Have you ever taught your children social skills?

Researchers from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University tracked the growth of more than 700 children in the United States from kindergarten to age 25.

They found that the social skills of these respondents in kindergarten are closely related to their success as adults.

This 20-year survey shows that children with outstanding social skills can spontaneously cooperate with other children, understand others' feelings and solve problems independently. These children are more likely to enter university and find jobs before the age of 25.

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Are the expectations for children high enough?

After studying the survey data of 6,600 American children born in 200 1 year, Professor Neil Halfon of the University of California and his colleagues found that parents' expectations of their children are closely related to their grades.

Halfon said, "Parents who think that their children will have a chance to go to college in the future seem to be able to make their children achieve this goal smoothly, regardless of their parents' income and other assets. "

This is consistent with another psychoanalysis: pygmalion effect. This effect also shows that one person's expectations of another person will be realized.

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Have you received a better education?

According to a survey conducted by Sandra Tang, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, parents with high education (college graduates) are more likely to educate excellent children.

In a longitudinal study of 856 semi-agricultural people in New York State in 2009, Eric Dubo, a psychologist at Berlin Green State University, also found that when children are 8 years old, their parents' education level can predict their academic and professional achievements 40 years later.

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Can you maintain a healthy family relationship?

20 14 A survey of 243 people born in poor families shows that in the years from birth to the age of three, children who are carefully cared for not only get better grades in childhood, but also have healthier emotional relationships and better academic performance at the age of 30.

As reported on PsyBlog, caring parents can respond to the signals released by their children in time and correctly, providing a safe environment for their children to explore the world.

Li Leibi, a psychologist at the University of Minnesota who wrote the report, said in an interview, "This means that the investment in the feelings of early parents and children will have a long-term return, which will continue to accumulate throughout the individual's life."

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Is the way of thinking shaped for children correct?

Children's views on "where success comes from" also indicate their achievements.

"fixed thinking" regards our personality characteristics, intelligence and creativity as fixed, and we have no useful way to change them;

And "progressive thinking" does not regard challenges and failures as evidence that they are not smart enough, but as an inspiring springboard for growth and an opportunity to improve their existing abilities.

The core is that your view of success will affect your ability and have a great influence on your children.

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Is there a scientific early childhood education?

Many people think that "early education is preschool education", but it is not. The purpose of early education is to develop the potential and improve the comprehensive quality of expression and intelligence before children enter primary school. Broadly speaking, children aged 0-6 belong to the early education stage.

Mathematics, music and language are the key contents of early education, among which language learning is particularly important. Grasping this opportunity will get twice the result with half the effort in learning a second language represented by English.

According to the research, children should be exposed to pure English during the sensitive period of hearing (4- 12 years old) and naturally become familiar with English pronunciation, intonation and rhythm, which is what we often call "grinding ears". Doing so can not only help them speak pure and beautiful English, but also effectively improve their reading and writing skills.