There are also many reorganized families in real life, and the biggest problem that most reorganized families need to face is "children's education". As a "second father" or "second mother" in family reorganization, have you encountered various problems in the process of educating your children and stepchildren? How to be a competent parent in family reorganization? With these questions, let's listen to the educational rules of family reorganization of psychologist Liu Linxia. Stepfather vs "son"-be friends first and then educate boys. In the process of growing up, there is male chauvinism in the subconscious, there will be a little struggle between men and stepfathers, and there is always the idea of surpassing stepfathers. So parents should cultivate their children's masculinity. Even though parents may be ordinary people without money and power, they can still give their children a sense of responsibility and masculinity, and they should embody the power of example. Way to get along: Stepfathers should have skills in dealing with their sons. Don't criticize children directly and severely when they make mistakes. When children are not very familiar with stepfathers, they take care of too much. Adolescent children are rebellious and contradictory. When educating children, we should grasp the scale. Stepfathers can be friends with their sons first. When the son wins the father, he will gradually cultivate his feelings with his stepfather. When the affection between father and son sublimates to a certain extent, it will rise to the affection between father and son. Stepfather vs. "daughter"-give her more spiritual care. Girls are more sensitive and delicate than boys. For the "second-born father", the "most powerful weapon" to impress his daughter is to give the child more spiritual care. Expert opinion: Yang Xingyuan, the teaching director of Carl Baby Early Education School, said that the stepfather should have a gentle and patient heart when treating his daughter, care more about his daughter and give more care. When your daughter is in a bad mood, you can talk to her and cook a table for her to eat, so that she can feel safe and have a father. How to get along: It is suggested that the stepfather can buy some small gifts for his daughter and go out for an outing with his family. In the process of family outing, stepfather will have more opportunities to take on the heavy responsibility of the family, so that children can gradually recognize and accept stepfather's role in the family. "When communicating with your daughter, you need to pay attention to dressing not to be too exposed, try to avoid smoking and drinking in front of your daughter, and don't let your daughter cause resentment. Don't have close physical contact with your daughter, especially adolescent girls, and let your daughter feel that she is respected. " Zhou said to him. Stepmother vs "son"-love and strictness should be combined. The best way for a stepmother to close the distance with her son is to love and strictly close the distance, give her children more tolerance, and criticize and correct her mistakes at the same time. A mother should care about the details of her son's life. For example, when you get up in the morning, you can prepare clothes and warm meals for your son, so that the child can feel the existence of his mother and feel that his mother really wants to be good to him. Ways to get along: When a child makes mistakes, such as fighting and surfing the Internet, the mother can criticize the child, but when criticizing the child, she should have skills to let the child understand why she criticized him and what she did wrong, and establish the child's view of right and wrong. It is worth mentioning that when solving the contradiction with the stepson, "mistresses" should also pay attention to strategies, and don't report to the child's father at any time, so if the child's father doesn't handle it properly, it will not only help solve the problem, but also easily cause the child's hostility. Stepmother vs. "daughter"-it is relatively difficult for a stepmother to get along with her daughter. It takes a lot of time for a daughter to know herself first and make her like herself. In the daughter's heart, no one can take the place of her mother, and she also hates her stepmother for "stealing" her father. But don't be afraid, stepmother. To understand her daughter, her daughter just needs longer time to clear her mind. To treat such a daughter, the mother needs to be tolerant and generous. She can change her daughter's view of herself by chatting. In the process of chatting with your daughter, listen to her as much as possible, because girls just want to talk to others about their ideas and become the listener of their daughter, which will gradually change your position in her heart. How to get along: If you think your daughter's idea is wrong, don't point it out directly. You can gently make your daughter realize her mistake, or ask her what she thinks of this problem. The attitude towards children should be the same before and after divorce. Many parents always feel indebted to their children after divorce. In order to make up for their children, they have given them too much spiritual and material comfort. However, parents often don't realize that doing so will often be counterproductive, which will make children embark on a deformed road and make them anxious and irritable. The better parents treat their children, the more they feel right. Parents owe their children after divorce. When children enter society and find that people in society don't take care of them like their parents, then children will hate society. The attitude towards children after divorce is the same as before marriage, and a bowl of water is flat, as always. Click here to enter >>