(The following answer is written as "he" in reading, regardless of gender. )
Not only values, but also all the important aspects of the three views in love and marriage, and how to know and understand each other:
The concept of money includes the proportion of income control (income is willing to be given to the other party or controlled by oneself), the proportion of commitment (how much family burden is willing to bear), the proportion of consumption and storage (how much is used for consumption and how much is used for saving), and the concept of consumption (the distribution ratio of food, clothing, housing and transportation, consumption grade, etc.). ), and the desire for control (when you and the other person have different views on money, what is the proportion of TA willing to compromise). In the concept of money, most people get effective information through observation and small talk. If you don't have this observation ability, don't be in a hurry to fall in love, and try to improve your ability to recognize people.
The concept of love mainly refers to which concept of the other party is dominant under the impact of different concepts in modern society. For example, does he yearn for the love of Yang Guo's little dragon girl or Wei Xiaobao's love (one-on-one VS one-on-many)? For example, does he yearn for grandeur or plainness (for example, what makes us enjoy the prosperity of the world with grandeur in the lyrics of the princess, or tells Ah Zhu that he hopes to find a desolate place to herd horses and sheep with her all his life)? For example, does he think it's good to get together and leave, or does he choose a person to grow old together (for example, Liu Luanxiong has dated many beautiful women, or Tony Leung Ka Fai has held his precious daughter-in-law for decades)? And others, including the boundaries of the opposite sex (whether it is appropriate to date the opposite sex alone, whether it is appropriate to chat with the opposite sex late), the boundaries and tolerance of physical infidelity and emotional infidelity.
Love view is unlikely to be obtained through one-on-one communication, because everyone may hide and beautify his love view when facing the potential object with love. So I want to know each other's views on love, either through unannounced visits (online search, through his friends, etc. ) or take advantage of group occasions to see what he shows off. In short, don't try to believe what he said for the time being.
Family concept, including the boundaries of family size (do you think the scope of family includes only a family of three, one or both parents, or relatives such as uncles and aunts, or even distant relatives? The determination of family leaders (two people discuss things, or make decisions unilaterally, or listen to their parents, or refer to the opinions of relatives, etc.). ), the definition of economic chaos between families (the division of money relationship between parents, relatives and friends), the division of housework commitment (the number of housework, the important understanding of housework, the division of housework), and the division of responsibility for raising children (feeding, nursing, transportation, etc.). )
Family values are easy to understand. We can talk about me, me, my friends, my relatives, my brothers, my colleagues and other topics, and get to know each other by creating topics, which is not only an important means to understand each other, but also an important means to show our family values. Generally speaking, through statements, if the two sides have great differences, the other side will also give up communication.
Outlook on life,
World outlook, world outlook is more complicated, you can only know it through in-depth understanding, but sometimes even if you want to know, you may not know it, because not everyone has formed a world outlook, and it is impossible for a person without a world outlook to understand it. My new book "Love Investment: Learning PE/VC to Find an Object" has already written the world outlook, so I won't say much here.