when you are sick; When you are happy, someone shares it with you.
The joy of giving birth to a new life has turned many new fathers into men; How many women are really smiling when they are limping during pregnancy; The children's crying brought long-lost laughter and a glimmer of life to many families.
All these beautiful things, who never yearned for. But the ideal is full and the reality is skinny. A second ago, I was laughing in yy, and my backhand was a realistic big mouth.
What do you get married with? Empty six wallets to pay the down payment, and pay all the monthly salary to the bank to repay the loan, but you still have to decorate, buy a car, bride price and banquet.
All kinds of examination fees to be prepared for giving birth, milk powder, diapers, clothes, and occasional illness.
Who will bring it after giving birth! ! ! How to coordinate two people's time, who will give up their career for their children.
A little older, child care, early education, as well as various remedial classes and interest classes.
Any one of these can stop this small family from expecting a new life.
Really don't want to? Don't! ! Don't! ! ! I dare not! ! ! I dare not speak from my heart. Everything here must be carefully prepared before you dare to take the lead and solve it before you dare to have children.
Family aspect
Daily expenses, meals must be eaten. After having a child, I don't know where to spend it, and it becomes bigger. Families with children should have calculated that a couple will add a baby every month, and a second-tier city will cost almost five or six thousand yuan, not counting mortgages and so on. When you ask me why I have so many questions, I can only say that I don't know.
Now, after 80s and 90s, there are no four old people in that family to support and provide for the aged. If both parents are in good health, it is fair to say that as long as one of them is in poor health, the elderly will need someone to take care of them when they encounter some diseases or disasters. Most of this generation are only children, the only daughter in the family. What shall we do if one of them looks after him? Resign?
Who doesn't want to reach the peak of life and become CEO one day, but reality is reality. Dare you fall in love, get married and have children?
This society has given us a heart of lofty sentiments and ambitions, but it has not given us a corresponding stage!
And daily interpersonal communication. They all want money, and they are all very realistic problems. No one can spend thousands of dollars on holidays. what can I do?
I can only work harder and earn more money. Only with more money can we protect those closest to us in case of family diseases and other emergencies.
social responsibility
How many of us haven't collapsed at some point! !
Laugh after being scolded by the customer. Party A's father just needs to give face and sing and chat with you. As long as my father is willing to sign the contract, I can be a man;
Being scolded by the boss, knowing that the above decision is wrong, what can I do if I say it? All you get is a scolding. After scolding, you look up and smile. Can I quit my job without income? My face fell to the ground and broke. Sweep it with a broom and put it on in Hu Ba and Hu Ba. We didn't resist;
Scolded by this society, the post-90s generation is the beat generation. Although this kind of voice has almost disappeared now, in the hearts of the older generation, we still feel that our generation is acting perversely, unreliable and out of tune, saying so-called distrust words that are too advanced in thinking.
Our young people, who survived the night before, became young and began to soak Lycium barbarum in thermos cups for health preservation, because their lives were overdrawn; Clearly gave us a higher backbone than the sky, but we had to live with shame; Our generation shoulders too much social responsibility and pressure.
It's not that I don't want to get married, have children or enjoy the life of my wife and children. But can we? Dare we?
Instead of obsessing about our low marriage rate, high divorce rate and low birth rate, we should try to give us time to fall in love, get married, be willing to have children and afford them.