1. At present, teachers' morality and style are not optimistic. The low quality of teachers and their irresponsibility to students are the main aspects of the contradiction between teachers and students, so it is necessary to strengthen the construction of teachers' morality and style. 2. At present, teachers' teaching autonomy is strict with students' management and requirements, which will not only make students grateful, but will lead to students' resentment and parents' accusations, so that students' behavior is indulged, lawless and there is no minimum respect for teachers. 3. The current exam-oriented education system pays attention to knowledge education, ignoring students' mental health education and life education, which leads to students' imperfect personality and not cherishing life. 4. Instrumental rationality has become a common practice in education. Teachers regard teaching as a tool for survival, while students regard receiving education as a tool for participating in social competition. The relationship between teachers and students is only the relationship between money and interests, not the traditional mentoring relationship. The teacher-student relationship of "being a teacher and being a father" is gone.

way

(1) Listen attentively: don't interrupt the other party, don't dodge your eyes, and listen attentively; Communication ability

(2) Speak out bravely: speak frankly about your inner feelings, thoughts and expectations; (3) Don't say bad words: bad words hurt people, as the saying goes, "disaster comes from the mouth"; (4) it's not about people; (5) Rational communication, avoiding communication when emotional; (6) Dare to admit mistakes and take responsibility; (7) Be patient and wise; (8) learn to refuse; Communication needs to pay attention to the following points: when communicating with others, we need to pay attention to the following questions: 1 communication purpose: every communication will have a purpose or goal, that is, what we want to achieve or achieve through this communication, and everything else is for this purpose. In communication, we must always check whether it meets this purpose. 2 communication subject: when distinguishing communication topics, we should not only pay attention to the identity of both parties, but also consider who is the initiator of this communication. Generally speaking, communication should always realize the transmission of information, and the person who wants to transmit information to the other party should be responsible for keeping communication in the right channel and avoiding deviation. 3 communication media: the communication media mentioned here, in addition to choosing the most appropriate communication methods, such as telephone calls and interviews. , mainly refers to what media, such as pictures and words, and what methods, such as introduction and demonstration. 4 communication language: language is undoubtedly the most important. Besides avoiding using dialects, we should also pay attention to using words that both sides understand. When you have professional vocabulary, you must use professional vocabulary, but pay attention to the other party's reaction and explain it in time.