EQ, as an important psychological quality and success factor, has been widely recognized by the society and even extended to the field of early education. There is no obvious innate difference in EQ between people, but it is closely related to the cultivation of acquired. To choose the right emotional intelligence education for children, experts remind parents to be alert to the following three misunderstandings.
EQ, as an important psychological quality and success factor, has been widely recognized by the society and even extended to the field of early education. Parents in China are eager to cultivate their children's emotional intelligence, but they don't know how to educate their children, so it is easy to fall into the advertising trap of merchants.
In order to choose the right emotional intelligence education for children, experts remind parents to be alert to the following misunderstandings:
1. First of all, EQ education and IQ education are closely integrated and indispensable.
If IQ mainly reflects people's cognitive ability, thinking ability, language ability, observation ability, calculation ability, rhythm ability and so on. Then emotional intelligence mainly reflects a person's ability to feel, understand, use, express, control and adjust his emotions, as well as his ability to deal with emotional relationships with others.
IQ and EQ are closely combined, which together constitute the cornerstone of children's happy growth and future success. Only when the baby has the ability of language, thinking and basic relationship cognition can he better cultivate interpersonal skills in peer communication and learn to recognize the emotions of himself and others. It is fallacious not to talk about IQ or EQ, especially in the early education stage, we should pay more attention to comprehensive training and never go from the extreme of IQ education to the extreme of EQ education.
2. Secondly, EQ education should stay away from pure behavior imitation and let children experience and improve in real life.
Because children aged 0-6 are still in the stage of continuous development in language, thinking and social cognition, it is difficult to build a consistent relationship between psychology and behavior. Simple EQ training system can easily make children fall into behavioral imitation and habitual reaction, without psychological identity.
For example, a 2-year-old baby learns to "share" in an EQ class. He sent cakes to other children under the guidance of teachers and parents, but she didn't understand why she couldn't communicate with other children in language. So "sharing" is a concrete behavior for him, not her heartfelt sense of joy and identity. Emotional intelligence education should fully respect children's autonomy, combine with language and thinking courses, and never fall into indoctrination.
3. Finally, the best age for EQ education is 4-6 years old. The main content of EQ education is emotion and emotion.
Whether it is the feeling, expression and adjustment of self-emotion, or the maintenance of emotional relationship between oneself and others, children need to have certain language ability, thinking ability and social relationship cognition.
Babies can't skillfully express their thoughts and feelings in words, how to adjust their emotions. In the end, self-confidence and happiness can only become superficial and become pure behavioral imitation. Children aged 0-3 need comprehensive training in music, language, thinking and other aspects to promote physical and mental health and all-round intellectual development.
When the baby has certain language, thinking and social cognitive ability, it is usually 4-6 years old. Only through appropriate EQ courses can we guide the baby to correctly understand emotions, manage emotions, motivate himself and solve practical problems by social means.
Important information of emotional intelligence
In a sense, EQ is even more important than IQ. With the increasing diversification and integration of the future society, a higher EQ will help a person to succeed. Parents pay too much attention to the development of children's IQ, but ignore the development of children's EQ. In fact, early EQ education is particularly important, which is a kind of psychological shaping. If the child is withdrawn from childhood, it is difficult to cooperate; Inferiority, vulnerability, impatience, stubbornness, conceit and emotional instability, then his IQ is no matter how high, it is difficult to succeed. Emotional intelligence should be cultivated from an early age. On the contrary, children with high EQ will have good self-awareness, actively explore, build self-confidence from exploration, control their emotions, resist setbacks, like to associate with people, and be willing to share and cooperate, so as to prepare for future success. The development of infant's early EQ is closely related to the parenting style, and the parenting style is related to how parents correctly identify their own temperament. Only by correctly establishing parent-child attachment relationship can we correctly identify children's own temperament.
The formation process of emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence Emotional intelligence is formed in infancy, childhood and adolescence, and it is mainly cultivated in interpersonal communication the day after tomorrow. Adolescence is a person's golden age, because it is a transitional period for a person to reach adulthood. In this period, its learning and development tasks are very important. However, middle school students are facing great changes in physiology and psychology, as well as great academic pressure, which will cause psychological imbalance and complex psychological contradictions of modern middle school students, and even produce various adverse consequences. A survey report in 22 cities shows that, in fact, 0/5%-20% middle school students in China have various psychological problems, such as parent-child conflict, tense partnership, weariness and learning difficulties, and exam anxiety. Most of these problems are related to students' self-control ability, and most of them stem from all kinds of irrational emotions that often gush out from their hearts. The quickest and most effective way to improve EQ is psychological training.