Sit down and talk to him with your heart. Treat each other as equals, like friends. From his point of view, listen to his troubles and thoughts. Never stand in the position of your parents and tell him the truth in a tone of command and lesson. For example.

Although my child is only over four years old, the early education teacher asked him to go home and give him a lesson some time ago. I did, but after teaching for a few days, almost a week, I couldn't teach at all, and he was very reluctant to learn. I was also anxious, so I lost my temper with him and he cried. On second thought, I thought it was my fault. It's not that he doesn't study hard, but that what I teach is too difficult for him. He can't learn, really can't learn, and he didn't learn well. Later, I apologized to him and improved the teaching method, breaking down the content into simple parts, and then gradually increasing the difficulty. In this way, he was not only willing to learn, but finally learned.

So I think children are unwilling to learn, not completely uninterested, not serious and not motivated. I think these are superficial phenomena. Interest is cultivated. You see, when you learn to skate, you are required to have a good posture and skate fast from the beginning, and you want to do your best at one breath, but the result is that you have been wrestling without progress. Will you still be willing to learn? In other words, if the teacher teaches you the basics first and lets you experience the fun brought by skating, the most important thing is to feel that you are making progress every day. Will you have a sense of accomplishment and be willing to learn? Maybe you have to say that teachers teach reading from easy to difficult, yes! But not everything is suitable for every child For other children, these contents are elementary, but not necessarily for your children. Then you must find a way to turn it into a difficulty that he can understand and accept, so that he can feel his progress bit by bit and have the confidence to learn. It doesn't matter if progress is slow, what matters is progress!

Don't just tell him that if you don't study, you won't have a good job or make money in the future, so you can only pick up garbage. Everyone knows the truth, not to mention these illusory things for children. How do you make him understand and experience them? Starting from reality, it is most practical to understand children's difficulties and help them overcome and solve them together. I hope I can help you.