The baby's personality and habits are formed within 3 years old, so the education and training of parents is very important at this time. All the babies in China are raised by grandparents, but the early education methods of French parents are quite different. Not only do they take care of their children themselves, but the early education methods of children are also worth learning from. Let's see what the French teach children at the age of 0-3.
As we all know, the French are famous for their freedom, equality and freedom of speech, but what we don't know is that they are so harsh that they have some inhuman traditional family education, cumbersome manners and strict etiquette, and they are unambiguous in "starting from dolls". Moreover, it is very rare for the French to continue their consistent sense of superiority in their traditional education. They were only persuaded by English education. Although they don't like this country and their people, they also admit realistically that English gentlemen can stand the test and British family education is authentic.
I'm talking about the traditional family education model. Many families are anti-traditional and have no concept of family education, which is beyond my scope. )
In detail, what do the French teach in early childhood education for 0-3 years old?
(1) independent sleep
In most families in France, adults have prepared nurseries before their children are born. No matter whether the family's housing is several rooms, several halls or one room and one hall, the nursery must be separated. No matter how small a child is, no matter how tight the house is, even if parents sleep on the sofa in the living room, they will not be in the same room with their children, let alone in the same bed, as long as conditions permit.
There are all kinds of things in the children's room, the most important thing is a safe and comfortable baby mattress. The baby came home from the hospital and put it directly on this small mattress. From birth, the baby has his own independent rest space. His mother has never been a "human teddy bear", nor is she naturally sandwiched between her parents, let alone sharing a mattress with her mother or squeezing her father into a guest room or room.
Mom and dad will go to the baby's room to nurse in the middle of the night except when they need to nurse, otherwise sleeping is done independently at the first time.
(2) eating independently
How early did the French train their children to eat independently? My personal feeling is that the sooner the better, as long as they think that children can hold spoons by themselves and know the cooperation between their hands and mouths (not a spoon will be sent directly to their nostrils), then they will let them eat by themselves. Eating more and eating less is not very important. French parents don't care about their babies, whether they eat regularly and cleanly with a spoon, eat irregularly with their hands or bury them especially. What they care about is that the baby knows how to spend time with his family at the dinner table and how to eat independently. They will also show the babies who need to learn to chew what chewing is to ensure that they will not get stuck because of gorging.
(3) learn to say "thank you" and "please"
The education of these two words can be traced back to the time when they were just able to speak or even unable to speak. As long as parents think that children's understanding ability can clearly understand the meaning of these two words, parents will emphasize the importance of these two words at the first time and use them repeatedly in daily life. If parents are old enough to talk, they will never compromise by deliberately not saying "thank you" and "please".
(4) Respect for life
Most parents in France love nature. When they have a rest day or go camping, or trim branches and leaves in the yard, farm, etc. When children are involved, parents will not allow them to deliberately kill small animals and trample on flowers and plants because they are young. They think that nature is alive, and human beings can't protect everything, but at least they can't destroy it.
(5) Don't speak loudly.
In public, unless everyone speaks freely, French parents will not tolerate children's voices exceeding a certain decibel to influence others. Of course, they don't expect children to be as self-disciplined as adults, but constant reminders and repeated corrections are enough to prove that parents attach importance to this matter. Therefore, most French children do not have the habit of talking loudly, which may also be due to prenatal education. Even the baby doesn't cry.
(6) Fall in love with the library
I will definitely write an article about French libraries alone, because the French respect knowledge and love books, as well as the humanization of library services, will make people feel that "accompanying books" is a pleasant thing. 、
Families with many children are very common in France. Mothers will take the older ones and push the younger ones to borrow books, return books, tell stories, read books and participate in library activities at a fixed time every week. . . . . Some babies can't even sit down, but mothers still put their babies on their legs, sit quietly in the spacious and bright library and turn pages with them, in order to let their children experience this scholarly atmosphere.
(7) Respect for privacy
When I was six or six months old, I took my baby to France for the first time to see my father's family. My father didn't go with me because of work. At that time, I couldn't speak a word of French, and their English was limited. After about two weeks, I was like a mute. But because I didn't communicate in words, I had a lot of time to observe many details with my eyes, and one of them was very influential.
That day, I took Lian's brother and sister-in-law home. Their second child is older than Liu Liu 1 1 month, which means 1 year and a half. My little girl has all the characteristics of children of this age, lively and enthusiastic, happy to have guests at home and busy going in and out.
I put my baby bag on the porch, and I really want to touch it when the second child comes in and out. I didn't think there was any problem after reading it. It is not normal for children of this age to be curious about new things. But even dad's brother saw this scene and immediately said word for word: don't touch it, it's not yours, don't touch it. The penis really didn't touch.
After a while, the second child began to walk around the bag again. When his father saw this scene, he reminded him word for word: Don't touch it. This is not yours. The second child left helplessly again.
When the second child walks around the bag for the nth time and wants to touch it, I suggest putting the bag in another position, otherwise she always wants to touch it, and the child's father will repeat the same sentence tirelessly.
Lian's father's brother said in difficult English: Don't put it in other places. She must understand that some things just can't be touched. These things won't change her position, but she must learn to restrain her curiosity and not touch things she shouldn't know or touch.
I suggest: Otherwise, let her have a look. There is nothing in it that she can't see.
Even my father's brother firmly disagreed: the crux of the problem is that this thing is not hers, and she just can't move it.
All right, I give up. It is true that children will not be allowed to see an irrelevant baby bag because they are "sensitive". Other people's affairs are private, so you need to know the truth at a young age.
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In addition, most French people think that even at home, if the door is closed, you must knock before entering the bathroom. There should be someone knocking at the door in the bathroom. No matter how young you are, you can't rush in. . . .
(8) Table manners
Maybe you don't believe it, the French table manners in traditional families are trained from the time when the baby can skillfully cope with his own meals. The rules are as follows: elbows are not allowed to touch the table when eating, you are not allowed to talk with your mouth full, you must raise your arms instead of lowering your head when holding food with a fork, and you are not allowed to sit early at ordinary times.
Eating a meal is very tiring. . . .
(9) Speak in a natural and polite tone
Children in China have the saying that milk sounds like milk. I have seen children who are almost 65,438+00 talk like milk, which is not allowed by French parents. They teach their children to speak naturally and politely. Of course, if children make some absurd remarks because of their age and knowledge, these parents will not care. What they can't accept is what we call "alas" and "Chen Jiao". French parents believe that if a person's gestures don't match his/her age, they will complain even if she/he is young. Therefore, training children to speak well is also one of their early education courses.
(10) Learn to wait
French mothers breast-feed their children according to time. Even if the baby is crying, they may chat with the baby, but they hardly feed it in advance. If it's time, the baby is already preparing to eat or feed, and the baby is crying, most parents will gently and firmly say to the baby: Baby, you must be hungry. Mom is already preparing for you. Wait a little longer. . . . .
With this kind of communication, babies won't be furious because they didn't eat a bite at the last minute.
In the supermarket, it is rare to see French children cry because their parents didn't buy what they wanted. My parents just calmly explained that it is not Christmas or birthday, and it is not the time to buy gifts, so I can't buy them. Usually their children don't talk nonsense.
(eleven) the ability to be alone
Their parents are not as indifferent as we thought. They love their children very much, but they do emphasize that children need to be alone to some extent. It doesn't mean that when you quit your job and take care of you at home, you have to stick to your mother for 24 hours like a baby. Doesn't mean adults love you, so you have been caught in the middle of everyone. French parents emphasize that children should be left alone for a while, whether reading, playing games, chewing their feet or looking at the ceiling. . . . In short, this period of time is the baby's own, relatively speaking, a period of time is the adult's own.
(12) the power of communication
This word is a bit big, but its meaning is not biased.
Give a vivid example.
Shunshun was less than three years old at that time. Once, he ran into the house from the yard and told me how Liu Liu bullied him. I was at a loss. At this moment, even my father came over and said to Xiao Er word by word, take your time. If you can't finish crying, go out and cry again. If you want to talk, put away your tears and cry. Who do you think can understand?
Then Xiaoer magically closed his tears, took a deep breath under the reminder of Lian Dad, and then explained to us that he robbed him and so on.
Even dad didn't go out as a judge immediately after listening, but explained to Shun Di: Remember in the future, if you speak well and clearly, everyone can help you as soon as possible; You grinned and said something that no one could understand, which made everyone anxious. This is true at home, especially at school in the future.
After that, Shun Shun said less and less with tears, and tried to put away his "excited" mood every time he wanted to say it, and described the incident as calmly as possible. This process started training before the age of 3.
This is the French concept of early education. Not many people send their children to learn English and draw pictures, but they begin to educate their children about behaviors and habits that seem to have nothing to do with knowledge early.
The French concept of early education is different from family to family, but I still have a great coverage.
In the "early education" and "continuing education" for two parents in Liu Shun in recent years, what kind of differences, compromises, communication and final understanding have parents in Liu Shun experienced? I wish I could write a book. In fact, the above articles have also had experiences and understandings in my family.
Come and have a look, maybe it will give you some inspiration.