Emotional intelligence refers to non-intellectual factors, which is often referred to as psychological quality. If a person is withdrawn, eccentric and difficult to cooperate, even if the IQ is higher, it is difficult to achieve something, so EQ is the key to a person's success.
Psychologists believe that people with high emotional intelligence have the following characteristics: strong social skills, outgoing happiness, not easy to fall into fear or sadness, more devotion to their careers, honesty and compassion, rich emotional life without crossing the line, and peace of mind when they are alone or with many people. Experts also believe that whether a person has high emotional intelligence is closely related to the education and training he received as a child. Therefore, the cultivation of emotional intelligence should start from an early age.
So how to cultivate children's emotional intelligence from an early age?
Under the pressure of exam-oriented education, parents always spend a lot of time, energy and money to invest in their children's education, but the results often fail to achieve the expected results, leading to children's weariness of learning, poor independence in learning and willfulness and selfishness. In recent years, the incidents of students leaving home and committing suicide because of academic pressure and communication problems with their parents have frequently flooded people's eyes. Yao Jiaxin's case and Ma Jiajue's case hurt people's hearts.
Psychologists say that it is more important for children to learn to be human than to learn to learn. However, many parents only pay attention to the cultivation of children's intelligence and neglect the cultivation of emotional intelligence, resulting in more and more children with low emotional intelligence. In fact, as early as many years ago, the famous British educator Spencer said that the cultivation of children's healthy personality is a very important part of parents' tutoring. In a sense, it is much more important than the education of children's intelligence. ?
1, EQ affects children's learning.
We have noticed that many children with excellent academic performance are not super smart, but because of their high emotional intelligence. Most of these children have a strong sense of responsibility and take learning seriously as their own career; Have a strong self-motivation, and take learning as a fun thing to do; Have good behavior habits and study habits, basically do not need parents to remind and urge.
However, some children are very smart, but their academic performance is average, even in a backward state. The reason is that they lack good study habits and regard study as a heavy burden and a painful thing to cope with passively. On the surface, this is a learning problem, but in fact it is rooted in the lack of emotional intelligence and healthy personality.
As we all know, there are many factors that affect academic performance, and intelligence is only a small part of them. The purpose of learning knowledge and developing ability is to make children grow up better. Academic performance can only partially explain children's learning at a certain stage, and will not fundamentally affect their future.
When I understand this, I won't stare at the exam results and force my children to study. I will pay attention to the comprehensive and coordinated development of children's whole body and mind, and pay attention to the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence. When children know how to take responsibility for themselves, they will form clear goals and generate endless motivation.
2. EQ determines whether a child can become a success.
Maybe some parents and friends will ask: Are the children with excellent academic performance admitted to famous universities high in EQ? Not necessarily. There are indeed many people admitted to famous universities with low emotional intelligence and unsound personality. As we mentioned earlier, Ma Jiajue, Liu Haiyang, etc.
People with high emotional intelligence and sound personality, even with average intelligence, will not achieve much and make great contributions to society, but they will never harm the interests of others and society. On the contrary, if a person's intelligence is extraordinary, but his emotional intelligence is low and his personality is lacking, it is difficult to get along with others and it is easy to do things that hurt others or even harm society.
Some people may think that this is an example after all and cannot represent the majority. But there are many facts in life that prove how important EQ is to a person.