After 80, children have been upgraded, and dad means responsibility.
Sisi's father has been secretly writing a pregnancy diary since his wife got pregnant. "At that time, I didn't let my wife know. I have always felt that it is embarrassing for a big man to write these trivial things. " Sisi's father said that after her daughter was born, she even wanted to be a full-time nanny and was "despised" by the whole family.
Life has changed a lot because of my daughter's arrival. Keeping a diary is one of them. "My parents were busy working when they raised me. Unfortunately, they want to come now. Childhood has slipped away without a trace. " The worried post-80s dad said, "We have the responsibility to find and adapt to new roles and orientations. We have the responsibility to bear more and pay more for our children. " In a blink of an eye, my daughter is 3 years old. Sisi dad recorded the mood of the day with a sweet kiss on his cheek under the desk lamp, which is very meaningful. "When she grows up and sees this, I believe she will love me more, haha."
Father's diary inspires education.
Han Xiao's father's diary has been written for several months. "I once saw a blog written by a person persist for more than a year, and then it was serialized by a newspaper. Ordinary language has a real and simple touching feeling. So, I also started. " Han Xiao's father said.
Han Xiao's father once recorded such a little thing: "To pick up Han Han's home, Han Han showed me a happy newspaper, which read: Speak actively in class." This is Han Han's first good news. I happily held this red paper all the way. On the way, I met Han Ge's classmate mother and daughter: Hey, I got good news. I smiled and humbly replied: nothing, nothing, you will have it. The classmate's mother frowned slightly and said, I don't know what happened in our family, but I didn't get good news about going home this week. Hey, how many times have you eaten? Sweat drops of grain and soil ... "
"A few days ago, Han Han came back and said that he passed the oral exam and brought back a good news. Congratulations. " Han Xiao's father said that this diary is mainly his own summary. I didn't expect it to inspire children, especially boys. Dad's words and deeds, even keeping a diary itself, are also a positive guide to him.
After a long time, the baby was born, you were upgraded to a father, and you were very happy with a soft thing in your arms. Then the story is always full of twists and turns. The birth of a child will not change overnight. After becoming a father, life began to turn upside down. Not to mention the daily chores of washing milk powder and holding a baby can make a seven-foot man bend over, and the education of children also makes many fathers have a headache.
Many people say that a man cannot grow up without a father. So today, we will pay attention to several super dads who grew up overnight, focusing on their first few years as fathers and their education for their babies. How did they solve it?
Scholar's father's experience: let children choose their own path.
Daughter 33 is 2 years old now. This photo was taken on the day of 33 full moon wine. After playing crazy with her daughter all day, Shui went home and fell asleep in this happy posture at lightning speed. Wife 77 took this photo for them as a souvenir, and then smiled at it many times: "A scholar taught a crazy baby." Water is indeed a scholar, as can be seen from his occupation. But he said: "Who stipulates that a literati father must cultivate a literary daughter?"
The old people in the family all hope that 33 can grow into a literate young woman, but water doesn't think so. Daughter is born funny, crazy and noisy. She doesn't even like dolls, but prefers to play with water guns. The water feels good. As long as his daughter likes it, he is willing to create conditions for her to realize her hopes. As a result, everyone thought that Warer gave birth to an active boy.
On her second birthday at the age of 33, grandma suggested that Shui could teach her daughter to recite poems and songs, saying that today's children have already begun to learn three-character classics and English words. The water is partial, the reason is: "33 doesn't like it." Not allergic to these elegant things, and the water doesn't want to force her. As long as 33 is healthy and happy, this literati father is willing to accompany her for a while. The future 33 years will be quiet, calm, enthusiastic, lively, addicted to literature and become Lightning Lass. Water is willing to let her choose her own path.
Expert comments:
Every parent's love for their children is expressed in different ways. Some parents will choose to design a good future for their children, and some parents are willing to respect their own choices and silently support them. It seems that the literati father made this decision carelessly, but in fact he kept up with the pace of education in the times.
The experiences of several dads more or less reflect the embarrassment and troubles of some novice dads. In the face of children's education, have you ever thought about what kind of environment to give your children? The experiences and opinions of these super dads hope to clarify your confusion?
The experience of a doting father: it is good for all three to exchange roles with his wife.
The name Xiaohong is a bit feminine, and it can be seen that she is a good-natured master. Indeed, from falling in love with his wife to being alone after marriage, Xiaohong has always been obedient to his wife, but after having a son every day, Xiaohong will also go against her.
"My wife is a strong person and likes to rush ahead in everything. What clothes I used to wear and what hairstyle I cut were all obedient to her. However, after every day, the two of us have conflicts. I always take my son to play with mud and even paint the walls of the room with him. In short, if I want to sabotage something every day, I am willing to be an accomplice. These things were forbidden by my wife and scolded me once, but I always accepted them with an open mind and never changed my mind. Therefore, conflict is indispensable. But I always insist that a child should let him play as he pleases. What are the rules for such a small baby? Because my wife can't accept my connivance in my son's education, she follows us all day, cleaning up and chattering. But now I have found a solution, that is, changing roles! Let her play with her son and I'll clean up after them. Now that she has slowly found pleasure, I understand her hard work. Now, we have agreed that the two of us will take turns to play the role of companionship and cleaning up the mess, so that our relationship has eased a lot. "
Expert comments:
Being the king of children with his son, a seemingly immature father, actually needs to spend more time to adapt to the growth characteristics of children and balance the contradictions between husband and wife. This is a university question. From the beginning, I let my wife take care of everything, and now I know how to share and understand each other. This is the responsibility of an adult that only a father can understand!
Smart dad's experience: key issues need expert help
Big D has been very calm in the face of the company's millions of businesses, but he panicked in the face of his son's arrival. At first, his son came into his hands, and he cried so loudly that his wife and mother wouldn't let him hold his son, lest everyone be unhappy. Not satisfied, Big D looked up information on the Internet and went to the bookstore to buy more than a dozen parenting books. In a rage, he refused to let his wife guide him. He did experiments with his son's doll for more than a week. When he went to hug his son, his posture was right. Gradually, how to flush the milk powder, how many degrees to flush the milk powder, and when to change diapers, he just hit a wall and later learned to be handy. Now the first sentence of my wife's question is: "Big D, you teach me." On the issue of son, Big D proudly left his wife behind and upgraded to family first.
When his son was 3 months old, Big D decided to find an early education for his son. When his wife asked him why, Big D said, "If our son wants to learn, so do we." The wife thinks it makes sense, so big D is busy again. First, a person went to the major early education centers to ambush and see if the environment was suitable, and then he took Xiao D to experience it himself. The diary of the audition class in the blog was full of experience, and finally I decided to go to Gymboree. On the first day of class, Big D and Little D went together. When he came back, his wife said meaningfully in the car, "Big D, you really didn't choose the right one." In an instant, Big D was happy and felt that he was really omnipotent. In these two months, Big D insisted on his son's early education class. He said that the happiest thing is to learn more about his son from Gymboree's teacher besides seeing his little D grow up happily.
Expert comments:
This is the first time for any father. Objectively speaking, men are inherently inferior to women in learning to take care of children. Sometimes, we can really take shortcuts. It is necessary to affirm the strength of experts and study and further study selectively in order to make a peerless good father and mother.