The book "A good mother is better than a good teacher" tells us through a short story that every child's Excellence has its source. The author Yin Jianli is an educational expert who has been engaged in teaching for many years. Familiar with school education, have a deep research on family education. In this book, the author tells everyone about the educational ideas and wisdom through the educational cases of his daughter Yuan Yuan from childhood to adulthood, as well as some educational cases encountered in her teaching career.
Improve the quality of love and make learning easier. Parents love their children as deeply as the sea, and every parent's educational intention is good. However, why do they raise different children? The correct educational concept is like a master key, which can solve the problems of children's growth.
Children have been learning from birth, learning to speak, eat and walk ... when they reach school age, they enter the campus and learn cultural knowledge. Until you grow up, step into the society and go to work, you also need to study. You have been studying all your life. Therefore, not only learning to enter school, but every detail in a child's life may become an event of great educational significance and may expand into a good habit or a bad habit of the child. Through correct guidance, children's conduct, interests and self-confidence will develop in a healthy direction.
The author analyzes how to improve the quality of children's love through several short stories in the process of their growth. In the process of raising children, we will more or less encounter things that children get sick and get injections. How to face going to the hospital? Facing the injection? In the hospital, we saw too many screaming and frightened children, who struggled desperately and refused to inject. Doctors and nurses look helpless, and parents coax and cheat. In the end, I really can't, I can only insist on giving the child an injection. This scene of chicken flying and dog jumping is often performed in hospitals. The short story of "an injection hurts a little" tells parents that the child's endurance is actually amazing. As long as they don't scare children and give them a proper psychological expectation, most of them can accept something that seems difficult. Parents should tell the truth about the pain their children have to bear and try not to exaggerate or shrink it too much. At the same time, as parents, we should keep calm and not show too much anxiety. We can explain to our children why we should do this in a language that they can understand, and never try to achieve our goal by coaxing or buying it. In the book, because my mother gave Yuanyuan a psychological expectation of how painful an injection was, she also told her why she needed an injection. There are also benefits after the injection, so Yuanyuan didn't cry excessively during the injection.
In the process of children's growth, things related to children are not trivial, and playing with children is also a kind of moral education. People are easily hinted, including adults. If a person is always hinted by others as virtuous, kind and friendly, he will gradually develop a sense of self-affirmation in this atmosphere and his conduct will develop in a healthy direction.
In order to make learning easier, the book tells parents through several short stories, such as "reading is not difficult", "children pointed at by wands have strong learning ability", "good reading" and "bad reading". As long as the concepts and methods are changed, children's learning can become relaxed and happy. Every pupil has to face the "literacy barrier". In this process, some children are relaxed and happy, and they pass easily without knowing it, while others are in great pain. Children are naturally curious about everything. The author started telling stories to his daughter Yuan Yuan when she was less than one year old. I don't know if she understood them at first, but every time she listened to her mother's book, Yuan Yuan was fascinated and very happy. The mother and daughter read the book over and over again, and her mother pointed at it every time. In the process of listening to stories, children begin to know some words. At the same time, when I take my children to public places, I always lose no time to show her some words and integrate learning new words into my daily life. Unconsciously, literacy has become a very simple and natural thing. When the cognitive vocabulary accumulates to a certain extent, it will inevitably change from quantitative to qualitative. When her mother doesn't have time to read to her, she tries to read by herself and asks her mother if she doesn't understand the words. When children get great pleasure from completely personalized reading, they will read more books and know more words. It is a very effective educational method to base literacy on a lot of reading. Not only are children easy to learn, but adults are also easy to get twice the result with half the effort. Cutting off literacy and reading may destroy children's interest and confidence in literacy early.
In education, a very effective trick-if a child wants to accept something, seduce him; If you want your child to refuse something, force him. Both parents understand the importance of reading in the process of children's growth. In order to make children fall in love with reading, parents need to create some attractive means to help children build their interest in reading. Harmonious and reasonable methods are often beautiful and effective, while bad methods make simple things complicated and inefficient. In children's education, we should pay special attention to finding good methods and don't take it for granted to teach children in bad ways.
A child's good personality and study habits throughout his life are the wealth of his life. The author does see from his own experience and others' experience that children's conduct and habits are so dependent on their parents' educational methods, so when parents consider changing their children, the starting point should always be how to change their own educational methods. There is no need for preaching, no need for rewards and punishments, and children's education is in daily life. In fact, making mistakes is a compulsory course for children to grow up. Parents should learn to accept their children's mistakes. In fact, many times, parents' understanding can often make children remember lessons better than criticism.
In the process of cultivating children, the word "seeking truth from facts" is more precious than gold. A child's practical life in the future depends on how much he is influenced by the words "seeking truth from facts" when he grows up, and how close his way of thinking is to these four words when he grows up. Nowadays, most families are children, and the eagerness for success makes many parents' vanity and impetuousness rise, and paranoid behaviors appear frequently. Children themselves are struggling in vain life and are more likely to fail, while parents are often not easy to be alert to their vanity. The main opposites of seeking truth from facts are vanity, impetuousness, and paranoia and jealousy below it-this seemingly small problem, inadvertently revealed, has considerable destructive power. To cultivate children's spirit of seeking truth from facts, parents should set an example, pay attention to influencing children from words and deeds, and read some biographies, which also have a great influence on children.
For children to develop good study habits, "not accompanying" can cultivate good habits. Now doing homework with children seems to be a "homework" for many parents. Parents should not oversimplify and absolutize the understanding of "accompanying" and "not accompanying". It is an educational idea rather than a way of behavior, and cannot be simply defined in form. A person, first of all a free person, can become a conscious person. In order to form children's self-awareness and better implement decisions, children should be allowed to think and choose for themselves as much as possible. In the process of cultivating habits, always create children's initiative and sense of accomplishment, and he will form good habits in this respect.
We should be wise parents and get out of the misunderstanding of education. A big problem of modern family education is that parents can give their lives for their children, but they refuse to give their time and thoughts for them. If parents can understand the importance of every day and every situation in their children's growth and know that these situations will have a huge impact on their children, then parents naturally have the ability and methods to take their children to work. Without a good family environment, it is difficult for people to start a normal life. We have created a child. We not only have the responsibility to make him grow up, but also have the responsibility to make him happy. This is also the wisdom that parents should have.
There are no small things for children, and all small things are big things for children. In the process of accompanying children to grow up, parents should have correct ideas on small things to help children achieve the temperament of doing big things. We should be good at observing children in daily life, finding problems from details, guiding children to speak out in a convincing way, and helping children solve them in an appropriate way. Never use adults' knowledge to laugh at children's ignorance, nor use adults' mature thinking mode to criticize children's childish and ridiculous ideas.
Now parents' anxiety that their children can't lose at the starting line has spawned a variety of early education classes in society. Good enlightenment education should be playful, unrestrained, diverse and related to life in form. However, at present, there are too many unscientific preschool education eager to let children master book knowledge and exam knowledge. This kind of "learning in advance" will bind children's imagination, suppress their nature and stifle their interest in learning. Cultivating children should focus on the long-term strategy of life. The "academic advantage" shown by children in early education classes is only short-lived, and this state will not last long. Protecting children's curiosity and interest in learning is the most precious, which is also the most precious "foundation". For young children, the growth of intelligence is carried out in games, rather than tying children to desks early against their nature.
As an independent individual, every child's family is his first and most important educational place. Parents play an irreplaceable role in the process of educating their children, and a caring mother can also become an expert in child education. This book gives many simple and practical methods, combining theory with practice perfectly. Let's be a wise mother while accompanying our children to grow up.