I'm not talking nonsense. There are too many real cases around me. Many people are down and out because of their childhood education, and parents should bear the main responsibility. Today, combined with real cases, I tell you that the following educational methods should be avoided, otherwise children will become poorer and poorer when they grow up, and parents should wake up in time.
The following educational methods should be avoided, otherwise children will become poorer and poorer when they grow up, and parents should wake up in time.
Educational methods that lead to poverty
1 poor education: children are prone to psychological inferiority.
In the 1980s and 1990s, most people at the bottom of our country were not well off. In daily life, parents adhere to frugal quality standards, which also permeates their children's education.
"We are no better than others and have no money", "Can you compare with others? How strict their parents are, and so on, are commonplace in our time, at least I have heard of them since I was a child. This is the so-called poor education, which allows children to live in the cognition of "my family is poor" from an early age, thus avoiding spending a lot of money.
Parents have good intentions, but they never thought about what they would bring to their children.
Taking my personal experience as an example, it seems a good habit to stay away from spending money since childhood. In fact, inferiority has penetrated into the bone marrow. "I don't deserve anything good" is a truth rooted in my bones. Life is a mess when you grow up. Because the financial quotient is too low and lacks the pattern, we only look at the land in front of us.
However, how can I not lack tricks? I knew from an early age that I couldn't bring trouble to my family, I wouldn't do anything to make my parents spend money, and other children would seize the opportunity, but my first reaction was that I couldn't let my parents worry and take risks. If you can't seize the opportunity, you have no money.
② Comparative education: Look at others!
Not long ago, I saw a message on the Internet. The protagonist is a post-90s woman. In her thirties, she has no savings, but she carries card debts and online loans, so that creditors can even catch up with her home.
Later, I learned that the parties are very particular about the quality of life. She dares to buy four or five thousand bags and seven or eight thousand mobile phones. She usually has no worries about food and clothing, and these expenses have kept her living in overdraft consumption.
To outsiders, this is nothing more than a story of a material girl living beyond her means, but in my opinion, it is closely related to her parents' education. In fact, this woman has lived in comparison since she was a child, and she has lived in the comparison of her parents' "seeing others" since she was a child. She doesn't pay attention to the quality of life, but she is vain in order not to lag behind others.
Children who have lived in comparison since childhood will misjudge their economic level for material reasons, thus overdrawing their income and living a life of repaying loans. At that time, life will become more and more difficult, leaving a gorgeous robe.
3 aseptic education: I wonder if rice, oil and salt are expensive?
For parents, saving money for their children's best life has become the default unspoken rule. Parents don't seem to know how to give, but they are sorry for their children. However, I never thought that this kind of sterile room education would make children live in utopia. I don't know that life is hard. When I grow up, I don't know that rice, oil and salt are expensive. On the contrary, it is easy to become a neet.
In reality, too many young people still rely on their parents' subsidies after working for three to five years, just because they have been accustomed to a comfortable life since childhood and want to maintain their previous living standards after entering the society, but they ignore their meager wages.
How to improve children's financial quotient?
Many parents may misunderstand that if the above education methods will make children poorer and poorer, then I will soon avoid it? This is right, but avoidance does not guarantee the safety of children's future life.
Instead of prevention, it is better to do the opposite from the beginning, and directly improve the children's financial management business is the right way.
1 before the age of six, cultivate children's money concept.
Take my Lele as an example. From the age of five, I began to teach him to understand money correctly. Not only the benefits of money, but also how to save money and how to get money through normal means.
"Nothing is useless."
This is a sentence I taught Lele on his sixth birthday, just because he didn't finish the cake. Later, he gave the cake to his friends who played together, in exchange for toys that he wanted to play for a long time.
Why not buy toys? It is because Lele feels "tired after playing for a few days, there is no need."
2 Teach children the right choice
For example, between risk and safety, choose according to the child's personality. As long as parents let their children learn to make the right choices from an early age, they can avoid making the wrong choices when they grow up.
Even if parents don't know how to manage money, they should at least teach second-hand replacement and savings. People who can only save money may not become rich, but life will only get better and better, at least not poor.
It is a long process to bring a child into this world until he grows up and goes to work, which also makes his parents exhausted. A child is like a blank sheet of paper, which needs parents' heart to draw. If you are skilled and use skills, then this painting must be gorgeous and attractive.
If your painting is poor or even wrong, it must be ugly graffiti on white paper. Therefore, raising children is not that simple. In addition to hard work, you must have certain skills.
If you want your child to have a good future, parents' education methods are very important, and these "taboos" should be avoided.
Whether adopting a daughter or a son, many taboo parents may not understand. Because boys and girls are different in gender, they have different responsibilities in this society. In order to make children famous in Yu Chenglong, we must pay attention to these taboos.
First, when raising a son,
1. The son should be very poor.
In the method of adopting a daughter and a son, there has been a saying since ancient times that children are poor and daughters are rich. It makes sense for you not to say this. Let your poor son eat less and wear less, and live as a beggar every day.
I want you to tell him that men should shoulder the burden of family, and men should learn to be as independent as men and have their own careers in the future.
Don't rely too much on your mother.
Because of gender, boys should be masculine and brave, which may be very lacking for mothers. As the saying goes, strict father is a loving mother. Mother is gentle and kind. If a boy relies too much on his mother, his character will naturally tend to be feminine. Therefore, if there are boys at home, the father should shoulder the responsibility of education and make them more independent.
Second, raising a daughter should pay attention to these.
1. Let her know more about the world.
Daughter and son, that is the opposite of the concept of training. The son should be poor and the daughter should be rich. Of course, being rich doesn't mean that you can meet all her needs, nor do you indulge her blindly, but let her develop the character of a little princess, but let you take her out to see the world more and cultivate spiritual wealth.
2. Don't cultivate a little princess with bad temper and willfulness.
As a girl, you have the right to be spoiled and willful, but everything must be measured. Headstrong but not unreasonable, coquetry but not too impetuous.
A willful temper should be divided into time and occasions. With a family and a future husband, of course, a small temper will spoil the woman and increase the harmonious atmosphere of the family. However, in the face of work and society, it is best to put away this small temper, otherwise it will disgust others.
3. Girls should also be self-reliant.
As a woman, she can't be a man's accessory. Facing this woman, she can support half the society. If she is too dependent on others, she will lose herself. Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate children's self-reliance and self-improvement, so that they have the ability to break through the world on their own.
4. Parents should not have the idea of son preference.
Whether it is a daughter or a son, it is the crystallization of parents' love and the hope of this family in the future. Don't have that old idea. Don't think that your daughter will get married eventually. That's water under the bridge, so you will care less. Under the pressure of patriarchal ideology, we can see that girls will feel more and more inferior, and even their parents will let them drop out of school to help their brothers at home, which leads to a miserable life for girls.
Every parent has great expectations for their children, hoping that their children can surpass themselves, become people and become the pillars of Jackie Chan. Therefore, we must keep these precautions in mind, create a harmonious growth atmosphere for children, and let children have a bright future.