If you feel hard, you can choose to give up

If it suits you, you can choose to continue.

One of the benefits of having a second child is:

Let the first child not be lonely. Especially for some parents of the only child born in 1980s, as an only child, they always feel lonely, happy and sad, and no one to share. It's not funny at all, and there are people who envy others having brothers and sisters. Therefore, it is better for children to have a companion than to be alone. In the future, when they grow up, they can also help each other, visit relatives more and walk more.

Benefits of having a second child:

Let parents feel a little dependent when they are old. If you only have one child, you will go out to school and work in the future. Maybe you will settle in other places, with your parents at home and no life at home. It looks so gloomy. If you have another child, you may always have a child with you. If you are old, you won't feel so lost and lonely. There are children around, tea and water, colds and illnesses, and personal care and help.

Three benefits of having a second child:

Let the mind feel more complete. Some families, if they have a daughter, may want to have another boy to make a good word. Although it is the same for boys and girls, some rural areas, especially some elderly people, prefer grandchildren, which may put some pressure on their daughter-in-law to have a second child. In this way, if a boy happens to be born, the family will feel very proud and complete. It is said that there are more boys than girls now. I don't know if it's this data.

One of the disadvantages of having a second child is:

The family burden is heavier. From birth to college, it costs money, and it costs a lot of money. You have to buy milk powder. There are also early education classes, training classes and the like, and it is estimated that there is also a lot of money, as well as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Maybe I was going to save some money for other things and take it out to raise children. After giving birth to a second child, it is estimated that mothers will not be so unscrupulous in buying cosmetics and clothes as before.

Disadvantages of having a second child:

Pay more time and energy. I saw the mother who gave birth to a second child in the community, especially the child is still relatively young. If the old man can't help, the husband will have to go to work to support his family, take care of the study life of the older child and take care of the children. I am too busy to comb my hair every day, let alone have my own rest time. I wait on my children 24 hours a day, so I can't sleep well if I don't have enough to eat. How worried about the children.

Three disadvantages of having a second child:

Affect family living standards and quality of life. Originally, the family planned to take some money to travel, but later with a second child, it was impossible to go out. The burden of living has increased, and working parents should work harder to earn money to support their families. It is said that there is a boss who runs a small supermarket nearby. The first child gave birth to a son and wanted another daughter. Who knows, he gave birth to a pair of twin sons. As a result, the mother of the child felt that the pressure of life was too great and chose to divorce. However, this is a minority after all.

Having said that, in fact, as young parents, everyone's family situation may be different, and having a second child does have advantages and disadvantages. If the elderly on both sides have more spare time to help with the children and the family conditions are not bad, they can also choose a second child. As long as you think you can, you need to think it over and make a serious decision. Everyone has a different concept of happiness. One-child families also have many happy families! Of course, I have also seen many happy families who gave birth to a second child!