As a mother, Xu Ming seems to be a little "different": she doesn't give her children early education, doesn't let them learn Olympic Mathematics, and doesn't choose a prestigious school ... She said, "If I exchange the hardships of my childhood for the happiness of adulthood, I would rather give my children a happy childhood."

Before the children went to kindergarten, Xu Ming published a story about choosing a school. She said: "others choose schools, but we abandon them."

There is a municipal kindergarten with good reputation near Xu Ming's mother's home. Xu Ming found the director through acquaintances, but as soon as the director opened his mouth, he "talked about conditions". I also heard that the children of my friends who entered famous schools around me shouted "very hard" every day. She realized that it was unwise to squeeze her head into a prestigious school, so she let her children enter a second-class kindergarten. Before their children went to primary school, they could have entered a prestigious school in Pudong, but Xu Ming gave them up and chose a primary school near her husband's unit to facilitate transportation.

Xu Ming said that many parents who read this story called her "stupid", and some even called her "irresponsible". Xu Ming was hesitant about choosing a school. "Before I went to kindergarten, I watched other parents give their children intensive training, and some even sent early education classes. I was in a hurry. What if the child falls behind? " But later, Xu Ming saw several reports about the overload of primary school students. When chatting with friends, he often hears them complain: "Children have too much homework, and they have to shuttle through multiple cram schools on weekends, so they have no time to play."

"Reading a prestigious school is not a problem. The key is whether the child is happy or not, and whether he is interested. " Xu Ming wrote in his message to his children: I will not try my best to get my children into first-class kindergartens and primary schools, nor will I plan my children's blueprints in advance. I will leave everything to him to develop freely. Not long ago, she made another decision: not to let her children learn Olympic mathematics. "He is more interested in telling stories and painting, and he is very exclusive to the Olympics. Without interest, he can't be a mathematical genius. We don't ask the child to have several certificates, but ask him to have a full sense of happiness. "