With the rising divorce rate, many children have to choose to live with one of their parents. Compared with their fathers, most children will live with their mothers.
However, many mothers often worry that their children will be wronged and choose not to re-establish their families, and devote their whole-hearted love to their children.
But there are also many problems, that is, in the process of following his mother's life, boys may lose their masculinity and even tend to be feminine because of the lack of father's role.
When such boys grow up, they often face many problems, such as being indecisive, indecisive and relying too much on their mothers after marriage.
So, how can a single mother with a son cultivate her child's "masculinity"?
First, you can get in touch with other male relatives and friends around you, such as your child's grandfather, uncle, or your mother's male friend, your child's cousin, your child's male classmate, etc.
Let children communicate with them more when they have the opportunity to make up for the gap of same-sex communication caused by less contact with their fathers. Let children learn the behavior of men when they are in contact with same-sex friends.
Second, don't overprotect and spoil children.
Many single mothers will overprotect their children out of psychological compensation, and as a result, boys will often develop timid character.
In fact, most boys grow up in the process of wrestling. Taking children to participate in some challenging activities, such as mountain climbing, rock climbing, roller coaster riding, etc., can make children feel adventurous and victorious, which is very beneficial to cultivate their courage.
Third, let children participate more in family affairs.
Let children participate in family decision-making, and provide them with opportunities to do some physical work within their power when appropriate.
For example, the light bulb at home is broken and the sewer is blocked. If you discuss the solution with your child, it will not only exercise your child's ability to solve practical problems in life, but also make him truly feel that he is a "man" at home.
Fourth, let children contact more stories about "men".
Single mothers can tell their children more about the hero's actions through heroic movies, TV dramas and stories. Guide children to know what "men" should do, let children understand the characteristics of their gender roles, and learn to look at and deal with problems from the perspective of men.
I believe that if single mothers can do these things well, they can also cultivate boys' masculinity.
Author: Wisdom Jun welcome to pay attention to my parenting since the media number: wisdom early childhood classics.